ok im 14 almost 15 i love my boyfriend but is it ok to out with a 18 year old i dont know what to do
2007-10-24 10:41:58 · 91 answers · asked by lorielle m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok dont worry about the people down there. i know from personal experience that age is just a number if youre in love. take my real-life parents for example: they are thirteen years apart, but they love each other, so it doesnt matter. age is just a number.
2007-10-26 17:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by Segan H 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it might not seem like a big deal to the people themselves that are dating especially if they really like eachother, but to the parents its usually a big no no.
if youre in the usa.. that is illegal and he can go to jail for a really long time.
an 18 year olds intentions are much different than a 14 year olds. you should really figure out what he really wants with you. be care full because being older, he could have much more experience than you and he could just be acting all sweet and lovey to get what he wants.
my honest opinion, you should date someone around your own age for now.. maybe in a couple years it wouldnt be a huge deal but right now its not only illegal, but if you are seen with him you could get in a lot of trouble. also.. if this is all in a high school setting, a lot of people might think bad stuff about you because youre dating an older guy.
and people might say its not a big deal because they know their parents are 10+ years apart, but its different. adults have much different minds than a 14 year old or even an 18 year old. they are much more mature to handle a relationship and its mostlikely not based on sex. where as an 18 year olds relationship could be hard without sex and a 14 year olds relationship shouldnt even include sex.
youre so young.
you might have 2300 more boyfriends. try to choose them carefully.
2007-10-24 10:49:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This....is touchy. To you he may seem very genuine, but that doesn't neccesarily mean that he is. I was 15 when I met my boyfriend, and he was 18 as well (7 years ago). He was genuine and really had an interest in me, I don't doubt that you're present boyfriend does, but remember how young you are. I love my boyfriend very much, but I regret committing myself to someone so early. I gave up some of my aspirations as not to be away from him, and I can tell you at 22 I certainly don't live the way I imagined I would. I was in such a hurry to be in love, and to move out and to have my own house that I missed the opportunities to party with my friends, move far away to college and live in a dorm, bartend (not that i'm promoting you do, but it was something I had wanted to do) and do all the things you can ONLY do as a teenager. There is no turning back, once you're an adult with responsibilities you are always going to be an adult with responsibilities. You have so much life ahead of you, what you might find attractive about him now, might seem immature when you're older (trust me on that one). The things you want change as you get older, so I think you should not be worrying about such a serious situation when you should be enjoying life, care-free with your friends. You'll have much more fun with friends than you'll ever have with a boyfriend (another thing you should just trust me on) and plus your friends will still be there if he turns out to be the jerk that he very well could be. I regret alot of relationships I had, but I certainly don't regret any friendships. Be smart, know what you want and don't let any guy change you're mind (it happens even if it's not direct or intentional). Allow yourself time to figure out who you are, you're only 14...I know you probably hate hearing that, but you have alot of time to figure out who you are....it's alot harder to find yourself when you're you + one!
2007-10-24 11:23:15 · answer #3 · answered by Noressa S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not want to hear this but, it's not okay. You may feel mature enough to be with an 18 year old, but unfortunately he's being selfish and immature. He knows it's illegal. He may be thinking of the possible sexual benefits of your age. Not how this can change your life and emotional state still being a minor. You have so much to look forward to in a few years. Don't blow it for someone who has had the pleasure of enjoying his youth. Don't cheat yourself, treat yourself. Trust me if he loves you, he would want the best for you and take care of his business and let you focus on school so that he can offer you positive guidance. I know it's hard liking who you like, maybe even for him. Laws are put into place for a reason. If you really have these deep feelings for him as well, you would not want to help play a part in him getting into trouble for being with you. No matter how you try to hide it, someone always knows and they may report it. It's not worth the trouble. If he's caught, he's going to be know as a sex offender for life. That's not the future you want to be part of. Good luck.
2007-10-24 11:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by bizzi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness, I've been in your situation. I'm actually 16 years old, and my boyfriend is 23. Ok, ready...
It is NOT a good idea for you to date him. There are so many issuess!!
1) you need to work on a strong trust foundation
2) even if you DO love him, do you want to give away your youth for him? thats actually my issue right now, i do love my boyfriend, and the only reason why we would both like to break up is for the benefit of my youth. however, its too late because weve both "fallen" for each other.
** anyway, think about it. do you think having an older boyfriend is worth giving up having fun with friends?
3) why would you want to date him? if your reasons are hes super hot or itd be so cool to date an older guy; forget it. right now.
i hope this helps. overrall, i dont think that there are any good reasons to date him. however, if you do, make sure you guys communicatee!! and be open with your parents.
2007-10-24 10:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by Ceciley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. You are too young to be going out with someone that much older than you. A18 year old will be much different than you, and you probably wouldn't get along with him. But, more importantly, it might not be safe to go out with this 18 year old because he might sexually assault and and there would be nothing you could do about it. Just stay friends with this guy until you are both a little older and then re-think the matter.
2007-10-24 10:47:56 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. There are only 2 reasons a guy that age dates a girl who is 14. Either he's looking for easy sex or he's unable to relate to girls his own age and needs to grow up before he tries to have any kind of relationship. Even if you agree to have sex with him he can be charged with statutory rape. I would drop this one in a heartbeat. I'm a little surprised your mom allows you to see him. There is no way my daughter would be allowed to 1. date before she's 16 and 2. go out with anyone more than a year older than she was.
2007-10-24 10:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by Stacie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dated older guys a lot when I was younger, and I wish I wouldn't have. You are only 14 (almost 15)...your boyfriend is an adult, hes probably experienced a lot more in life than you have. In my mind, you two are on completely different levels, 3 1/2 years is a big age gap when you're young. I would suggest dating someone closer to your age, maybe like 16. Trust me, you don't want to get involved with older guys at such a young age dear.
2007-10-24 10:45:22 · answer #8 · answered by socalkimxo 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
no it's not OK because that person could lead you into things that you don't want do such as having sex..that person would be to experience to have sex for the first time ..not saying that your a virgin or anything but you should really wait for that right person and you should date guys that's your own age not sum 1 that's way older than you because its better to go with sum 1 that's your age cause you can relate to him more than the older person plus if your parents was to ever find out and wanted charges to be pressed he could go to jail for rape even if you/ or they didn't have sex or not..but just cause of the person's age you should just tell that ya'll are better off being friends and that this would be a good idea because you would be looking out for the safety of him......
2007-10-26 15:54:40 · answer #9 · answered by Nish C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No-morally and legally wrong. Only loser 18 year olds find 14 and 15 year old girls attractive (no offense, I'm sure you're a very nice person, but you are a child!!!)
2007-10-24 10:48:15 · answer #10 · answered by erica0129 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutly not! If your 15 you should only go out with a 16 year old or a 15 year old, trust me, don't go out with an 18 year old. Maybe you can go out with an older person when your in college or higher, because my parents are 6 years apart, but they met eachother when my mom was 23. Just don't do it! PLEASE! i know i don't know you but i dont' want you to get hurt.
2007-10-24 10:47:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋