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Okay so..im getting married in June 2008..
and im excited But i keep feeling like..he doesnt want it anymore..or want to be with me...there are no signs...he works night shifts and is always tired and so i feel like he is mad at me...then its like i feel he has to contantly remind me he isnt going to leave mea nd were really going to get married and i hate the feeling, and i dont know how to control it..and like tonight we had a good talk and he reassured me and it meant alot to me then he left for work and im in a way back to thinking negative....whats wrong with me?

2007-10-24 15:48:11 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Weddings

5 answers

I'm getting married in March and I am feeling the EXACT same way!! I hope this means that we're normal!

2007-10-24 15:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Well, I don't know if y'all are normal or not.

I've been married twice. First time was a big formal affair months in the planning. The second time, we decided to get married on Tuesday night, and got married on Sunday. Neither time did I have any strong misgivings. The first marriage lasted 6 1/2 years and the second has lasted 17 1/2 and counting.

Off-hand, I'd say that you are both somewhat insecure in the relationship. I don't know if you have any reasons to be insecure, but I think you'd both do well to discuss these misgivings with your fiancés, the sooner the better.

In all likelihood, you are both just suffering a common case of the pre-wedding jitters.

I wish you both the very best.

Doc

2007-10-24 23:03:12 · answer #2 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 2 0

It is possible that he isn't mad at you, but rather just tired and stressed. he probably feels a big weight on his shoulders about providing for you and giving you a wedding day you will always remember. I have no doubt he loves you from what you have said. It's hard to be in a relationship where you work different hours. You're like ships in he night; constantly passing each other but never really connecting.

Let him know that you want to talk to him, and make a dinner date for a day that you both have time off so you can both feel refreshed. Go out for dinner, and communicate about your feelings.

I think what is wrong with you, is that if our guy doesn't spend a lot of time with us, we think that he doesn't care. Not true; he is simply working when he leaves you, so he can help pay for your wedding. Try to remember when he leaves for work that he is doing it because he loves you and so you two can be together, not because he doesn't care and wants to spend as much time away from you as possible.

Good luck, and try to think positive!

2007-10-24 22:57:08 · answer #3 · answered by Alex 2 · 1 0

THats part of my dilema and i get married next week!! I am not having doubts of him, just stressful! I had to deal with hime working nights, for some odd reason I think we loose more trust when they work nights. He is reassuring you and all you can do is believe him! You know as sad as it is i doubted my wedding, i put off everything, because I wasnt sure if he was serious. You really cant control it, you have to just re assure yourself when he is gone that he does love you. I am sure he has to work to provide you with a great wedding day. Be patient, and COMMUNICATE!

2007-10-24 23:58:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I feel the exact same way and my boyfriend works night shifts as well. Dont worry if he seems negative it might just be stress from work. Dont worry to much about it!

2007-10-24 23:30:38 · answer #5 · answered by littlemissmay 4 · 0 0

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