my boyfriend of seven months has single, female friends that he plays badmitton with weekly. I dont like it. I think that if a man or woman is in a relationship then they shouldnt be hanging out with people of the opposite sex without theyre partner. am I wrong???
2007-10-24 14:22:15 · 60 answers · asked by snaps_girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends on the the couple. If the other person is cool with it then it's okay!! If your not okay with it then the other person should drop their female/male friends!!!
2007-10-24 14:30:36 · answer #1 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are well past wrong here hun. I mean what kind of person just says you can't know anyone of the opposite sex that is single. Be it friend or otherwise. I mean reread what you just said there. Your guy has known these chicks alot longer than he has known you. And rather they dated in the past or not. They are still his friends. Its not like they are all over him and saying "oh yes, lets get it on right here and right now on the badmitton courts". No that is not how friendship works. I mean I'm sure you have single male friends that you are friends with and probably still are friends with before you got together with your guy. So don't be so rude and bossy trying to control your man's life like that. I mean the man is not sleeping with his friends, he is with you. So grow up and stop trying to control him. Because if you keep this up he will find someone that isn't uncomfortable with his friends.
2007-10-24 15:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very much so wrong, yes. If you're in a relationship with someone you should trust them unless you have proof they are doing something to break that trust. Paranoia ruins good relationships. Let him have his fun. It's not like he's cheating or anything. Get some single guy friends of your own and have fun as well. To say he has to have you along when he's around his friends is a sign of insecurity and distrust. Without trust there is no love.
2007-10-24 14:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by callmegoddess618 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are very insecure. Being jealous and limiting your boyfriend will only make him feel more distanced from you. In order for a relationship to be healthy, both people need to have other people that they can spend time with and relate to besides each other (i.e. "friends"). If you have any legitimate reason to suspect that he would cheat on you with any one of these girls then perhaps your point is valid but if thats the case then you should reconsider being in a relationship with someone you don't trust. If they just get together to play badminton, you are overreacting.
2007-10-24 14:27:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really your judgement call but maybe you should ask yourself why it bothers you.Do you trust him?If he has an activity that he likes,such as badmitton,and you dont like it you can't expect him to give it up.On the other hand if you do like badmitton I would ask why hes playing with someone other than you.Its a touchy subject and if you start making demands or grilling him you could just piss him off.Good luck
2007-10-24 14:30:53 · answer #5 · answered by melissa f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are in the wrong if it is badmitton and nothing else. You better just leave that one alone if you really like him because if you are over protective then he is going to leave you. It is just badmitton relax doesn't sound like he has given you any reason to think he is doing anything with them.
2007-10-24 14:26:26 · answer #6 · answered by maybeeoneday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm.. I'm sorry.. but i do think your a little in the wrong.. You shouldn't tell your partner who he can and can't hang out with. If you guys have lasted 7 months i would think you trusted him pretty well.. and if you trust him there shouldn't be a problem with him hanging out with single girls.. You might try to pull the whole I trust him.. it's them i don't trust thing.. but.. if you truely trust him then your mistrust in the girls shouldn't cause a problem. Relax.. He's been with you for 7 months.. Do you have any big reason to believe that he would cheat with any of these girls? Just try to be cool with it.. If you want.. try playing with them. It could be fun. Good Luck
2007-10-24 14:28:48 · answer #7 · answered by ksm_623 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where your coming from but, kids now days do this all the time. Seems that it is alright with this generation. I would think that if you trust your boyfriend then let him go play with his friends that are girls. Maybe you should go with him. If you don't like the sport then maybe try to learn without him and then show him how to play the game well. He will eventually want to take you along. I hope you know his friends. If not then you need to. I think if he has girls that are friends and he runs around with them then you should know each of them. He should introduce you to them. Do they talk when you are around? I hope so. Try not to fret over this if you trust your man. If you don't trust your man with his friends then you need to move on to getting to know some men yourself. You may find one that wants to spend every last minute with just you and only you. Best of luck dear.
2007-10-24 14:32:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I don't see anything wrong with it. My best friend in the whole world is a guy and I would be soo offensive if my boyfriend told me that I couldn't talk to him. I see it like this, if you are treating your boyfriend right then you shouldn't have any problems with him trying anything with another girl. But maybe that's just me. I could see if it was an ex, now that 's a different story. I know it's hard to see your man with other women, but always REMEMBER that he is YOURS! As long as she isn't a threat to your relationship, then let it be.
2007-10-24 14:27:43 · answer #9 · answered by chantol3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are jealous! That is not good. Everyone has opposite sex friends, that's the way it is! I think the reason why you do not like it is because you do not trust him. Tell him about your trust issues but be careful, usually that scares men away!
Maybe ask to go with him sometime so you can meet the girls. Maybe they are really nice, and people that you will get along with!
2007-10-24 14:28:07 · answer #10 · answered by Kathi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Luv I would have to differ with you there. I think there is nothing wrong with a male or female in a relationship having single friends. And I really don't see any reason to be concearned about it unless there is something goin on between them. I think you really need to trust your BF on this one as they are only friends hun. And it sounds like you are a tad Jealous
2007-10-24 14:27:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋