Ive known this guy for only 4 weeks, but i really like him and we were meeting up etc.. when i said i wanted more, like for him to actually be my boyrfriend, he was like 'im depressed' 'i cant handle a relationship right now'
we still talk, but... how do i get him interested in me again?
have i messed it up
he says he still likes me, how do i ask him to come out with me, without seeming too eager??
aghh
2007-10-24 12:46:28 · 16 answers · asked by Jelena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just be frank with him and tell him how you feel, also take him out for lasertag, thats always fun
2007-10-24 12:48:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with you that you might have come across as clinging, demanding, maybe even a little too over anxious. After all, you had just known him for only 4 weeks.You barely knew him, so why would you say you wanted more like to be his girlfriend. Romantic relationships are based on mutual love , desire, conversation and communication, agreement, and support not on demands.The guy, in a diplomatic way, has turned you down; so , you have to be satisfied with what he is willing to give you.While this does not mean that he may not change his mind and want to be with you, you have to :1)get to know him better---talking and asking questions2)find out if he is involved with another girl; if yes forget it.3)if no, then find out if he likes you and if he likes you romantically4)let him see a different side of you; the not so desperate side.5)take it nice and slow and make sure it is what you both want.I know what I am asking you to do will take some time and may not get you the guy in the long run.But you have to understand that you can not make anyone love you or want to be with you no matter how much you may want it.Hence try to play it cool---interested but not desperate, nice girl who is not a stalker , confident and self assured not clinging and whining. I hope things walk out for you. Good luck.
2007-10-24 13:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!NO!NO!NO! DO NOT ask HIM out. If u ask him out, he could loose interest. IT's happened to me on MANY occasions when I was younger. Let him do the asking. That's the way it should be. Figure it this way, back in the 60's when people got married and are now still together, it was because back the, guys did the chasing, so therefor marriages had better chances of lasting. Now-a-days, it more the other way around and people are divorcing left and right. Women are becoming too attatched and clingy to men. Play hard to get, flirt, and stay nice. Fit that all in some how, and you should get what u want.
2007-10-24 12:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by Sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you've only known him for 4 weeks, it may have been too foward. Maybe try backing off a little bit, not seeming to eager. Guys like a chase. If it's too easy, they'll move on.
2007-10-24 12:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by lc7089 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy has told you right out front that he cant handle a relationship right now why dont you respect that and spend some time with him as a friend and get to know each other. some people dont liked to be pushed. it seem to me was up front telling you what he did. he didnt however say he didnt like you take some time with him on his terms and respect what he told you.
2007-10-24 13:11:08 · answer #5 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would just warm up to him slowly. Starting with the basics (look at the video link below). Then gradually work your way up. Once you think your connection with him is healed (and there's those cute little moments that couples-to-be have), go for it (maybe in a nother cute little awkward moments)!
2007-10-24 12:51:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait minimum of a week, and I mean wait. Don't call him, if he calls you then fine, but don't you call him.
Then simply ask him out. Some guys seem nervous around pushy women, and if you think you might have been "forward" he might see it as "pushy" or "clingy." Back off and he won't see you like that anymore.
2007-10-24 12:50:50 · answer #7 · answered by Tara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um. Wait for him to ask you.
Depending on how he is, he /might/ get the idea that you don't want to hang out with him anymore, but it's worth a try!
2007-10-24 12:50:02 · answer #8 · answered by Keever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be pushy! Just relax and talk to him. Go have a drink or something, nothing serious, just enjoy his company> Have fun together!
2007-10-24 12:51:01 · answer #9 · answered by Craig C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont ask him out agen rite now...find out y hes depressed mayb and wen hes happy or in a RLLY good mood (or if ur this type of person, wen hes drunk) ask him, but dont press on
2007-10-24 12:49:04 · answer #10 · answered by Andrea Gracexox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋