So you don't want me to have an abortion, I get that...?

Question

Would you be willing to pay my medical bills and take the child and raise it for me?

I'm not pregnant, it's a hypothetical question.

And I don't mean adoption, at least not the legal system adoption. Adoption does not pay the medical bills and it's a long and expensive process.

Answer 1

I don't see how adoption is a valid answer to this. There are hundreds of thousands of unadopted children in the world.

Answer 2

I'm a Christian but I am also a man. I believe it is easier for a man to chastise a woman for considering an abortion since men don't actually "carry" the child. I also understand the mindset of a person who is not looking to become a parent but in the heat of passion a child is conceived.
The reality is that many folks are pursuing pleasure through sex. Sex is a powerful motivator and can easily cause us to act without thinking things through. Becoming a parent against your will can cause panic and make a person react in a selfish way. This is not an indictment it's just human nature.
The problem is that it is not fair to yourself and definitely not the child.
Also most women who abort their first child usually winds up pregnant again within two years. It's hard to be objective about being a parent when you are in panic and denial. The sad part is that being a parent can be very rewarding and even a blessing in the long run. What is needed is the "right" conditions for the blessing and that is what the Lord strives to introduce into our lives.

Answer 3

What has happened to our society that questions like this should be asked? These are considerations that you should be asking yourself before you make a number of choices which lead to pregnancy: To go home with a man, to get physically involved with him, to let him between your legs, to fail to use preventative birth control. . . . Where does your string of bad choices end?

Yes, I know, what about rape or incest? Can anyone tell me that these cases are more than a tiny percentage of the abortions that are being performed?

I think society has a responsibility to step in at some point and say "No, you are not going to kill your baby because it's an inconvenience to you." I also don't think society should foot the bill for medical and child rearing. This "choice" you want to have is already available to you long before you conceive.

Save the baby humans. . .

Answer 4

I have actually taken a young pregnant girl into my home, and paid not only for her medical bills, but gave her a home, and helped her get through some very difficult times.
Originally, the "plan" was that she was going to put her child up for adoption...I was also the "liaison" between her and two couples who she was considering (I was a legal assistant at the time).
In the end, though, she decided that she loved her little boy, and she wanted to keep him.
The end of the story is that she is an excellent mother...she will tell you in a heartbeat that her son is the greatest joy in her life, and was worth everything she went through to have him. He is 12 now, and a beautiful young man. His Mom did find a fine man who adopted her boy as his own son, and they now have two more children, living happily in Houston, Texas.
This is one success story that I am very proud of, that proves conclusively that these helpless little ones ARE worth every iota of energy I have spent trying to save their lives.

Answer 5

That is called adoption, and there are plenty of agencies that will do just that. Find a crisis pregnancy center in the community where you live and talk to them and they will help you work that out.
That's what loving birth moms used to do all the time before abortion became legal. It is the most generous, unselfish choice you could possibly make if you are not able to pay for or take care of a baby at this point in your life. The link below appears to have a search engine to help you locate a center in your area. Please consider going and talking to them with an open mind and I'm sure they will be able to help you.

Answer 6

In a heartbeat. Yes, I would.

But are you telling me that you'd then be willing to gestate for nine months, gain all that weight, go through labor and delivery (which is not exactly a walk in the park), deal with all the postpartum physical changes ... if it's just a matter of someone paying the bills? You'd do all of that for the sake of a child you'll likely never see again?

Or is this just an empty argument?

You'd find no shortage of people willing to adopt a baby. It's a matter of supply and demand ... and thanks to "choice", demand is not the problem.

Answer 7

Well, I'm pro-choice. It's your body. But I don't think you can comprehend the pain and psychological trauma that will follow an abortion if you do have one. So I would caution you for YOUR sake, not for any stupid belief I have. Consider yourself. Be selfish. It might hurt more later emotionally, than it would physically AND emotionally to have the baby and put him or her up for adoption.

I feel so much empathy for you! But please take time, this is a big deal and a potential life you are dealing with that you might just miss once "it" is gone.

Answer 8

Absolutely!

Call 1-888-4-HOPE-4-1.

Answer 9

I most certainly would... I'm pro-choice, you can do whatever you'd like. But I'd LOVE to have a second child in this house. It hasn't happened, I'm over 40 and adoption is our only option. So yes, most assuredly!

Answer 10

Yes, my husband and I are ready to adopt. Send me an email if you are serious. Please let me know in the email what state you are in so we can research Family law in that state concerning adoption. We are in California.

I would like to add that I am 28, my husband is the same age but we are infertile so you would be giving us a family that we cannot have on our own. We have no children yet but we do plan to adopt more than just one.

Answer 11

no, not even adoption covers medical bills. That's very expensive.