You could read my post of ten mins ago...my husband has a daughter he knew nothing about and she may be staying with us for a firtnight in June....we are also expecting a new baby in MArch...my 3 year old is just dealing with the thought of a new sister and now we have another one to introduce her to! I'm worried that it may make her insecure....wont she wonder why Daddy has not been looking after his other little girl?
2007-10-24 11:03:11 · 13 answers · asked by Daisyhill 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
children are flexible and easy, you probably don't even have to explain anything more then "your sister from Australia is coming, aren't you excited?"
As long as you don't make a huge deal out of it, your daughter probably won't.
Maybe you can show her some pictures of the girl, have her make drawings for her, show her on a world map where she lives, let her talk on the phone a couple of times and stuff like that.
That way she doesn't feel left out when the girl comes to stay over and she is prepared.
Good Luck!
2007-10-24 11:11:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
She will only worry about it if you do. She is not old enough for thoughts about why daddy hasn't looked after the other child. She will just accept whatever happens as normal. So it depends on how you present the information and what you tell her. You haven't said how old the other child is. I would just tell her that her that he has a sister who lives in a different country. Don't mention her coming to visit in June. Not yet - nearer the time. But you could tell her about the sister, talk about her very matter-of-factly, let her get used to the idea of having a sister before meeting her. She will have more problems with understanding what another country is, having a sister will probably be the least of her confusions!. Show her on a globe where you live and where her sister lives.
2007-10-24 11:55:49 · answer #2 · answered by marge 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 3yr old is too young to understand it all really, she will understand that she's got a new little brother or sister on the way if u keep her envolved through out & should be excited although can get a little jealous once its born as new born babies get all the attention. She wont think like that about dad not seeing the other child across the world as she wont understand when she comes over she'll probably just look at her as another friend to play with especially as it will only be 4 few weeks she certainly should'nt start feeling insecure about it all, just dont make such a big deal of it all otherwise she'll start to wonder whats wrong with mummy? Kids are a lot more tolerant than we realise just try & keep her routine as normal as u can & keep envolving her with it all. Hope this helps?
2007-10-24 21:41:30 · answer #3 · answered by fay d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she is 3. First of all say it like a surprise. Guess what...You have a sister in ______. Isnt that great/awesome. And guess what...she wants to come spend the night with you in June. Wont that be fun? You have to make it like a new friend is coming over. Kids are easy with change. They may seem jittery at first but will over-come easily once faced with the matter. My kids all know they have a sister 1000 miles away and we make it special when she does come and visit. Some of the kids dont remember her but we show them pictures and tell stories about her to show that she is a kid just like them. Dont worry..In the end they will be happy with a big family
2007-10-24 12:57:39 · answer #4 · answered by grayjj04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it would be hard. My five year old has another little brother from his dad side and same age his brother I have with me from a different dad. His dad just had another baby with his girlfriend and it a sister. He got to meet her. I talk with him and told him that he had another brother and a sister has well. He was three or four about had another brother. He doesn;t get to see them much. He also has a big brother from his dad side too. I talk with him about it. Talk with her and tell you want going and the truth. Can we found out that daddy had another baby with someone else and we didn;t know about it. We going to meet her and she staying the night. It might be hard for her. You can tell her that if she has any questions don't afraid to ask. have her sister stay on a couch till she get used to have a sister. If you put her in the same room your daughter won't like it and won;t handle it well. Tell her the truth
2007-10-24 11:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by Proud mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has a lot of adjusting to do at a tender age. Most toddlers tend to like smaller babies. Although I dont' think your 3 year old will look at it as her father not taking care of the other baby? It's something that will be really new to her, and children tend to be more accepting of change than adults. She may wonder why the other child doesn't live with you if it's her sister?
2007-10-24 11:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have custody of my 3 year old nephew and he has an older sister (7 years) who lives over an hour away and whom he hasn't met yet. I have pictures of her up on my walls and we go through photo albums together and he LOVES the idea of having a sister. I just explained to him that it was his sister. At first he kept saying "that's my friend" but now he understands. He wants to meet her so bad so I'm hoping that he can soon.
2007-10-24 13:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by xoxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is too young to have thoughts about why he wasn't taking care of her, but she may wonder with the new baby on the way and another sister that he may not have time for her. Take it slow. Maybe show her pictures to get her used to her new sister.
2007-10-24 11:09:57 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
she is young...just try to explain things to her like a three year old would..."you have the same daddy but different mommies" "you daddy and your mommy are having another baby who will stay with you all the time" Show her the new nursery. Get pictures of other daughter for her to see ahead of time.
2007-10-24 11:09:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-09 09:42:42 · answer #10 · answered by purifory 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋