Can somebody help me?

Question

I feel like my friend is ignoring me.
I have this friend, she is a senior, and we have known each other since I was 3(she was 5). She has been great at helping me get throught last year(see other posts) and I need her to be there for me again this year. I have no clases or lunch with her. I have emailed her about 20 times and she has not once emailed back. I see her in the halls about everyday and she used to say hi but she did not today or at all last week. I have also tried to im when i thought she might be on, but after i did that, i went back on the computer and saw that she deleted herself from my messenger.I have no idea what i did.I mean i did not even see her that much over the summer to do anything wrong.Why is she doing this?This is not at all like her. I don't know what to do. Am I just overreacting?I am going to try to talk to her when we come back to school on Monday, but I don't know what to saw, I don't even know if I will have the guts to talk to her. What should I do?

Answer 1

It's painful when people decide to end a relationship of any sort, and it does sound as if she has for some reason decided she doesn't want your friendship just now. This may be because she is going through difficulties herself and she feels too overwhelmed to help you any more. Do try to talk to her - but you may not get a meaningful response from her. If not, try not to take it personally - leave her alone for a while and just think that she is probably having a hard time herself. In a month or two, try talking to her again. Don't bombard her with e-mails - if she's got any anxieties about the friendship, this will make her put up barriers because she'll feel it's just too much. I know it is going to be very hard indeed without the sense of her being there for you, but perhaps it would be good to find other people you can rely on - it may have begun to feel like too much of a burden to her that you were so reliant on her. There WILL be people who are able and willing to support you, but you may need to put some time and effort in to building those relationships and being a help and support to those people yourself. Good luck - and I hope Monday goes OK.

Answer 2

Your friend might be overwhelmed. She might find it stressful or perhaps ran out of advice to give you.

You've asked this question multiple times (still open for answering too). I think you're coming on a bit too strong. Maybe your friend feels the same way too. 20 messages is more than enough, hun.

If you really want to know the truth, you'd have to meet her face-to-face. However, unless she no longer uses that email address or messenger screen name anymore, I think it's safe to say that she no longer wants to, or feels that she is incapable of helping you anymore.

Was this girl actually your friend? Did you help her too? did you guys have fun together like friends do? I used to have a friend who would only call or message me when she was having a hard time. Otherwise we didn't do the things friends did and she never called, hung out, or talked to me otherwise. and it made me feel angry because I felt like all I was to her was a free form of therapy. I'd understand her point of view if your relationship with this girl is the same. Relationships can't be one-sided.

I think you need to set up an appointment with a counselor instead. It must be painful to feel rejected when you are at your worse. You'll be lifting the weight off of your friend's shoulders as well as getting the appropriate level of care and PROFESSIONAL help you need. Good luck.

Answer 3

talk to her you can only ask why . if the problem is on her side and it is nothing that you have done , let the problem be hers .don,t let her bring you down , people come and go in our lives , people change , feelings change you cannot determine how the other person thinks or feels , some people may feel smothered by close friends maybe she needs a bit of time away to value your friendship and know what she has lost , talk to her tell her how you feel, then leave it don,t push your friendship issue with her .if she is a true friend she will hear what you say , if not then don,t let her determine how you will react , just get on with life you never know who is around the corner ...

Answer 4

It must hurt to have a freind treat you that way, especially if you dont know what you have done to make her treat you that way. And its sad.

Its really up to her to let you know whats going on. Why dont you try talking to someone that she knows to try and get it out of them. Maybe you did do something wrong to her but not intentionally. Or maybe she wants to end the freindship for her own personal reasons that have nothing to do with you. Maybe shes doing it to protect you somehow. Only she knows. Its clear that she wants some space, but why?

If I were you, I would give her some space and get on with making other freinds and learning how to get through school in other ways. But I would still be open to the idea of continuing the freindship if she wants to later on.

Whatever happens take it as a lesson in life about people and freinds and the importance of communication.

Answer 5

Anne i could be very flattered,yet i'm Married,i comprehend i'm enjoyed and mandatory lots,i do ought to shelter Her,and could do something for my spouse,She is on my suggestions 24-7,yet as for Her dreaming of me,i only don't comprehend,so take care my candy buddy,and can existence cope with you nicely.

Answer 6

She may be distancing herself from you. You sound a little needy, and she might be a little tired of feeling responsible for your happiness. Be more independent and she'll come around again.

Answer 7

There is nothing to do
sometimes friendships grow apart,
they move on

Answer 8

Talk to her and ask her what the problem is.