can there ever be a serious relationship between a 18 and 29 yr old
2007-10-24 16:14:15 · 20 answers · asked by KDUB100 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One day short of your 18th birthday and that is legally Child Sexual Abuse. So I would get really creepy at the thought of a guy close to 30 wanting to be in a serious relationship with an 18 year old. And I'd be wondering what was wrong with him that he wanted someone so young.
(And I'd say the same thing if it was an 18 year old boy and a 29 year old woman). The maturity levels are just NOT the same and the older person is misusing the younger one. No matter how good the sex may feel, it's an abusive relationship.
2007-10-25 03:39:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it's not "wrong" per se, but I was 18 just 5 years ago and I can tell you there is a big difference between 18 and 23, so 18 and 29 is even bigger. When you are 18, you are still so young. Either still in high school, or fresh out. You haven't experienced a big dose of the real world until you are out of college and making it on your own. A 29 year old is not attracted to an 18 year old unless it's just based on sex, or he is desperate. By 29, he has so many more life experiences then an 18 year old. Legally, you can date him and no one can do a thing about it, however, don't expect this man to be the one you spend your life with, cause chances are it won't happen.
2016-05-25 17:10:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the 18 year old becomes like say 22 yrs old and the 29 turns 33 years old...yes of course. The 18 year old needs some more maturing and it will work. Wait for 4 years!!!
2007-10-24 16:22:10 · answer #3 · answered by Leona 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There can be a very serious relationship between the two in spite of a big age difference, if they are serious and committed to make the relationship serious and ever lasting. If doubts arise even before they have a clear understanding about each other, it is better to call it off. And one more thing, the couple should make it clear to their individual selves that they went into the relationship fully aware of the age difference. Let they understand some of the disadvantages of that and not start a blame game if there is a slip somewhere.
2007-10-24 21:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it CAN work. it depends on both people's maturity level. I was with a guy who was 10 years older than me (19 & 29 at the time) and it didn't work out for us. he wasn't mature enough. he still thought that he was 21 which I guess is what initially drew me in, because we were both into having a good time. but as time moved on, I got restless and wanted us to settle down and I did but he steadily went out and drank until the early hours of morning. he said that he was ready to settle down and even bought me a ring but I didn't know how long that stage of his life would last and I didn't want to live that life. make sure ya'll both want the same things from the relationship before it begins.
looking back, i can't believe i was ever dumb enough to get into such a horrible relationship and STAY in it for as long as did (we were together right over a year).
the way I kind of look at it now is he's that old and can't find somebody his own age and so he has to go after someone younger and vulnerable? there MIGHT be a reason for it. maybe not in you're situation though. i hope not for your sake :)
2007-10-24 18:11:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes atleast its not 18 and 40! i think if the 18yo is mature and the family is accepting and you genuinely like each other, not as in for sex and stuff only. I think age (11yrs) is not a barrier, I mean you are an adult at 18 and are old enough to make decisions for yourself, not if you were under 18, that would be wrong. good luck
2007-10-24 16:21:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, age difference does not matter when it comes to love (except when minors are involved). However, if you're the 18 year old, you should definitely get to know the person first because you always need to ensure that they are not just dating you because you're young and they think you're naive and can be used. Otherwise, love is very possible between people, no matter what their age difference.
2007-10-24 16:22:59 · answer #7 · answered by Courtney 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think in current situation it will not create any problem but when time elapsed it is possible to have a some different understanding between both of that guys due to the level of maturity. Anyway after all it depends both of them who are facing this situation.
2007-10-24 16:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by Pintu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but I think a relationship with an 11 year age difference should move at a leisurely pace.
2007-10-24 16:18:39 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ar u mad if yr sister was of the same age and her boy friend was 29 will u execept it
2007-10-24 18:29:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋