By poor social skills, I mean shyness. It's hard for me to open up to people, it takes a while. Guys always seem to notice me, but get turned off by my being quiet.
2007-10-24 16:28:21 · 11 answers · asked by lovebird 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm very talkative if spoken to, but it's hard for me to take the initiative to strike up a conversation first. And I send mixed signals to men I like cause I'm afraid it will be obvious and I will feel embarrassed.
2007-10-24 16:41:02 · update #1
I am exactly the same way. And oddly enough, I find it really attractive for some reason. I am always attracted to the girl who doesn't talk much and sits in the corner. They always turn out to be the unique ones. :)
2007-10-24 17:16:22 · answer #1 · answered by skoda_pop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As usual, guys can be very visual creatures. Why do you have a hard time opening up? Give yourself a pep talk. Look in the mirror before you leave the house. Take notice of everything about you. The way your hair looks, the way your clothes fit, your make up. Slowly spread a big smile across your face and genuinely feel it. If you feel you have nothing to talk about, watch the news, read a news paper or a magazine. Strike up a conversation with a topic you really feel confident talking about. Eye contact is the key to open the door to more.
2007-10-24 23:35:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it is necessarily a turn off. Its just that it is really hard to have a conversation if you are really shy. If a guy talks to you trying to break the ice but then a conversation doesn't happen from there he may just not know what to do next and might just be forced to walk away. That doesn't mean they have stopped liking you. Its just that many guys are afraid of looking like dorks if a conversation is not working. I'm also a pretty shy guy and it takes me a while to get friendly with girls but I find that those that like me actually wait for me to get over my shyness with them so i can ask them out. My e-mail is eagleea@yahoo.com if you want to write. I find it is easier to start friendships via e-mail (yes, im that shy...lol).
2007-10-24 23:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by forceOfNature 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some guys the answer would be yes. If your shyness troubles you to the extent that it interferes with your ability to establish friendships with the opposite sex then you would be probably wise to seek counselling. Their are some great courses out there to overcome shyness. Even if you don't think you are that bad they do offer some great skills and strategies you can work on with your friends. Their are other skills you may need to learn if you are shy: for example - assertiveness skills, the art of conversation. etc. that might be very helpful for you.
2007-10-24 23:39:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not a turn off for all guys....but you just dont shine because you are shy. Another girl who is less attractive but shows more confidence will get the attention taken from you.
2007-10-24 23:32:25 · answer #5 · answered by C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem too. But it takes time for you to learn how to socialize. I don't think it's a turn off for being shy, it's just that it makes yourself be harder to be approached.
2007-10-24 23:36:54 · answer #6 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's a turn off.
2007-10-24 23:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you answered your own question.. yes it is a turnoff
looks aren't everything and this proves it, a great personality is a great attraction
2007-10-24 23:31:57 · answer #8 · answered by ann s 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here my email address if u wnat to get to know a great guy!! efrain78223@yahoo.com
2007-10-24 23:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the guy, everyone likes different things
2007-10-24 23:31:07 · answer #10 · answered by xoblondie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋