My step mom receives social securtiy checks for my disabled sister but she does not take care of my sister. My little sister lives with me and I take care of her. I don't have custody of her but since my step mom lost her leg, she's also diabled for now. so she lives with her mother and my sister lives with me. I've had my sister for the past 2 years. ever since I got married. And I have yet to see a penny from that SSi check. What should I do? I'm the one struggling to pay the bills and she's ordering QVC almost all the time. That's what makes me mad. AS for my dad, he doesn't live with any of us. He lives on a ranch where he works. So that's why I have my sister.
2007-10-24 10:37:37 · 12 answers · asked by ~*lovely one*~ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes you should. But also keep track and have proof of taking care of your sister financially.
If you want to try and keep peace within the family, put it in writing and tell her that since your sister is in your custody and is still there, that unless she makes you the payee, that you will report her and give her 30 days.
Also, you should go to court and apply to be your sisters legal guardian.
2007-10-24 10:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by N M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO don't report her. You could get in a serious legal jam if someone else reports her and says YOU knew and didn't.
Federal prison. Not a bit fun.
This is not so much about her getting ssi, illegally, but that YOU are entitled and don't.
YOU should file and get it. Then when they investigate, she will get in big trouble without you having to REPORT anything.
Know that she will be pissed and will probably not have anything more to do with you, but that is as it should be, right?
Whether you love her, or respect her, or not, tell her BEFORE you file, so she can do the right thing, first. Give her ONE opportunity to do the right thing.-to be legal, and then NO MORE!
Don't threaten to tell. Tell her, you ARE filing right now, and you are giving her a chance to make it right first.
Do NOT BRIBE her or let her buy your silence.That is blackmail.
Otherwise, you are a weasel.
Really, as soon as you took over your sister;' care you were qualified .And she was breaking the law.
Don't let her mistreat you another second. Good luck.
2007-10-24 10:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe there are steps you can take. Technically, the SSI money belongs to your sister and your step mom is stealing it. I would start by talking with someone at SSA. I feel sad for you. This must be such a difficult situation for you. God bless you for doing what's right and taking care of your sister. I'm sure you probably could use the money to use for her expenses. I suggest you talk to SSA and find out what they rules are. There may be some advocacy organizations in your state that can help you find support for caring for your sister and may be able to advise you of your rights as her guardian and your sister's rights as a beneficiary of ssi. You probably need to be able to prove that you are her guardian. I'm guessing something in writing from your father would be helpful. However, there's a lot missing from your question (details about the family dynamics) so I could be giving you bad advice. However, if you are caring for her, then the SSI check should be coming to you to put in an account for HER and to be used for her care and NOTHING else.
I did some research for you. Here is a link
http://www.ssa.gov/payee/faqrep.htm
It is possible that your step mom is a "representative payee." However, she is not fulfilling these duties and you may be able to apply to "take her place" since custody has changed and you now have custody of your sister. Here is a # you can call: 1-800-772-1213.
I assume you also need to be able to prove that your sister lives with you and you probably need to talk to SSA before talking to anyone else so you can "get your ducks in a row" before you confront step mom and she figures out a way to interfere or prevent you from taking care of your sister.
Good luck to you!
2007-10-24 11:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by Amy27 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your sister is living with you then you are entitled to the SSI checks every month. If you were to go to your local SSI office they will give you the option to be your sisters payee for her checks every month. Your mother will not get into any trouble for what has happened in the past (not unless she never bought your sister anything) when she was living with her. I have been in this same situation so I know what you are going through. My advise is to go to your local SSI office and just be honest with them about the whole situation and things will work out in your favor. If you do not take action on this matter you will not get anywhere with financial troubles and it will just get worse. So be brave and do this for your sister and your household. Hope this helps :)
2007-10-24 11:07:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report it and support it by showing proof of you paying for everything. You're not only making things harder on yourself but youre not giving everything you could to your sister. It isn't fair to her or you.
If you mom really was thinking about the best for your sister then she would have been giving it to you before.
2007-10-24 15:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by Susie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i ought to rearrange on your son to be lengthy gone even as this is going down. it ought to get gruesome... he's already considered sufficient, he would not go with to witness this too. in simple terms come homestead early and make effective he's someplace else. What an fool to do this even as your son is contained in the homestead. he's for sure previous sufficient to tattle, no longer previous sufficient to maintain a secret like that.
2016-10-22 23:01:08 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats nice that u are taking care of your sister and needless to say yes you need to report the step-mom, so the sister can get everything she needs , and you and your husband need some support too
2007-10-24 10:47:39 · answer #7 · answered by hppy2b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.....my advice u should considered talking to her first CZ IF U FILE FOR REPORT NOW......they will do some investigation and if they find out u were telling the truth THEY WILL DISCONTINUE HER BENEFIT.....and it MIGHT be hard for u guys to reapply again cz it will show that it has a history of a fraud......
good luck
2007-10-24 10:48:46 · answer #8 · answered by angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd let her know either she start giving you the checks like shes supposed to or your getting help with it.
then she'll have to pay back support too.
2007-10-24 10:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by connieak76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely report her.
2007-10-24 12:40:27 · answer #10 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋