my bf and i have been together for about a year and jsut the other day i found a bag of condoms on the side of his bed even thogh we dont use them..he and i havent kicked it for already 5 saturdays. well last saturday his phone was off all day. he didnt pick up the home phone. he lives real close to me and i walked by and the lights were off but the tv was on....i called him the next day and his phone was still off. i call the house and he picks up being all sweet to me like nothing happend...he said he was home....then why did he charge his phone?why didnt he pick up the homephone? i dunno i talked to him the next day and he still didnt want to c me even tho he always does...on monday he says hes been cheated on and will never do it to me...help me please...he thinks im stupid!!!
2007-10-24 16:57:55 · 19 answers · asked by lovebug 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is cheating, and if he is miss understanding, it is the other "miss" he is understanding. Someone rang his bell and he answered before you called. One does not neglect to answer the phone when the call is from the one he is faithful to. Condoms don't drop out of the thin air onto the nightstand of someone who never used them before. You had better make sure he always uses them from now on, if you choose to allow him to touch you again (which I would not personally do). Yes, he does think you are stupid if he told you he would never cheat and you find condoms that he doesn't use with you, in his house.
2007-10-24 17:10:09 · answer #1 · answered by Princess Picalilly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, it doesn't sound good. I know what I would think if it were me in your place. IF he was home, TV on, not picking up the phone? There was a reason for that. I'd tell him if he didn't want to be cheated on, what makes him think you wouldn't fell the same way. Ask him why he is giving you reasons to be thinking he is not being honest w/you. Just too bad you didn't stop by & knock on his door after he didn't ans. the phone. I know for sure that's what I wuld. have done. IF he were cheating, I would have caught him rite in the act! IF you want, you could set it up to do just that. IF this ever happens again, I'd be rite at his door pushing my way in having a good look for myself. Seeing is believing & there wuld. be NO getting out of that one. You deserve respect, you should get respect. If he's not giving it to you, you surely do not need him. There are others out there who would treat you as you should be treated. What was the excuse for the condoms?! I'm sorry, but I don't feel he's being honest w/you. You deserve better, you deserve an HONEST explination. The best to you...Stand up for yourself!
2007-10-25 00:16:03 · answer #2 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It looks like he might be. Guys are really bad liars (even though they like to think they are good at it!) and oftentimes they deal with deception by avoiding their gfs/wives. Changes in behavior (not calling when he usually does, unexplicably disappearing, changes in his appearance, especially what you mentioned about the presence of the condoms when you know you guys don't use them) are really good signs that a guy is being unfaithful.
Call him out on it. Don't attack; men don't respond well to that. Try to keep your cool and approach him in a manner that seems almost detached. If he avoids eye contact, fidgets or gives you any other "tells," he's lying. Get rid of him.
Hope that helps.
2007-10-25 00:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by scintillantone14 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry, but I do think he's cheating. The condoms alone are a HUGE sign. The other stuff is just more evidence. He's not going to admit it. You're going to have to decide if you want to believe his lie and hope he stops... or dump him and move on.
I hope you believe in yourself enough to choose the second answer. Being alone is so much better than being treated badly.
Good luck.
2007-10-25 00:08:31 · answer #4 · answered by Kim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he didn't pick up his phone all day, something is up...
go with your gut feeling girl, if he hasn't been hanging with you for 5 saturdays, something isn't right. A guy will do anything to be with his girl. But you need to back off, if you are too available, the chase is off, and he loses interest.
if he doesn't want to see you, there is a reason. take the hint and move on, it won't be easy, but you need to stand up for yourself girl!
2007-10-25 00:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by just me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well sometimes when you spend to much time together with your significant other, they need time to spend alone..possibly with there friends or just by themselves..but that in a way sounds kind of weird, but..you wont know unless you call him on it..because my fiance says the same thing but we live together so its fine except i feel like when his phone rings its another girl...[[ his ex in particular]]..try to catch him in the act..
2007-10-25 00:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is cheating. The weird behavior. The suddenly appearing condoms when he aint getting any from you.
If this isn't cheating, then I don't know what is.
2007-10-25 00:06:19 · answer #7 · answered by The Hard Truth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
drop him, it seems like he isnt as connected to you as before.
"on monday he says hes been cheated on...?" what does that mean? and that he will never do it to you? so he cheated on you? or what?
either way, if he thinks your naive about what hes doing, drop him. you dont need a cheating boyfriend
2007-10-25 00:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by marshmellows 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you ask him about the condoms? It all sounds pretty suspicious to me. Trust your instincts, because I think something isn't right.
2007-10-25 00:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by Tia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girlfriend...sounds like to me he is playing games...I'd kick his *** to the curb and I wouldn't chase him around trying to figure out which game he's playing...if he wants to be with you he would be calling on you and answering your calls... he did before right? Forget about what he "says" and look at what he does
2007-10-25 00:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by only1sol2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋