My ex keeps pusing me and pushing me...we have been divorced now for a year and he is remarried. I would think we could start to get along but....he still keeps a lot of BS going!
Tell me is this crazy...He does not want our son to bring anything from his place to my place. But he does return anything my son takes from my house back from his place, clothers, toys.
I asked that my son calls me when he is there...But my son has to ask the stepmom before he calls me, which her answer is no, wait until ur dad gets home...But he doesn't get in until late, and he never allows my son to call me.
Further more his new wife of a year, has brought another kid into the picture, not sure if her child or her little sister, but the kicked my son out of his room...so that the other kid sleep in a room, while my son sleeps on a blow up mattress...he isnlt allowed to sleep on the sofa...wife orders.
The wife or other child will not speak to my son...
2007-10-24 10:59:08 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My son is scared of his dad, his father has never really been an active part of his life. Come and go as he pleases, for the most part he uses my son. To make himself look good. He booted my son out of the bedroom for his wifes company, now my son has to sleep on a blow up bed, he also says they never speak to him...I know this is true because his dad never wanted to do anything with my son when I was with him. He isn't allowed to call me..why I still dont know. I offered them support to contact me if my son gets sick, his wife could anytime. But it seems like their angry are not dealing with what they have done very well " The Affair" I'm over that...Why arent they? I don't understand the games, why the wife feels as if she has to control my son or neglect him. I've seen some messed up things take place over there. So I know my son is telling the truth. He doesnt sleep in a room " The wifes little sister has his room and his tv" he has to sleep on a blow up bed in the living room.
2007-10-24 11:16:06 · update #1
isn't divorce great for kids?
2007-10-24 11:06:09 · answer #1 · answered by Lavrenti Beria 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
How old is your son? Divorce is never easy on children. If you son is scared of the father, then he needs to talk to someone besides you, because as a parent we will take the side of our child, so that he can talk to someone that isn't in the middle of it all. Talking may help with the difficulties of divorce. I know I wish my parents would have done it many years ago for me.
If it is as bad as you say, get both sides, find out why he isn't allowed to call. The step mom should not be able to say whether or not he can call. He should tell her that he needs to use the phone and use it. Or rather, get him a pre-paid cell phone, block it except to call important numbers (this should be able to be done) and have him put it into his bag, or jacket pocket. He can call you when he goes to bed.
The most important, if your son is telling truth, and things are that bad then it's time to talk to a lawyer once everything is in order. Track everything on paper, etc. so that you have documentation.
2007-10-24 12:04:12 · answer #2 · answered by Just Want To B Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to remember that you are only hearing one side of the story. Could it possibly be that your son is forgetting to call and is blaming them so he doesn't get in trouble? Could it also be that he is jealous of the step-mom and step-sisters having access to HIS dad 24/7 while he only gets to see him once in a while? Kids have been known to make things up. You need to talk to your EX before you blow up at him for something that might not even be going on. If it IS true, then your EX needs to sit his new wife down and have a serious talk with her about how to treat HIS son while he is there.
I hate to say this, but if her sister is living there full-time she SHOULD have the room. It is not like he is being made to sleep on the bare floor. If you are concerned about how things are going over there take him back to court and see about having supervised visits only for a while.
2007-10-24 11:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if things are as bad over there with your son as you say, you should have no problem taking the ex to court and taking custody from him, but you do need to find out both sides of the story first. at 4 he might misunderstand some things, this is your son you are talking about and you need to do what is best for him
2007-10-24 11:23:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt let him go over there
2007-10-24 14:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by sammi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋