How can I get my mother in law to smoke outside?

Question

My husband, my son and I recently moved in with my mother in law, in an effort to save for a mortgage (it's impossible to rent and save when you live in the south of England). We will be here for approx 2 years. We are in the process of giving up smoking but have always smoked outside, away from our son. She has always smoked in the house and though she usually asks him to leave the room while she smokes, I know that smoke can linger in a room for up to 2 and a half hrs. His clothes smell as a result and my dad has offered to dress him before he takes him to school at his house, but this doesn't help at weekends. He is 5 and knows it is bad for him to breathe it in and, like my dad, is anti smoking but still wants to play with his Nan, but she spends most of her time in her living room (ours is separate). I want to encourage her to smoke outside as the smoke still gets round the house, but I don't know how to ask, after all it's her house. She's not always approachable. Any ideas?

Answer 1

You really can't say anything. You are living in her house I think it is very nice of her to have all 3 of you live there for 2 +
years in order to buy your own home. I know you have a point concerning your child's health but you have a choice move out and get your own place. Or have her smoking effect your sons health

What is more important your sons health or being able to save quicker for a home.?

Answer 2

You are in her home so you can save money. And now you want to set the rules for her. NO!
You knew she smoked before you moved in; now you deal with it but you don't tell her what to do. Move and take longer to save for a house if necessary.

Answer 3

tell her which you be conscious of that she loves the toddler and which you be conscious of that she might choose what's ultimate for the toddler.....do not alienate her with nasty words or demands. She in all probability cares very plenty yet nicotine is an undesirable habit to interrupt. If the toddler is coming homestead smelling like "a bar" then they're (one million) smoking round her and not being completely user-friendly or (2) they're smoking the place the smoke can get to the toddler by way of the air flow consistent with probability. in basic terms ask your considerable different's mom to sit down down with you and talk the difficulty considering the fact which you're very in touch related to the effects of the smoking on those very youthful lungs. 2d-hand smoke might reason allergies, larger repiratory infections, could make babies carriers to ear infections and different issues.....in basic terms enable her be conscious of ways necessary it is to you and to the well-being of her toddler granddaughter.

Answer 4

This is hard. It is her house so you really don't have the right to ask her to smoke outside. She should be doing this on her own. But...since she is not...If it were me........I would ask my husband to ask his mother. He can just tell her that he is afraid that it would harm his son.

Answer 5

Its her house...