how do you ask a girl out on a date?

Question

I am reallly shy and not good with women. I need help on how to get a date!

Answer 1

Just talk to her. It's hard asking someone out, but remember it might suck if she says no, but the whole world isnt going to implode!! Don't be to nervous and try and do something sweet like giving her a little box of chocolates with a note or something, sometime it can woo a girl into saying yes, but don't do anything super creepy like sending something to her house, too stalker-ish, Just be yourself and ask. it works!

Answer 2

Well, my friend, asking a woman for a date is one of the hardest thing to do for a man. But there are some good ways to do it, which it takes some patience. Before you ask a woman or a girl for a date for that matter, make sure that you know the girl and the girll knows you, or else if there will be date that will occur it would be a "Blind Date". Then if you ask her for a date, give her respect and honor, and show her that you can be trusted and you will not take advantage over her. Now if the woman refuses to go with you for a date, do not be angry, and just be patient in waiting for the right time that she will grant your request.

My advice to you my dear friend, is this, we should always give honor and respect to women, because if they saw that we are nice and respectful it would be very easy for us to request for someone for a date. Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 3

Just whip it out. (I'm KIDDING, no really don't do that)

Just talk to her and get to know her a bit first. Spark up a conversation and be confident. Women don't bite...well not all of them.

It really is that simple.

Scenario: I'm at a bookstore and I see a good looking girl reading a book that I like.

Me: Hmm...Dante's inferno? That's not a book on most people's list.
Girl: Yea, I know. It's actually for a philosophy class but I'm really getting into it.
Me: (blah blah, philosophy stuff)
-I sparked up a conversation about something that she likes you don't want to bore her to death. Even though some people may find philosophy boring....she doesn't and that's what matters. You want to grab her attention.
Also, you want to keep the conversation short.
Girl: (blah, blah, philosophy stuff)
Me: Oh, sorry, I forgot to introduce myself. I'm (insert name here).
Girl: (introduction)
Me: This is all very interesting but I'm kind of running late. How's about discussing this over lunch. Say Friday about 1pmish? At the generic restaurant?
Girl: sounds great.

alternatively she might say: Sorry, but I don't think that my boyfriend would be too thrilled about that.

Always remember that the worse thing that can happen is that she says no. Is that going to kill you? No, of course not. Just give it a shot. Be yourself.

I like this approach because you build up to the asking out part instead of going right to it. You aren't side stepping the question or avoiding it you're just getting her interested.

Answer 4

You are more likely to be successful and comfortable if you already have a friendly relationship. You don't mention whether you are in school or are talking about women at work. If it's someone in one of these places, you might suggest a group grab lunch and suggest she join you as part of the group.
That way, she can be around you in a non-stressful, friendly situation and you are not having to carry the ball by yourself for conversation. During lunch, you might ask some open ended questions to get ideas about what sorts of things she likes to do. Any activities--roller-blading, biking etc. There is always the failsafe questions about what sorts of movies or restaurants she likes and do on. Your goal is to find common interests.
If lunch goes well, a little later, you might say, "I enjoyed talking to you at lunch the other day, would you like to ...?" If there is some sort of fair or outdoor craft's fair coming up, that might a little more interesting a first date. You are walking around and if you get stuck for ideas about what to talk about, you have the activities and booths in front of you to discuss.
Bottom line, start a friendship first, then ask her on a date.

Answer 5

Well, you always have to gradually work your way into the flirty zone. Hopefully you aren't in the clear safe friendzone with this girl. As above someone mentioned coffee which is also good, but a local pizza place or little cafe would be ideal. Remember not to order anything messy, and ofcourse always pay for the meal for you both.

Answer 6

well if you talk to her often you should just ask if she would like to hang out some time or go and get something to eat. Start with something casual, that's a pretty safe bet. That way if the feelings aren't mutual you don't feel like a complete idiot. Just be honest and be yourself and remember to just have fun with it. A simple date can always lead to the greatest thing in your life, just give it a shot.

Answer 7

Coffee or any meal is good socializing time. Don't actually ask her out, this one hasn't failed me yet since I found it, "Give me your number so I can call you about _____" ____ can be w/e meal or date you want to do. Warning though, movies are bad b/c you cant get to know her well if your occupied with a movie. Also don't just randomly say it, keep convo short and say you got to meet up with some friends, then say it.

Answer 8

Well, if a guy were to ask me out he would mention dinner or lunch which is a great way to begin. Going to the movies. A phone call is really not that difficult its only a phone. Just find out what she's interested in and ask her out to something that she will enjoy as well as yourself. If its someone you are just walking up to, kindly speak to her and introduce yourself and compliment her.

Answer 9

First of all you have to be yourself in a situation like this. Don't go and try to be fake, cause women don't like that. I don't know how well you know this girl, but just metion that you are going somewhere with your buddies, and then casually ask her if her and her friends would be interested in going. It saves you from having to be alone with her, and her being alone with you. You both can be yourselfs when your friends are there. Good luck.

Answer 10

What you need is like anything else, you need practise. Think positive. Most woman want to go on dates. They want to be asked out. If you get a no then move on to the next woman. You'll get a yes.