Why are so many young adults into moving out and having premarital sex?

Question

I am a 28 year old male and I still live at home with my family (by choice). We (parents and other adult siblings) all get along great and it doen't cost us (the kids) a dime! A common criticism I hear is that I can't bring a girl home at night. Um, why would I do that, unless I were married. I have no interest in having sex before marriage, so that is clearly not an issue. I have never had a girlfriend yet as it is way to early for relationships ( I didn't get around to that first kiss yet either!). I want to get a better job and finish my MA first. Another thing I hear about my living home is that I probably live in the basement. Um, I live in the house with everyone else and I have my own bedroom. That's enough. Why do people my age, especially women have to be so condescending to me? Could it be because they are extremely jealous of my decision to save money and remain single until ready? What do you think????

Answer 1

I think, based on your rationalizations here, that you should consider seeing a therapist.

You're 28, you've never had a girlfriend, you live at home, you've never kissed a girl... you're either FoS or you need to get some counseling about becoming an adult.

Answer 2

You're 28, live at home, never had a girlfriend or a first kiss, and are waiting till marriage to have sex? Dude, at this rate you'll die a virgin. If you're not willing to strike out on your own, MOVE OUT, and meet people, then you probably have some sort of psychological issue with growing up and need to see a therapist. And what makes you think you'll ever GET married if you've never had a girlfriend and don't plan on having one anytime soon?

If you've never seen The 40-Year-Old Virgin, you should probably rent that, watch it, then book it to the nearest shrink's office. Just a suggestion.

Answer 3

I didn't enjoy living at home. I got out at 18, as soon as I could. Now I'm 23. I fought with my parents all the time. I was constantly listening to my father verbally and sometimes physically abuse my brother. I was also in constant fear because he abused me physically one time in the past. I had to get away from home to learn to trust people (especially adult males) and form my own ideas. I love my parents and I love visiting home and seeing them and my brother, but I am just not comfortable with having my dad in my life that frequently. I'm glad that you are in a situation where you are comfortable and happy, that is all that matters.

Sex, in my opinion, is a completely unrelated question. It is a natural human instinct to have sex. Some people can resist it better than others, and it sounds like you do quite a good job. My family doctor actually told me that people who have sex are generally healthier when I was a teenager, so that is much of what influenced my decision.

Answer 4

Well, my friend, you sound like a bit of a closet case.

You are not a kid anymore, you are a grown male adult. This is the time where you should have your first house and be on your way to your second. Why the hell has your masters taken so long, you obviously have no distractions.

Trust me dude, get your sex on now, it all goes down hill once you're married... well after a few years of marriage anyway.

Answer 5

Woah!!! 28.... still lives at home.... never been kissed.. never had a girlfriend.... hmmm.... whats wrong with this picture? Thats horrible!!! I moved out when I was 16 years old. I got to experience life. And now I'm 19 and know exactly what to expect. What are you gonna do when you're out on your own (if you ever get there) and ma & pa aren't there to cook and clean and pay the bills? seriously, that's pathetic. good job for gettin an education. and if you wanna wait till marriage for sex, thats great too. but move out dude. thats just pathetic.

Answer 6

No one is jealous of it everyone has their own opinions and you are entitled to yours personally I do live at home unless I am at school but I do have a bf. I have had a few and I find it is easier to date when you are younger rather then having your first gf when your older you cant think that you are gonna get with one person and they will be perfect you just need to stop and realize that ppl need to play the game before you find your love like i said dont let ppl get to you if u want to live at home and wait to have sex its ur own peferance

Answer 7

I don't think this has anything to do with jealousy. It just sounds really strange. After reading your entire post, I understand where you are coming from and you were able to justify the reasons for your decisions but most people are not trying to hear that. You are 28 and still live with your parents. That makes you sound like you are too lazy to get your own job and house and irresponsible because you don't want to pay bills. Like I said, after reading the post you contradicted my original thoughts but people are just telling you what they think. It is considered strange because it is not the "norm." People expect guys to have had sex with 10+ women by the time they are 28. I think your decision is a great one, good for you

Answer 8

How are you self sustaining? you're 35 y/o mommy's boy nonetheless living at homestead. Mommy nonetheless does your laundry and fixes your food would not she? She in all likelihood additionally tucks in at night, and reads you bedtime memories till now she leaves on a nightlight by way of fact are annoying of the dark. Pity the damaging lady who gets caught with you. A 35 y/o virgin living at homestead waiting till some marvelous lady crosses his direction, consistent with probability a 35 y/o virgin lady nonetheless living at homestead. you're pathetic. you're in all likelihood living at homestead given which you would be unable to stumble on the money for to stay on your guy or woman or with a roommate. Grown adult males, not mommy's boys with arrested progression % to have their very own residence and be able to help themselves. After some years they might have the adulthood to have a serious dating with a woman maximum excellent to marriage. greater beneficial plan to proceed to be with mom. most of the wonderful women folk available won't % a pathetic loser such as you.

Answer 9

well...you've obviously never been tempted by sex. I think that people who date are more likely to have sex because it's just tempting....but you are smart in that you DO save money but if your 28 and still haven't had a girlfriend...when will you ever get married if your so inexperienced?

Answer 10

I think u need to get laid!!!! BIG TIME!!!!!!!! Dude the thing is that we want someone who doesnt depend on anyone. AT ALL!!! You just dont want it because u dont know what youre missing!!! Ok we get along great, but u can save money and move out at the same time!!!! I know I am!! I think of u as Failure to launch!!! And We are NOT jealous of what youre missing.