Alrigh here's the scoop, I didn't have much of a life growing up and was horrible in school and nobody could figure out why, so i'm not a very smart guy but I know how to treat a woman like a queen, also at age 29 i'm suffering from memory loss and docs cant figure out why, my gf hates it and cant stand my stupidity when most of the time I only mean well in what I do and others i'm just dumb and don't know. I never get a i'm sorry, how was your day, hi when I get home, excuse me etc. I feel like a ghost in the house, what should I do?
2007-10-24 16:52:08 · 20 answers · asked by tuff5469 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Awww, you poor thing. When you are too nice, regardless of intelligence, people will take advantage & walk all over you. If you start standing up for yourself & voicing your opinion...maybe tell people you are ill and they need to learn how to cope with that just as you are.
They need to be COMPASSIONATE & understanding if they really care for you.
If not, then that is your answer...they are selfish and don't care.
Find new people who are tolerant and loving.
As for your school problems, is it possible you had ADD? That usually follows you into adulthood & could be why your memory is not very good.
2007-10-24 17:00:05 · answer #1 · answered by Raniqueen1 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't beat your self up so hard, so you have a small problem. It could happen to any one, you are not stupid, don't ever say that. You expresed yourself here very well and I understan you perfectly well. The stupid and ignorants are the ones who don't take the time to understand you or figure you out. You are so smart, you mention here that you know how to treat a woman like a queen, how adorable!. Your gf need to be more understanding and help you out with lots of sweet love and attention. Don't feel like a ghost, that is not cool, feel like the most important person in the world, feel like the wonderful person that you are always. Choose happyness and think positive all the times, you deserve it. here is a star to give you a bright and sunny day!!! Smile!!!!!, you are beautiful..
2007-10-25 00:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by Esther 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I'm reading you right, you're still living at home with your parents, and not getting a lot of recognition. You haven't been real successful in your relationship, and seem to lack a lot of self-confidence, although you are a well-meaning person. What you need to do is let that real person who is you, come out of hiding, and quit making apologies for yourself. You're as good as, or maybe even better, than anyone else. As soon as you start believing in yourself, you'll notice a change in the other people in your life. They will look at you with new respect and admiration. So start concentrating on your good points instead of criticizing yourself. Make folks notice you -- come out of that shell! I know you can do it. I have faith in you. Good luck!
2007-10-25 00:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by gldjns 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the distinct feeling you're not a dummy at all. I think you're hiding from yourself and the world. What I think you should do is contact a psychologist or psychiatrist ASAP and begin to unravel what's been going on for all these years. It's no wonder you didn't do well in school if you "didn't have much of a life growing up." It's no wonder that you're not doing well in general either. Make an appointment to see someone...at 29, your life depends on it.
2007-10-24 23:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by Chris B 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should try and explain how you feel to your girlfriend. Maybe she is finding the whole process stressful because she cant help you or the difficulties of her adapting to your memory loss. If she really loves you, she will appreciate hearing your feelings and will want to work with you to make it better. If she isn't interested in your feelings or your point of view, move on. There are so many more fish in the sea that for someone like you who cares about women to be wasting your time on.
2007-10-24 23:56:20 · answer #5 · answered by TK421 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yo man the truth hurts dude, sometimes nobody can handle the truth but whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger right? Read this - Your girl doesn't talk to you because of your memory loss or can't stand the stupidity. Your girl doesn't care for you man, cannot understand your situation. I think im the same as you, i sniffed sharpies when i was a little kid. I hear that sharpies
kills brain cells. Move on in life man, try readin books, chess, brain food or talk to your doc GOOD LUCK
2007-10-25 00:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by johnnyxmoses 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Move on. I have a terrible short term memory, myself (too many beatings from my drunk dad, and two car crashes later). You do not deserve to be treated with any less dignity than the next person. I always say "If you cannot treat me well, you cannot treat me at all!" Then I go about my business, (what of it I can remember).
EDIT: Do yourself a huge favor, and get this straight before you get my age, 45! Life is too darned short to live in hell on earth!
2007-10-25 00:00:38 · answer #7 · answered by Edward B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on an find someone more supportive of you not like this person is being with you. You are not DUMB but probably sick at the moment and just need time to get through this. I think wasting your school life was not smart but you can pick up and go to a local tafe/college and try to turn your life around, you just need the will and motivation to do it and show everyone who doubted you just how smart you can be!! good luck
2007-10-24 23:55:41 · answer #8 · answered by Me, myself and I 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Oh..Oh..I feel for you man, in fact I sumpathize and empathize you both,,,your honesty about your situation is highly requested now, tell her what is happening to you, and if she can accept you then it's great..the she is a very king gf...what u need now is a person will full understanding and big-heart...meanwhile chek closer with the octor, maybe there are some meds and labtests to help you with your predicament...dont despair, I know there will be one there who will understand and love you for what you are...and who you are!!!
2007-10-25 01:14:02 · answer #9 · answered by E@rthGoddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor fella.
What you should do is tell her what is going on and how it is affecting you.
See, when we men have problems, they might affect us emotionally or physically , but we always take it personally and hide the way we feel. This is a bad thing that will ultimately, it can easily destroy a relationship.
2007-10-24 23:56:57 · answer #10 · answered by Judo Chop 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋