OK this girl that i kinda have a crush on asks me out. But like an idiot i got nervous and said "i don know.... maybe". but now i completely regret that i said that cause i should have said yes. Also a lot of my friends don like her (but shes really hot) and im afraid that they wont be my friends no more. i need help big time.
2007-10-24 10:08:01 · 58 answers · asked by asdfghjkl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Who cares if they are truly your friends, then they will support you decision...or at least respect your choice.
Go back and say yes...what have you got to loose?
2007-10-24 10:11:46 · answer #1 · answered by txbeverly30 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you like her, go for it! Don't let your friends opinions hold you back (if they won't be your friends just because of a girl, what kind of friends are those?). If I would have ever done that, I wouldn't be in my almost 1 year relationship.
Also, don't just go for her if you only think shes "hot". Along the way you're going to want more than that & by more I mean, you'll want a friend or someone to talk to in your girlfriend. So just make sure you have time to catch up on her life and get to know her.
Don't screw this up!
2007-10-24 10:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by hxckidd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself if this girl is really worth it. Are you willing to sacrifice your friends for her? If yes, go for it. Talk to her and explain that you thought about going out with her and are willing to give it a shot. Don't wait to long, because thats just mean to her, and she might lose interest. Talk to your friends, as well. If they're really your friends then they'll be happy for your happiness. They might scoff at first and tease you a bit, but they wont just leave you for broke over some girl.
If you just want to go out with her because she's hot, then dont do it. Relationships never go well if thats all of what the people invloved are interested in. Risking your friendship isnt worth it if what you risk it for isnt really what you want in a girl.
2007-10-24 10:17:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, don't go out with a girl just because she's hot, that won't last too long. All you'll be able to do is look at her. Make sure you have stuff in common, compatible personalities, etc.
You can't really choose your girlfriends based solely on your friends' opinions. If they can give you GOOD reasons, listen to them, they want what's best for you.
If you still want to go out with her, tell her you're sorry you got so nervous before, and that you'd really love to accept her offer. If she's still okay with it, tell her you're really looking forward to going out with her. (Girls like reassurance.)
2007-10-24 10:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anniekd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry you didn't mess up. You telling her that makes it seem like you want to think about a commitment which is fine. I am sure if she is really hot your friends will be happy for you and probably jealous. Don't worry....just tell her yes and the go have fun! And if your friends can't accept that then they aren't really friends.
2007-10-24 10:12:35 · answer #5 · answered by mastermind4444 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, well, if you really like the girl, go back and tell her what you just told us. Apologize for the flaky answer, tell her how you really feel, and say YES.
But also... you should think about more than just physical beauty. Why don't your friends like her? Is she rude? Mean? Catty? Any of those things? Reevaluate your feelings for her... if she has a lame personality, your relationship is about to SUCK. But if they just don't like her for some superficial reason and she's really a nice girl who also happens to be attractive, then go for it!
2007-10-24 10:12:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be to easy as some like to see you jump at there offer>Then dump you>You did fine not what she wanted to here> So Be cool and talk to her if she asks you again or says what do you think than say what would you like to do>Your friends wont like you some friends there jealous or what>
2007-10-24 10:17:48 · answer #7 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should say yes. I had the same problem last week. I was dating this guy that my friends thought was using me. but they got over it because i told them that if you were truly a good friend, you would be happy for me and if i get hurt just be there.
2007-10-24 10:13:40 · answer #8 · answered by Barn Babe_1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have her # or e-mail addy? Tell her, you know what...I can definetly go out. Despite what your friends think--you need to find out for yourself what kind of girl she is...hot or not. If she turns out to be obnoxious, than don't plan on a second date--if she ends up being great, than maybe your friends will see that and appreciate it.
2007-10-24 10:12:16 · answer #9 · answered by rosecolured 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A friend will be a friend no matter who else is in the picture. As you should be for them, If she doesn't like your friends don't abandon them.
I would give her a call and tell her that you regret not accepting her offer immediately.
2007-10-24 10:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by labken1817 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your body language would have given you away,
that you were nervous & tongue tied, try to put that to the back of your mind.
you don't really need help, you just need another opportunity to say Yes rather than an unhelpful maybe.
try again next time you see her.
why don't your friends like her?
she wants to go out with you, not them!
2007-10-24 10:16:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋