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Question

Hey people, lets get one thing straight I aint putting this up here for attention if I wanted that I’d stand on a high building. I feel really low all the time, but I dnt know why, I have everything I’ve ever wanted material wise, and a fair bit of cash, but I feel empty like I have nothing to live for I have good frends, but I cant talk to them on a emotional level, (I’m a 17 yr old guy) even if I could, they don’t really care neway. I cant talk to my family because they’ll land me in counselling yet again, which really doesn’t help. I’m just really low now every night all I can think about is killing myself, to end my pain, and it feels like the only way out; but I’m scared that it wont work, I dnt wana take pills coz they dnt work and I could wake up in hospital, I have a knife in my room, but every time I try and use it, I jus cant, it jus makes me feel really crappy,l like I cant even do that right. Has anyone got any advice on what I should do, (no sarcastic answers plz)

Answer 1

Hi Rey, to be honest and sensible in this matter I have to say:
Start simple exercise of let it go, you see all the thoughts that arriving into our minds are immaterial and they only stay in our heads as long as we give attention to it. An old Asian proverb say: “Don’t feed the tiger it’ll go away quickly while will not find any food”. Literally, it means if you don’t pay attention to your thoughts they’ll pass by and won’t disturb you. Try at the anxious time to do breathing exercise and just simply concentrate on inhaling and exhaling and as I mentioned previously do not pay attention to your thoughts. The more you exercise this way the calmer and balanced your mind develop into. And one more thing mate, start loving yourself and all sentient being and find yourself a path and goal that will make your life meaningful and compassionate.

I personally found the teachings and then practice of Tibetan Buddhism the most significant thing in my existence. Anyway, just to let you know, Buddhism in fact is not a religion if one start follows it profoundly and with dedication one will discover the true nature of oneself and loving-kindness for all sentient being.

Answer 2

Please try this link to the Mind website

How to cope with suicidal feelings:
http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/How+to/How+to+cope+with+suicidal+feelings.htm

the information is easy to read and understand.

I do understand the torment and emotional pain you must be in to consider suicide as an option, I've been there many times myself.

The good thing is that you realise that you would like help to cope with these feelings and asking on here is the first step to getting the help and support that you need and deserve.

If you feel that you are in immediate danger right now then the best thing to do would be to go to the Accident Emergency department of your nearest hospital. There will be someone there who can help you.

If you feel safe enough to wait until tomorrow then it would be a good idea to contact your GP and ask for an urgent appointment, don't be fobbed off by the receptionists, tell them it is an emergency and you need to see someone before the weekend.

Another option tomorrow would be to contact your local mental health charity

http://www.mind.org.uk/Mind+in+your+area/

they are easy to access and you don't need to be referred by anyone else.

You won't be judged, and the people there deal with all kinds of mental distress and do so on a daily basis. It will be much less formal than the health services so may suit you better. They can offer support, information and guidance.

Please try and stay safe tonight and then get yourself some help tomorrow.

Medication isn't the only option for treatment and you can choose whether or not you accept it if it is offered. It is worth bearing in mind though that what you tried last time just wasn't right for you, and a different one could be very useful. Also bear in mind that most antidepressants take at least 3 to 4 weeks to get into your system properly and begin to have any effect.

I hope this helps.

Answer 3

Hey, I don't know where to begin. It's shocking stumbling upon such a question. Well, My name is Indy. I'm 20 and i'm a female.. I would ask you to not have thoughts like this since, for one, I'm catholic and suicide is not the best thing to do... I guess it doesn't matter what beliefs you have.. suicide is not the answer period. It's difficult to understand your emptiness since your message fails to inform me as to exactly what caused this. Giving it a shot, i'll tell you to distract yourself. I know it's hard, specially when such emotions are within you. Yet, you need to try. See, life is given to us only once. Make it worth it. I believe that if you go out.. i.e. the park, bowling, movies, amusement park, etc.. you'll release that stress or that something annoying you. If you have a girlfriend go out with her.. if that's not the case, then worry about a date.. Look for one. Sometimes things are not handed down to you. You actually, have to go out and look for them. I'm sorry you feel this way. By the way, killing yourself, to me, is only a selfish act, Why? well, what happends to everyone who is left behind that loves you. Please, don't say nobody cares. That's not the case... you and I know it. I wish i could get across to you, but at the same time i'm being realistic... how much can i do on a message board.. right? Don't neglect yourself from having a good life. you can always e-mail me if you wish to know more about you... :)

Answer 4

First off I am very sorry you are feeling this way. I know right not you are feeling very helpless and hopeless, but it is important to remember that ones preception, and actually reality are quite frequently two different things. In otherwords THERE IS HOPE! I PROMISE! :-) What you have going on is most certainly clinical depression, it is a medical problem caused by an imbalance of neurotransmitters in your brain. Neurotransmitters on basically chemicals that your brain cells use to "talk" to each other. When you do not have enough of these chemicals in your brain then your brain is less able to function, causing you to feel depressed, helpless, hopeless. Other symptoms would be, lack of enjoyment from activities that you used to love to do, change in sleep (eather sleep all the time, or have trouble sleeping at all), and in your case suicidal thoughts and feelings. But like I said before THERE IS HOPE! SOOOO
Here is what I suggest you do..
TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR! You do not even have to right away tell your parents, all you need to do is call up your doctors office and tell them your name, who your doctor is, and that you are having suicidal thought and want help. That is it they will help you from there. I promise no one is going to thing you are crazy or anything. A LOT of people are under treatment for clinical depression. I can just about guarantee you that with in AT THE LONGEST one month of taking anti-depressants you will feel SOOOO much better. I know I did :-)
Remember suicide is not the answer. Suicide is a very selfish act. Think of all the people who would be so terribly sad if you were gone. So please do yourself a favor, get yourself help NOW!! Hang in there buddy! ;-)

Answer 5

You sound like a "normal teenager",your feelings of killing yourself are crys for help,The only people you will hurt is those that love you...Think your right avoiding the medical brigade,there only label you and put you on some dodgy medication..Talk to your mates or anybody you feel empathy on a level with..Just as use full as some councillors advice most the time...You want someone people to look at your life,help guide you in right direction be a role model, As you say in first sentence your putting this up here for attention...Grow up avoid damaging yourself,this World can be the pits but does have good parts and people..Your young these are the better years of life,many have felt and feel like you,your not alone..Put all that negative siht to one side and get out and have a look at life.Count the goods things not the bad and believe me things can get worse,or better,the future is unwritten and in your hands..Live Up Good Health

Answer 6

I think maybe for you some volunteer work might help you a whole bunch like a homeless shelter in your community or even a animal shelter ask if you can volunteer there sometimes getting your mind off yourself can be a big help

Know that you are one of a kind you are unique there will never be anyone like you ever. God has a purpose for your life just ask him he will show you where to go just don't forget to look around you to see what he it tiring to tell you.

Life is full of surprises, fun, sun rises and sun sets and dissappointments for all of us. But how would we know if we were on a mountain if we have never been in a valley. I know sometimes it feels like we are always going to be in a valley but that is a lie I promise you never know what is going to happen tomorrow. Don't miss out on your ride of a life time tomorrow you could win the lottery or find the love of your life. Good luck and God bless

Answer 7

you do need help, its finding the right type of help thats key.

I really think you should go back to your doctor and ask for help, they will forward you to the local mental health team in your area and a consultant psychologist will asses you and see how they can help and what they can offer, you may even be given suggestions of other types or help which need to be paid for /are not availible on the NHS.

When you say councelling, do you know what type? was is CBT (cognative behavioural therapy) CAT (cognative analytical theapy) psycotherapy? psychoanalysis? person centred therapy...??? basicly what I am trying to put across to you is there are so many diffeent types of councelling and therapy, each to thier own, for example, I see a psychotherapist, CBT doesnt work for me, but many of my mates swear by it.
Also the therapist or councellor you see will dramaticly alter the way you act and utilise the therapy, if you find after afew sessions you are uncomfotable or not able to feel free to talk or anything, you need to talk this through with the therapist or councellor, it could be an issue for you to work on or it could be a personality clash and then you may be better off seeing a different therapist/councellor

Please dont give up looking, there are so many things you can try, and things you can do, have you also tried group therapy? or group support? have you contacted the mind website or the samaritans website who may be able to offer advice on things also

Good luck,

Answer 8

I am sorry about how you feel. I sincerely care and want you to feel better. Please understand that even though this sounds cliche' it's true... things can't make you happy. I can tell you with 100% no doubt that I know why you feel this way. It's not your body, because you are probably healthy. It is your soul that is lacking. I have heard hundreds of testimonials about people that were in your shoes. The only way that they got relief was from turning their life over completely to God. That is all that you need. You were created for a greater purpose than you may realize, and of course, the enemy of your soul wouldn't want you to fulfill that. Sometimes, when we get low enough, we will cease from our stubborness and call out to God. It is real. Just give Him a chance to help you.

Answer 9

I'm sorry to hear you're so unhappy. I was a lot like that when I was 17 (I'm not much older now, but friends have changed a LOT since then). There is one type of therypist you could try. You go to them, and they are there just to listen (my mother saw one before, she could yell, rant and rave at him all she wanted). It sounds a lot like you need to talk to someone very much, but someone who won't say you are being "childish", going "through a faze", "wanting attention", or, worst of all, that you're being a "whiner" (hate those people). You might think about starting a journal. You can rant constantly to that. You could write stories that cover things in your life and how you'd like them to be (I wrote a very dark story where I...ahm....hurt people). I never did that, but it made me feel better. I got some of the aggression and saddness out. Give it a try, it can't hurt. I hope you feel better, and please don't turn to the knife. If worse really comes to worse, find an annonymous online chat room where you can talk to someone.

Answer 10

I'm practically in the same situation you are, so I don't have lots of good advice or anything but I think you should try therapy and medication.

I know you said you've tried them, but sometimes there is a lot of trial-and-error with therapists and medications. There are good and bad therapists out there and not all medications work for everyone. I myself am still trying to find the right meds that can get the job done.

But please don't hurt yourself. Call the suicide hotline: 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433) or you can send an anonymous e-mail here: http://www.samaritans.org/ And if you want you can e-mail me ([e-mail]) to vent or something.