Would you read your baby nursery rhymes like 'rub a dub dub, three men in a tub'? My husband forbids me.

Question

He forbids me because he says would teach my baby that male homosexuality is okay and he says others are violent. I just want to be able to atleast say some nursery rhymes :(

Answer 1

My hubby and I read nursery rhymes to the girls all the time, there is nothing wrong with them

Answer 2

Maybe your husband should go back to school. Nursery ryhmes have a basis in historical fact like most myths and legends. I forgot what the three men in the tub are, but it has nothing to do with homosexuality.

For instance the nursery rhyme Mary Mary quite Contrary is about Mary Queen of Scot's.

Answer 3

Many nursery rhymes come from English history. Some go back to Elizabethan times, and many go back to the time of Dickens. There may be a homosexual link to the rhyme you mention, but I think there is (somewhere) a historical link to the "butcher, the baker, and the candlestick maker" that are all in the tub together.
Try Googling a history of nursery rhymes and see what comes up. I suspect it will be a lot more history than homosexuality!

Answer 4

Your husband is reading WAY too much into nursery rhymes. Remember that these things developed in time much more homophobic than now. The chances that "three men in a tub" is supposed to teach homosexuality is pretty much nil.

Answer 5

Thats crazy, they are just nursery rhymes. The child isn't going to read into it at all they are just going to hear a catchy tune. And whats wrong with teaching your child that there is nothing wrong with homosexuality? That isn't going to make him gay that would simply make him open minded and accepting of diversity. What is bad about that? You cannot make someone gay. Just think, if someone told you that being hetero was wrong and you HAD to become homosexual would you be able to? Would you be able to force yourself to love and be sexually attracted to another women? I'm sure you wouldn't be able to. And it is the same thing with gay people. If parents could stop their children from being gay by instilling in them a belief that homosexuality is wrong and immoral then why do so many heterosexual, anti gay couples have gay children?

Answer 6

If you do as your husband tells you, then you're child will grow up knowing only the sugar coated versions of fairy tales, like the disney version of snow white. in the original, when snow white and prince charming get married, the prince has white hot iron shoes placed on the wicked queen's feet and she is forced to dance to death.

Old nursery rhymes and fairy tales are brutally dark, violent, and have many sexual innuendos. But kids don't usually pick up on the sexual innuendos and darkness and violence of it is normally used to over come the "bad guys". Explain this to your husband, and if he still doesn't understand, say that you can't shelter your child forever. Children are much too sheltered these days, and that you would like to tell your baby these stories, if only for entertainment.

While the stories were orginally used to teach morals and ethics, you can use them just to entertain your child, while teaching your child in other ways what is socially acceptable as well what is morally right, etc.

goodluck.

Answer 7

If he forbids you to read harmless nursery rhymes that says alot about his personality....total control and very insecure.

What else is he going to tell you you can or cant do during your lives together? See your family, raise your kids as insecure and prejudice?

Put your foot down now and teach him to lighten up and get over his stupidity. Those rhymes wont teach the kids those "principles" unless he teaches them thats what they mean.

YOU are the parents, YOU give those kids meanings and lessons about life. Only YOU can teach them that its for fun and what they truly mean (which isnt homosexuality).

Answer 8

And I'm sure as you're reading this the child is thinking that the butcher the baker and the candlestick maker are having a hot threesome.

Yeesh, they're just nursery rhymes.

Answer 9

ok well there are other nursery rymes little miss moffet for instance. its not violent . but really honestly your hubbin needs to learn what the nursery ryhmes are about befor he goes around randomly forbiding things. there is nothing gay about the three men in a tub nersery ryhme. as for me I would read my kids anything I want to. I plan on reading them R A salvatore books as bed time stories.

Answer 10

Wow...he forbids you? I'd make him sleep on the couch for a few nights on that one. Who care if that seems that male homosexuality is okay? Is he a homophobic then? I will say that I will not sing to my kid that "When the bow breaks" song, that IS too violent. I can agree with him that some of those are violent, but forbidding you is a bit...harsh....as I said, let him sleep in the dog house for a while....hope this helps and best of luck! ^_^