Okay my cousin coiuld hardly wait to get married. She knew she wanted a doctor and she knew he had to be of the same culture and religion...all this since she was little mind you. She is now a doctor herself and is married to a doctor of the same culture and religion (she chased him) but what gets my goat...is that she has to show off for everything...even when she was a kid she always had to have the new outfit for every occasion...and of course we were jealous because she was always so stylish...but what I don;t get is that when she started dated her now husband she immediately bought a faux diamond wedding band and even after they married she still wears and yes she does not let on that it is fake...even though we all remember when she bought it. Is that wierd that she still wears it?? I know I should not care but it just seems strange to me.
2007-10-24 12:30:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
you are missing the point..she bought it for herself before she even got married! now she wears it and passes it off as real. Hello..don't you think it's weird?
Trust me... I am not jealous...I am in the same profession...I just wonder why she passes it off as real to everyone...
2007-10-24 13:07:38 · update #1
Sounds like she has "delusions of grandeur." I know someone just like her. How sad and how infuriating.
2007-10-24 17:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by Jane_S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say she's trying to pose it as a real diamond unless when someone asks she just flat out lies and says it is. Most people won't even think to ask "OMG! Is that fake!"
I will not be having a diamond mostly for professional reasons. I'm an art teacher and not a doctor but I know from experience that stuff gets caught in the settings, the stones get knocked around, fall out....etc. She may be worried about having to tell a patient "excuse me but I left my diamond somewhere in your body so would you mind if we did a MRI?"
Plus just because you went shopping with her years ago doesn't mean she never replaced the fauxs with real stones.
Why do you care anway? Supposedly you are a succesful doctor and I would hope you have your own life and much better things to worry about than if your cousin has faux stones.
2007-10-24 14:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very envious that your cousin has had her dreams fulfilled. Did you ever stop to think that maybe she found a fake ring that she LOVED and she knew that this was the style she wanted forever. Loads of people buy an inexpensive ring - engagement or otherwise - if they see a design they love.Gads, most girls are picking uot wedding gowns and cakes and color themes before they've even left school, never mind found the man. A style of ring is no exception. For all you know, her husband was thrilled to know the ring she wanted and had the ring made in gold and diamonds in the identical style to please her. The fact is, SHE is happy, and you are not. Her ring could have a CZ in it but the band is real gold - which is the usual nowadays. And your cousin might be a realist. She might not care as much about REAL diamonds as YOU do. So maybe it is YOU who are obsessed with "things". Grow up. Any woman who goes to school studies hard, becomes a doctor, finds a man she loves is to be admired, not envied! When YOUR kids groan about school being tough, or dreams being unattainable, tell them about your cousin and let them know that you CAN have your dreams if you work hard and stay focused.You might be in the same profession but you are NOT in the same league! And I'll bet no one else recalled when she got the ring until you brought it up!
2007-10-24 12:41:02 · answer #3 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's very possible that she bought the fake ring to ward off unwelcome advances from other men. It's also possible that she still wears the fake one because of her profession. You don't say what type of doctor she is but she may not want to worry about real diamonds if there is a chance of something falling out at an inopportune time.
What you see as strange, may have logical reasoning behind it. Stop overthinking things and get over your jealousy before it consumes you even more.
2007-10-24 13:01:12 · answer #4 · answered by Cory C 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are still jealous on some level, whether you admit it or not. You've had to deal with "Miss Priss" your whole childhood, and now that you know of something that isn't so perfect about "Miss Perfect", you want to make sure everyone knows!
You can always casually mention in front of a large group of people "Oh...isn't that the FAKE ring that you bought yourself those years ago...." But YOU'LL look like the jerk!
When she goes on about it being real, give her a secret exaggerated wink...which tells her that you know her little secret without coming across as a b**** to everyone around you.
Good luck to you :)
2007-10-24 14:20:06 · answer #5 · answered by kiki 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, since she is a doctor, she can certainly afford a real diamond band now! If not, her spouse probably could afford one. Maybe she wears the faux one because she just really likes it or is attached to it? Some of the fake rings are very well made.....
2007-10-24 12:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A simulated diamond isn't a 'genuine' diamond. in many situations they're produced from the two extreme-lead glass, or cubic zirconia, or rather situations moissanite. you will get essnetially 4 person-friendly forms of 'diamond': simulated (faux in reality), greater valuable (genuine, yet they could be lined with a chemical to advance their radiance, luminscence, etc), synthetic (genuine, as in produced from carbon, yet artificially accomplished so in a lab), and organic and organic (genuine, in many situations dug out of the floor)
2016-11-09 09:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's pretty cool if she likes fake diamonds.
With the way divorce rates are I think think more guys should give CZ at the beginning of a relationship/marriage and if it last get the real stuff for your wife.
Of course women will flip since most women get married becuase of their childhood fantasies... love is secondary.
2007-10-24 12:41:25 · answer #8 · answered by Dave C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she had a identical with a real diamond made at some point. I think it is weird that she even bought it.
If you can get your hands on it breathe on it (like you do the window to make condensation). If it collects the condensation and holds it for a few seconds it is a fake.
2007-10-24 12:38:29 · answer #9 · answered by ~~∞§arah T∞©~~ 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Who cares? Fake diamonds or real...are more important for the wanting of than the having of...
2007-10-24 13:09:55 · answer #10 · answered by bevrossg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It odes seem odd that her success or her fake diamond concern you in the least. Maybe she doesn't want to ruin a good ring at her job or maybe she doesn't want real diamonds because of the conflict status...worry about your own affairs, and leave her to hers. It sounds like she is a very driven woman who knows what she wants and went out and got it...nothing's wrong with that.
2007-10-24 12:59:23 · answer #11 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋