He makes (sometimes in public) makes fun of my ethnic background. He just does it so many times. He even humiliated me in front of the whole class and the teacher did not say a word about it(or to him). What should I do? I don't wanna tell him that I don't want to hear it because it makes me sound.... "defeated" for some reason... I don't know if any of you understand what I mean by that... but, seriously, is there something I can do to stop him and doesn't make me feel "like i lost"? thank you
2007-10-24 16:51:33 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Think about your choice of friends. Someone who insults your ethnicity repeatedly, and in public, is not a friend. I'd sever the relationship if I were you, and seek out people who contribute to your life, not detract from it. You deserve more respect than this person is giving you. And no, it doesn't mean you "lost." You lose only if you continue to allow yourself to be treated this way. The next time this person makes a boorish ethnic joke, stare at him coldly for a few beats of silence and then say, "I find that insulting." Walk away, and don't look back.
Good luck!
2007-10-24 17:11:18 · answer #1 · answered by meatpiemum 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He is not your friend. I'm sure he knows right from wrong and it is wrong to make jokes about someone Else's ethnicity especially when the person is a friend. Let him know how you feel and tell him that you are not going to allow this kind of behavior. You shouldn't feel like you have lost. It takes more guts to stand up to someone than to sit back and say nothing. If you continue to say nothing then that is when you should feel defeated.
Also if your teacher isn't saying anything then you need to bring it to her attention (in private). If she still doesn't help then you need to go over her head to someone who will like the school counselor or principle.
2007-10-24 18:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by luvtko 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not a friend. This person is using you to make himself appear like something he is not. It is his way of getting attention. He is a very sad person.
I would look him in the eye and tell him that I don't need a friend like him. He is rude and lacks integrity. He is the one that is lost.
2007-10-24 17:31:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and tell him he should stop doing it.
2007-10-24 20:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know it hurts your feelings and please stop doing it. You will not be defeated or lose; you will have taken the high road!
2007-10-24 17:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by Flatpaw 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋