Lately, I've been kind of down and dealing with a lot of hard issues. I know this is not a good thing, but I have a tendency to cut myself off from people when I am feeling sad. Not completely like to where I won't even speak to you, but I'm probably not going to sit there and hold a conversation with you and act all bubbly and happy. Soo...in gym class, we have free days almost everyday of the week. Typically, I sit down and do homework or read. It's not like I'm sitting there staring at the ground all depressed--I'm actually doing something. Plus, not to be rude, but a lot of the girls in my gym class are wh0res.But my two gym coaches called me up the other day and asked, "Do you have brothers and sisters?" I was like, "Yeah....". And then one was like, "Well, you're a loner. That's probably why you have no friends." I was MAD! He has no right say that, does he? Is he right? Am I doing myself harm by isolating myself? Should he have said that to me?
2007-10-24 14:44:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
what i do when someone says something about me, or about something i am doing, (whether i find it offensive or not) i examine to see if there is any truth in it. if there is, then it something to learn and grow from, even if it is said without tact. if i am honest with myself, examine it and see no truth in it, i blow it off. no sense in getting upset about things you can't control. you will have people telling you things you don't want to hear for the rest of your life, i have found this to be the most effective way to deal with it. i got tired of fighting and getting mad, it just drained me. now i look at it from an indifferent perspective and believe or not, i have earned a lot more respect doing this than my old ways. if you're really upset, confront him in a calm way and let him know you felt it was unappropiate, and let him know that if he was trying to help you, he could have gone about it in better way. we are all just human, after all.
2007-10-24 14:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by willowkaii 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are two sides to every story. From what you have written, it was not very nice what the teacher had said to you. I am not sure if the teacher was telling you "you're a loner" or was the teacher trying to start a conversation and give advice that was not in the proper setting and not worded properly. I would go talk to the teacher to clarify what the teacher meant by the "title"-(you're a loner) and why the teacher said that to you. If you are not comfortable going to the teacher that made the comment then go to the guidance counselor, and discuss that the teacher's comment was hurtful and you are not sure why the teacher said it and for what reason did the teacher say it. Good Luck.
2007-10-24 15:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by EMT-207 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said you have a tendency of cutting your self off when you are going thru something. so maybe he was right but don't get up set start to look inside to find out why and what you can do differently. I had a professor tell me something I didn't like about myself snd when I thought about it he was right. I took that oportunity to change positively and grow. Today I could say he did me a favor.
2007-10-24 14:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by jackie B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that was totally uncalled for. that coach is an idiot.
you are entitled to your personal space all that you want and that must be respected by everyone - not just the teachers. I like being alone quite a bit so I understand where you are at. just keep moving forward and do as you have. nothing wrong with that.
2007-10-24 15:09:06 · answer #4 · answered by Mon-chu' 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it style of feels he struck a warm spot while he stated that to you! somewhat than searching for the nicely suited or incorrect of his remark, why not use some time and potential in attempting to envision why you decrease off from people the form you do. it quite is an rather undesirable thank you to deal with your subject concerns and it quite is plenty greater valuable to hit upon somebody you have confidence and communicate approximately them. you're doing your self injury by utilising separating when you consider which you're doing issues which will save your techniques away out of your issues somewhat than getting them out and managing them. it quite is particularly obtrusive that your wellbeing midsection instructors have observed your isolation and the form you decrease off from others. You have been "MAD" when you consider which you be attentive to he became into real! i would be unable to think of of what delivered on you to call maximum of of your classmates wh0res and what has that to do with the issue? you are trying to justify your not having something to do with them by using fact of what you elect them to be! yet right here is the rub...you may already stated which you decrease off, do not carry bubbly conversations and in all probability different issues that could desire to do with venting your techniques and thoughts...exterior of anger. come across a counselor, in school or exterior of it, that could furnish help to to deal greater efficiently with your issues and unhappiness so as which you will get excitement from rather greater of a comfortable and happier life in school. stable success!
2016-10-07 13:25:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First... no he was not right in saying that! Completely uncaled for and inappropriate!
Secondly...you have free days every day?? What the h*ll is this guy getting paid for??? He sounds like a lazy bum.
2007-10-24 15:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
just tell him to study the word introvert. Play his game.. as well as tell him that school is for studies when i speak i have something important to say!
That erks me! sorry !
and No he shouldn't of said that. But i could see his worry most social highly social people don't seem to understand..
in 10 years it won't matter any way! just keep those who you love in your life by communication and your fine!
2007-10-24 14:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
simple solution
go home
tell a story of indecent toughing by the coach
get powerhouse attorney Gloria Alred on TV
he be in paid leave, maybe fired
and no one couch will bother you nay more
problem solved
2007-10-24 16:24:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
He was out of line.First, he intruded when you had not asked for his advice. Second, he assumed you have no friends. Third, he was rude.
2007-10-24 14:50:36 · answer #9 · answered by beez 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
they were wrong and some times people just need their space soon your fell better I know what your felling
2007-10-24 14:50:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋