what should i do i think im going through post-partum depresion and my boyfriend left me?

Question

i lost my babies a month ago i think im suffering post-partum depresion , my boyfriend left me and we were going to get married this up coming year.How can i get through this with out totaly loosing it , i've been havin chest pain cause im depresed and im getting scared cause i feel like im fadin away

Answer 1

I'm so sorry to hear of your babies' loss. :`(

You don't mention if they were lost while you were pregnant, and/or if they were born full term.

I know my situation doesn't compare, and I don't want you to feel bad with me talking about this. I feel guilty for mentioning, but though it might apply to your situation..... :(

I had my boy as a preemie. He had to spend quite some time in the NICU, and I was having a really bad time of things. I was speaking to my ObGyn, and he said it's VERY common for preemie moms to suffer from post partum depression.

The loss of your child, and the loss your your fiance...would be enough cause for depression. But now couple that with the fact you lost MULTIPLE babies during or shortly after your pregnancy....REALLY makes things more difficult for you.

Either speak to your ObGyn or primary doctor. They can help you get some medication to make the transition to a healthier you. I would really advise getting some counseling as well. This isn't a "simple case" of post partum depression.

Additionally, your chest pains could EASILY be from anxiety. You can temporarily treat this as well (with medication) until your anti-depressants kick in.

My best wishes and condolences for you and your angels. xoxoxo

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Maybe some counseling.Also try some nutritional suppliments,such as B-complex 100 tabs also A good multi vitamin and mineral suppliment.Also 5HTP and St.Johns wort help with depression.Maybe some light exercise if you are able,to boost your seratonin levels.Get out with friends or family.Go to dinner or a movie.I have never lost a child,so I can`t say I no exactly how you feel.My son has low functioning autism.In a way,it fels like he died,becuase the life I wanted for him his gone.Autism steals the childhood from a child and then his future.So I guess in a way,I know how you feel.In Time,your sure to meet someone else,and maybe have another chance.Take Care.

Answer 4

Get yourself a nice female therapist.
Take care of yourself with good diet & fitness.
Here are some good ideas:
1. Do something that gets your heart rate up a bit like, walking, running, biking, and swimming.
2. Eat Whole, Organic foods like: Broccoli, Cabbage, Organic Brown Rice, Spinach, Sweet Potato, Apples, and other fruits and vegetables in their Natural State.
3. Avoid eating corn, white bread, white rice, candy, sodas, chips, and anything else that you already know you shouldn’t be eating.
4. Drink clean water as your beverage of choice. Avoid Fruit drinks and fruit juices (unless YOU juice them yourself)
5. Stop smoking, drinking beer & wine, and drinking coffee.
6. Get 8 hours of sleep each night.
7. Hang out with people who want to be healthy.
8. Avoid anything with High Fructose Corn Syrup.

Tone up the muscles:

1. Join a gym and get a trainer.
2. If you’re short on cash, start a light stretching & yoga regimen.
3. Do push-ups, and light dumbbell curls for the upper body.
4. As I said above, walk, run, swim, and or bike
5. Take an aerobics class, a yoga class, or some other fitness class.
6. Join the local YMCA..

Mental Health:

1. Get a friend to talk to each day about your feelings.
2. If you have some money or insurance, get a counselor to talk to.
3. Learn how to meditate.
4. Join a support group for the issue you’re dealing with.
5. Ask your Higher Self (or God) for guidance.
6. Start keeping a diary or journal about your feelings & thoughts.
7. Write a ‘gratitude’ list every night.
8. Do something that makes you happy each day like: listen to your favorite music, draw, paint, write, or anything creative.
9. Do something for someone else who needs help.

Answer 5

the chest pain is most likely anxiety from being scared and worried
im sorry to hear you lost your babies
your boyfriend must have been an asshole to leave you like that. maybe see a therapist? or a close friend to help you through it

Answer 6

Prayer is a place to start. Ask God to give you his strength when you have none he will do that for you. Know that you are loved and wanted. You deserve to be happy and at peace.

Make a call to your doctor so he can help you as well. You can do this with God's help.

Answer 7

Purchase some really good music. Join a social group such as a fitness club, a book club, or a church.

Answer 8

Please get to your doctor and if you don't have one readily available, go to the emergency room. Some things are just too much and we need help. Please reach out and get it.