Should a toddler girl EVER be left alone with an adult male.?

Question

weather or not you trust them, do you think it's better to never put the child OR the adult inthe position for something questionable to happen?

Yep liz... excluding her father.

I know people (including myself) who were abused by a male who their parents trusted to never do anything. Isn't it better to give up the night out for the dafety of your daughter. If anything to prevent the apperience questionable activity.

WOW most of you must not be mothers of your willing to "test the waters" with your children.. I wouldn't leave my children with ANYONE questionable, (actually they are only alone with my husband and myself) and if I do have him mom watch them it's when others are there.

I'd rather be called paranoid then being that chick on TV explaining that she "trusted him" and "never saw this coming"

Answer 1

i think no you should not do that ever it just leave room for stupid things tohappen that know one ever saw coming or ever thought possible.........good qustion kudos to you

Answer 2

By the same token should we not allow young boys to be watched by adult females? You are making a blanket statement that you believe most adult males to be sick individuals that want to hurt little children, and in the process making yourself look very foolish, and bigoted against males.

Yes, bad things happen for no logical reason to small children from very sick men (and even women), but this is by no means the fault of any parent, they are often just as shocked as anyone else is if abuse is discovered. You can't actually think that by sitting here and accusing people of being bad parents that your statement is actually in any way founded...do you?

Do you feel better and justified in calling people bad parents because they disagree with your blind accusation? Do you feel like such a bad parent that you would make such a statement JUST to be able to call other people bad parents because they don't agree with you?

Child abuse/molestation is a very serious issue, but by coming on to a forum and saying that leaving a child alone with a male adult is just putting them in the position for something to happen is the most, aggravating and irritating statement I have ever seen on here, and by some accounts, you demean any parent that may have had a child abused by claiming it's their fault and they are taking a gamble. Shame on you.

Answer 3

My husband is a lawyer. He sees more cases of sex abuse than anyone would ever want to know about. This is really sad, but in 90 percent of the cases the abuser is a close family member. I'm talking father, cousin, uncle etc. Boyfriends and stepfathers a lot too. A female's chance of being sexually abused at some time in her life are 1 in 3. I always thought that was too high, but listening to his stories I now know better. Most males are NOT perverts, but unfortunately the ones that are don't wear a big "pervert" sign on their foreheads. Nor do they all have horns and monkey tails. You just never know. Females can be sex abusers too, but it's more than 99% less likely.

Answer 4

Well I was abused by an uncle as a child. which I really wasn't ever alone in the housewith him things happen at other times. Like at night when everyone is asleep. My uncle aside from the obvious problems he had, had many more and my parents shouldn't have let me stay with him at my grandmothers.

I tend to keep a close eye on my daughter, but my brother and father watch her for me soemtimes, they have been around her since birth and I would trust them with her life. Other men , not I don't leave her with. BUt she has been taught from 2 years old on (she will be 9 in nov) that if anyone touches her bathing suit area or makes her touch or look at thiers she is to tell mommy.

Answer 5

I think that is a little paranoid. Yes, I am overprotective of my babies too, but you cannot hover over them forever. And where is the line? Do you sleep in their room in case someone breaks in at night? Do you let her use a public bathroom or dressing room, even if there might be hidden cameras or perverts there? If you are associating with people that you cannot trust with your daughter, then YOU have to make some changes in your life. But if you have friends and family that have given you no reason not to trust them, what is the issue? What is the difference between a babysitter and a friend? I don't understand...

Answer 6

I know what you mean. I understand. I had this happen when I was a kid by two different men. But I also had it happen by a female. I think it is best to be with your child all the time unless she's with her dad or grandparents until she is old enough to know what's going on and she is able to tell you if anything happens. Someday, she will have to be with other adults but for now if you can be with her at all times and not have to leave her with a babysitter besides her grandparents that's what I would do.

Answer 7

Why not if you trust him ? I think you are referring to sexual abuse - in such cases one has to take a conscious call based on how much do you know about that man and how much you trust him. Avoiding it is best but doesn't work at all times. If leaving the toddler with that particular person is going to be a regular affair other means of hidden cameras can be resorted to, better yet go for preschools

Answer 8

GEEZUS! If there is even the slightest question in your mind, DO NOT LEAVE HER WITH HIM!!!!!

On the other hand, why would you be thinking about leaving her with someone who raises this question in your mind? Normal, respectable men should not elicit these types of concerns!

You say that you don't want to put the child or adult in the position of anything questionable to happen... HELLO, if he is a normal, respectable guy, there is nothing on earth that would make him want to molest a toddler!!!!!

Please, tell me that this is not your boyfriend! If this is someone you do not know intimately and at least for several years, do not even think about it!!!

Answer 9

Are you kidding?!??? Why on earth would you assume that just because a person is male they would do anything to harm a toddler girl... Honestly, it doesn't matter what sex the person is if you don't trust the person or you get a bad vibe from them don't leave your kid with them... If you trust them go for it!

Just as an FYI there was recently a child drowned in a bathtub by his grand MOTHER not father! Bad things happen to children because there are crazy, insane and evil PEOPLE in the world not because there are men in it!

Answer 10

What? Unless the guy's a pedophile, then why not?

Little girls would never be left alone with their fathers...and what would I do as the stay at home mother of two (soon to be three) boys? Get a chaperone?

Something horrible must have happened to you or someone you know to be this scared of something that you really don't need to.

And here's a newsflash...a male pedophile won't necessarily victimize only girls...ask the altar boys who were molested by their priests. They're sick. Pedophiles victimize children, not just the opposite sex. It's about power.

Answer 11

Keep in mind that there are FEMALE pedophiles as well. Not all males are pedophiles. The bottom line is you need to know the person and trust them. If you EVER suspect that they are a pedophile or "something is off" then you NEVER leave your child in that position. It's not a matter of gender.