basically there was a newspaper where he was sat- he was in the toilet and someone said is anyone reading that? I said I think Andy is- anyway this person said "Andy? reading? he can read can he? surely not!?" I thought they were being mean cos everyone thinks he's stupid- he's not, he's intelligent. Anyway a mate of mine says I've heard he can't read, then it all added up- he NEVER answers my text messages, he always says he hasn't got his glasses snd can't read without, he only phones me, and when I gave him a birthday card he looked at it too fast to read it. I really like him and I get the feeling he's holding back because of this..... how can I get him to tell me so I can let him know it doesn't matter to me? He's a wonderful sweet loving guy and he's only in his early 20's.
2007-10-24 13:07:47 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I love him for what he is- he's lovely to me, but he gives so many signs that he wants more then suddenly backs off a bit and I think this is why, thats why I want to get his worry out of the way at least as far as I'm concerned.
2007-10-24 13:22:35 · update #1
I really thought too that he's probably just dyslexic, but I really think he can't read much at all, I quite like the idea of helping him to prove everyone wrong.
2007-10-24 13:25:53 · update #2
Wait a while. If you have only just started dating, I am sure he is afraid of what you will think if he can't read. But, that may not be the case at all. If you feel comfortable ask him about it, if not, then let it go. You like him for him and not for what he can read right?
2007-10-24 13:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by Scooter_The_Squirrels_Wifey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be dyslexic. Of course he is hesitant to tell you. You've just started seeing him. Give it (and him) time. As he becomes more comfortable with you, he will probably eventually tell you. I imagine a lifetime of dealing with this has made him very wary about sharing the information with anyone. In the meantime, continue to show him you like him. Try not to put him in uncomfortable situations, now that you know he has a problem with reading. Don't text him. If you go to a restaurant, read a couple of items off the menu, and ask him "What do you think I should have?". That will give him some ideas from which he might order. Be supportive without being obvious. Good luck.
2007-10-24 20:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't see a 20 year old going through life not being able to read but if this is the case,you need to know,for the simple fact that your friendship depends on it When you to are alone,like in a car,away from everyone,so when you confront him about it he won't run away.Tell him your going to ask him a question and you demand for him to be honest about his answer,reasure him that you'll be there for him every step of the way,help him out and prove every body wrong,when he learns how to read,that would be way cool!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-24 20:22:25 · answer #3 · answered by jasonbatla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you've been wondering something and you don't want to sound mean about it. You were just wondering if he can read. Let him know it doesn't matter to whether he can or not, but this is something about him that you would like to share in knowing because you want to be closer to him
2007-10-24 20:11:56 · answer #4 · answered by Britt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him in love....then find the recourses and help him learn....if he is honest about it.
2007-10-24 20:11:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anna C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋