i am an mma fighter and am in great shape. my girlfriend who i have been with for 2 yrs is getting overweight. i love her and will still stay with her no matter what but she needs to work out. i try to have her work out with me but all she does is sleep in every day. when i first started seeing her she was thin as ever. i think she is just very comfortable with me, she doesnt have to worry about work or money cause i take care of her. everything is just better when we were both thin, sex, pictures, etc...what can i do that doesnt hurt her feelings? by the way she has never had a kid if thats what you are thinking.
2007-10-24 17:22:21 · 75 answers · asked by pitmonster 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well , same thing with me in the sense that you will love your significant other no matter what. but going into your question, id say its helpfull if you think of it as a fun or romantic way to do something. what i mean is that you should do something fun that you lose weight in the process but you do it for fun and not losing weight. For example, u could say hey lets go job or play some sports! or volleyball or whatever sport she is into , maybe sh e played a sport in highschool? just try to get her active but in a romantic way for both of you to spend time together too.
2007-10-24 17:27:39 · answer #1 · answered by Keleent 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try the other approaches- they might work. (Comment: Honesty is best. If you feel she's more attractive thinner, let her know, though be considerate.)
The other thing is for you to accept her or not. I can't make this choice for you. For photo purposes, too-skinny, undernourished girls look better. For physical romance, I like girls with a bit of comfort on them. For dancing and most activities, obese is just not easy. But I'm not you, so I can't say what is best for you.
She might be terminally lazy, without ambition, and/or exceedingly comfortable that you're her security blanket. I suspect you've already mentioned her body to her; if she's not going along, then she probably won't change. Seems as though with you to support her, she doesn't need to do anything.
If you think her health is at risk, that's bad. If you continue to support her while she continues to gain weight, then you're her enabler, also.
We'll do what we can for you here, but you might do best by finding a couples counselor where you can talk about how you feel towards her becoming chubbier and she can talk about how she feels being chubbier. I think you've got a point but she's involved, too, and no one should forget that she has to live with the body she's wearing.
2007-10-24 17:34:38 · answer #2 · answered by going_for_baroque 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first look at why is she sleeping in?? maybe not working atleast partime is not good for her. some people need to work for the socializing and just being in control of themselves and a part of society. She might be slightlly depressed and gaining weight is gonna make her more depressed.
she still needs to feel loved ! more than ever or she will get fatter!
take long walks on the beach (exercise and romantic)
go to the zoo and walk around and look at the animals.
an Aqaurium . Walk your neighbors dog for them lol. not just exercise but activities that are fun that you don't really feel like your exercising. Once she loses a little weight she will be gassed to keep on going and then really start losing weight.
Get her up and out the house !!!! STAT!~
2007-10-24 17:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by laooh21 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the people who said "you can't MAKE her do anything". I'm not saying, how dare you suggest she lose weight! I don't know the girl. Maybe she does need to lose weight. But if it's not a priority to her and it is to you (which seems to be the case) you're in for some trouble. You need to have a discussion about what's important to you, whether it's about her losing weight or whatever.
2007-10-24 17:53:46 · answer #4 · answered by fawnberrie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats not really fair... it's hard for girls to lose weight, and no matter what shes going to get the hint. The only reason you should encourage weigh loss is if it's a health risk, otherwise she could develop an eating disorder.
2007-10-24 17:28:17 · answer #5 · answered by notsomuch_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only weight you can MAKE your girlfriend lose is you. Maybe u need to encourage her to get out more rather than sitting home waiting for you to show up. Good thing you "take care of her". I am sure she is taking care of you too and it's not just one sided.
2007-10-24 17:28:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do not tell her she is gaining weight. Start asking her to do things with you. See if she would be willing to get a part time job doing something she loves. Just try to get her to do more things with you. The more she does the more her energy levels will rise. Unless she is pregnant. I was constantly tired when I got pregnant.
2007-10-24 17:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by Kima 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I think you should probably tell her how much fun it would be to go for walks together, buy healthy snacks and cook healthy for her. I am sure it is not easy to tell some one that u want them to lose the weight but start out like that and see what happens, If she loves u and most importantlyu loves her self, she will go for it. good luck!
2007-10-24 17:33:40 · answer #8 · answered by kurchick6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt straight up tell her you think she is putting on to much weight but I would maybe buy some energy drinks, vitamins, and stay busy all the time to keep her active. Ask her to go for a walk with you or something.....Hope this helps you out!!
2007-10-24 17:29:50 · answer #9 · answered by country gurl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO, I wasn't thinking she had a baby and that's why she gained weight.
I was thinking that she's probably happy and comfortable with her life with you and she gained some weight.
Too bad you aren't as comfortable with her.
Otherwise you'd feel "comfortable" enough to tell her how you feel.
2007-10-24 17:44:09 · answer #10 · answered by ANewLife 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋