I don't mean to sound immature, but I'm 24 & my friend's sister is 17. She terrorizes everyone, & everybody is scared of her. She has severe ADHD, & she's a bully. She does things so fast she can do 20 things in 1 minute, & she's hyper, unstoppable, & unpredictable. She came to my house the other day-UNinvited & went straight to the freezer & took one of my frozen pizzas without my permission. She microwaved it & when she was eating it, she started smacking in my ear on purpose just to agitate me & see me lose my temper so she can laugh. She knows my ears are sensitive & that I have Tourette's. So when she did that, my gut instinct was to slap the pizza out her hand. & when it fell on the floor, she wanted to fight me. I was scared.
2007-10-24 14:35:04 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You both need a better understanding of each others' special needs. In the same way that you couldn't help but smack the pizza out of her hand, she may not be able to control the way she acts. I recommend you look up ADHD and get informed, so that way you know what you can confront her about and what you will have to live with because it is part of who she is
2007-10-24 14:38:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Would brandishing a loaded handgun be inappropriate? OK, a bit farfetched, but my reaction would have been similar to yours. I probably would have taken the hand without the pizza in it and led her towards the door. Right before you get to the door say "Thanks!" and offer your other hand for her to shake, take the pizza out of her hand, close the door (lock it this time) and walk back to continue on whatever U were doing. Talk to your friend, be sure that she tells her little sister she is no longer welcome over here. End of story, end of problem & no bloodshed!
2007-10-24 23:33:55 · answer #2 · answered by Andy K 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off you didn't say what type of relationship you have with your friend.
If it is a housemate or partner then get them to deal with it.
As a non family member I would tell her she was no longer welcome, and refuse to let her in, if you are alone.
Whilst I don't condone your actions, I think you were well controlled. I hate to think what I would have done but my first action would also be the same as yours.
I don't know what Tourette's is, but it doesn't matter, nobody likes their ears to be slapped.
Perhaps kissed and nuzzled by a partner, Yes.
2007-10-24 23:22:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a 52 year old man and I never answer the doorbell unless I am expecting someone. If someone rings my doorbell and I wasn't expecting them, then it's probably somebody trying to sell me something. As a 24 year old young lady, you should be concerned about your safety, especially when you have a friend's sister who comes over, is aggressive, and tries to pick a fight with you.
2007-10-24 22:14:49 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. WD 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
and you let her in why?
you have control of your enviroment
so take control
anything else is an excuse
next time she slaps you
slap ( hec.. hit ) her back HARDER
nothing sets an example like a cold hard slap ( hit ) of reality
after all if she claims ADHD
you can claim muscle spasms tether to tourette's outbursts
2007-10-24 23:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She sounds like she needs to be institutionalized! She should not be allowed to terrorize everyone and bully people; she is using her ADHD to abuse people and bully them. She is a sociopath and needs to be accountable for her actions ADHD or not. Next, keep your door locked! Don't let her in, ever! Then avoid her! Stay away from her as much as possible and if you cannot avoid her, ignore her. She sounds like a real piece of work. She is USING her alleged disorder to abuse people, someoone has to stop her before she really does some damage.
2007-10-24 21:46:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
You were right. Her ADHD does not account for her rudeness and her bullying. She has problems and needs boundaries. I would not let her in again even if she is your friend's sister. I am sure that your friend will understand.
2007-10-25 00:27:56 · answer #7 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You could have handled the situation with more control and simply taken the pizza from her hand and told her to leave. I have a relative who thrives on pushing peoples' buttons and it usually works, so I empathize with you. You owe this girl nothing, not even entry into your home.
2007-10-24 21:45:02 · answer #8 · answered by beez 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
i knew a girl who had that..she was actualy preette nice(just a little hyper somtimes) but she moved.
thats not anexcuse. especaly at 17
did you fight? i hope not...people are alot stonger than they look somtimes. haha(getting sidetracked) people alwaways think i'm weak b/c im thin. hardly(back to subject) i say you were right to take the pizza!
2007-10-25 07:45:34 · answer #9 · answered by Crazygirl ♥ aka GT 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Then what happened? Did you fight her? You shouldn't have let her in the house in the first place. Talk to your friend about her issue and let her family deal with it. Good luck :)
2007-10-24 21:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by Sandy ♥ - semi retired :) 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋