Im no stranger to rejection but...?

Question

I feel like too much rejection is messing me up. Consider the following...I've never actually broken up with my exes. Pretty much i've been dumped everytime. "no" or "just friends" or "no way" are phrase that i know all to well. I just feel that this is gonna mess me up as far as confidence is concerned in the future. Any advice?

Answer 1

I've been rejected several times, as well, even by someone who had a mutual attraction to me. Sometimes, it is a good thing to be rejected sooner than later, because it will end up hurting you more if they test you out first and let you fall in love and then dump you. I think, if you meet someone, give it time before you say anything; maybe they will make the first move! Don't worry about it; it isn't you, I am sure, because it happens to everyone (some more than others) but don't let it shoot down your confidence. You may be aiming for the wrong type of person or maybe you are displaying your feelings for them too soon or at an awkward moment.

Answer 2

Hello Felix,
I hope this finds you in better spirits after you read on. My friend rejection is not a bad thing. Realize, if you were not ever rejected what type of guy you would be, you know?
Think about the characters and personalities of those who have told you those things you've mentioned, to let you know they are not interested. Thank your lucky stars. I believe you have a guardian angel that will be right there until your perfect mate comes along. It doesn't matter if you are in your 40's even, Felix. You need and deserve someone as good as your own mother or mother type has been to you. Nothing less will ever do. Think about how many heartfelt break ups you are avoiding. Felix, if you are asking people out maybe you should wait, as I promise you, personally, you will be equally loved, as you deserve, it is right to wait for the person who will stand by you, on your side, to help one another through this human tragedy on this planet school...

Answer 3

That sucks, but just know that you aren't the only one feeling like that. People every where get feelings like this.

Just think, what doesn't kill you can only make you stronger, right?

Maybe the girls you choose to go out with aren't "your type" (not that I believe in types). Look back on the relationships you've been in and think about the girls you've dated. What do they all have in common (the good and the bad)? What qualities did you like about them? What did they like about you? Why did they break up with you? Why didn't you see it coming? Now that it's over and done with, could you have found signs of a break up coming on?

As we all get older, I think we learn a bit from everything - relationships being one of them. When it comes to dating, try looking for some one a little different from the people you've gone out with...some one with just a little more "whatever" it is that you like. It isn't so easy always, but it's probably a better idea to find some one who's more likely to be your friend first and then maybe step it up to the next level.

Rejection hurts, but don't let it drop down your confidence. After all, if they went out with you to begin with - that means there's got to be some quality that gives off an air of attraction towards you.

[: Keep your confidence up. ((If you can't love yourself, how can you love another?))

~

Answer 4

i feel for u :) well u know what that kind of rejections can cause some problem later on in ur life... it will affect ur confidence to ask someone to be someone that u would like to have close relationship with. Well the advice is that u have to wait until u r sure that she likes u too. If u do get another rejection just take it easy.... it is not the end of the world... u'll find the right one next time

Answer 5

it seems like ur very familiar with rejection..its okay ive been rejected to in my life..dont stress too much about when i girl says no or just frds or no way bc it doesnt really matter..ur life will be messed up if you take rejection real hard..when someone says no or just frds they juzz mean that they need a break from you...or they lost interest in you...ud definetly find a grl thats rite for you...but not now..when u take rejection seriously and roughly ur ruining ur life bc all ur thinking about is WHy the hell did she DUMP me??? and stuff..thts all ull thk about instead of going out there and getting a new grl...im sure ur pretty good looking and that ull get a grl soon but patience and make sure shes the one or else ull get dumped over and over and over..oo yeah she should like u for who u r..not tht u is popular or sexcii or..u know wht i mean...*good luck*

Answer 6

dont worry they're probably not good 4 u neway so them saying no to u is probably saving u a bigger heart break ...just relax and enjoy life b/c is too short....i never broke up with ne1 b4 they all dumped me...but i found happiness sooner or later everyone does...Just look @ it this way " better to have loved and lost than never loved" lol i like that....dont ever give up on love b/c its wonderful thing just b/c some ***** rejected u its no reason to lose confidence ur probably an amazing guy so dont put urself down trust me they're NOT WORTH IT!

Answer 7

I too have been rejected and still do get rejected not always by girls but by my "friends" aswell. I rarely get invited out anymore and am often interupted and ignored. Eventually you learn to deal with it and in turn it pushes you to become more confident and be your own person. In time you will learn you can be who you want to be and no1 will stand in your way.

Answer 8

Take things slow, Make sure the person actually likes you before asking them out, or on a date. Rejection hurts. and it could lead to depression. Just be careful :]

Answer 9

Nobody's perfect. If they reject you like that, it's their loss, not yours. It's also their fault for missing a good opportunity in you. Don't give up. Just still have confidence in youself. You;ll find the right one. You know, learning from your failures could lead to sucess in finding the perfect one.

Answer 10

Just remember that its part of life. Eventually you will meet that perfect person and get married and learn to hate them....j/k you will meet someone, it just takes time. It always seems like if you are looking for someone you will never find them or you will meet a ton of duds. Dont rush and dont give up!! It will all work out :)