I have been dating this guy for about 5 months now, he moved in within the first month dating, because "he had no where else to go". Things were fine, until I found out he lied to me about pretty much everything, just so he would get me to date him. He put on this front of who he really was so I would date him. We some what worked passed this, and I became close with his best friend. His best friend and I have been talking on and off and innocently flirted. My boyfriend and his best friend are no longer friends over something that happened between them. Now I have confessed everything to my boyfriend, but I just feel like something is still missing between us. I love my boyfriend, I just question everything he says because I think it is a lie. I also am afraid I am "settling" for this guy, when I don't know if he could ever provide me with the kind of lifestyle I like and need. I have never been married, we both have 1 child each, no children together.
Please help!
2007-10-24 09:26:53 · 9 answers · asked by Re 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you probably know what to do deep down. it's scary to have to let someone go you trusted at one point and care for. but if you think you are settling then girl, get him out of your life. it's easier to just let it go on living with him then to face the emotional stress of a break up and having to move on.
if there is something missing and you aren't happy then you have to do something about it. if you know he won't give you what you want or need then it's time to pack his butt up and kick him to the curb. and if you can't trust him now then what do you have left?? it's more stress to constantly try to figure out if he is lying to you. what kind of life is that?? and you don't want your children to see that...they will think it's okay.
don't settle ever. there is someone better out there that won't lie to you. good luck!!
2007-10-24 09:34:22 · answer #1 · answered by Matilda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. Everything he said was a lie and will continue to be a lie. Something IS missing. A foundation built on truth and love and respect. What are you teaching your kid? That it's ok to be a crutch for someone who only wants to be with you because he "has nowhere else to go"??
2007-10-24 16:31:03 · answer #2 · answered by Quenn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well....
1st off you guys rushed in to things before actually knowing each other
2nd...If he lied to you from the get go then don't expect to get the full truth later.
3rd...Don't put your child nor his thru this....It's bad enough you're not sure what you want.
4th... Maybe you need to tell him to straighten up or get out!
No one will ever be perfect but don't live your life in disappointment.
2007-10-24 16:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by Vloz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you love this guy to me. You may find him attractive and fun to be around, you may even care about what happens to him, but you don't have any kind of faith in him - with good reason. I'd get him out of your house to clear your head and see whether he's capable of independence (or even interested in sticking around if you're not giving him room and board), and go from there.
2007-10-24 16:35:56 · answer #4 · answered by MM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already answered it. You feel like you're settling and you are. Get out of the relationship and meet someone else who you are jazzed about and that adores you. Life is too short to settle.
2007-10-24 16:30:45 · answer #5 · answered by love_ferrari 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are not sure then seperate. If you both feel like it later you can get back together. Be sure and find out what you want.
2007-10-24 16:32:03 · answer #6 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"You've already 'SETTLED DOWN' with this 'guy', once you
have allowed him to 'SETTLE IN'."
"It's a little too late to be 'tripping' on what's missing in your
relationship, when you already have 'TRUST ISSUES' that
you haven't dealt with."
"I don't believe any woman would allow me to stay in HER
HOME, when she begins to question me about things she
would have already understood as DECEITFUL."
2007-10-24 16:38:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a liar always aliar....leave him hun
2007-10-24 16:31:17 · answer #8 · answered by Ginger86 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what'sgoingon
2007-10-24 16:31:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋