my friends really worrying me shes always said shes fat and shes not at all. She always said she would never go on a diet but suddenly its all changed its as if her whole life is changing .. shes started not going out for meals incase people are watching how much she eats and is always weighing her self and making her self sick after meals im the only person who knows about this and she doesn't want me to tell her parents what should i do !!?
2007-10-24 08:55:29 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sounds to me like a subtle cry for help from your friend -- as if both you and she recognize there's an eating disorder that's taking root.
My advice? Talk to your school's guidance counselor, and tell them your concern. They can then take action, and perhaps mask your involvement in this; after all, if you notice these things, then others might, as well.
Good luck to you -- and your friend.
2007-10-24 09:01:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im afraid that you are going to haev to go behind your friends back and tell her parents if you really DO care for her.
You are going to not like this suggestion, but it honestly is the only way. Other advice i can presume are going to tell you, stick up for her, just be there for her, show her pictures etc,
But in a realistic way if your friend really does have a serious problem the onyl way to combat it is together.
With the support of all family and friends , from the early stage that she is in its crucial to monitor her and maek sure shes not going too far. It may sound rotten but bulimia is one hell of a tough disease to crack, and the only way to get through to a person with such a problem is for EVERYONE to keep on Constantly being there for her and trying to put her off.
Its a tough battle and a tough question, and helping a bulimic is a matter of fine balance for the people trying to help them between trying to put them off (e.g showing them pictures of size 0's, rotten teeth from the sickness , telling your friend she will suffer from loss of periods in extreme cases etc.)- what can on one hand result in success as she wont want rotten teeth or loose her periods, but on the other hand may also give them more fire and reason to do it.
Same as if you go for the option of not trying to push her- on one hand doing nothing is nto the answer and she may slip more and more deeper into bad habits and more into the risk of it becoming a longer lifetime problem, whereas on the plus, no pressure is very good attitude towards bulimics as when they are given pressure to eat and not regurgiate, that is when they actually yet again find the fire and reason to do it.
If the problem becomes much more serious you need to really consider telling her parents if you cant seem to find teh right balance as the options I have told you above. After that im afraid that its the big guns, and its hospital and visits to eating disorders clinic.
2007-10-24 09:11:11 · answer #2 · answered by Skye_Babez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like your friend has a problem, and she needs to get help before things start to spiral out of control. Things will only get worse if she doesn't get any help or treatment, and she could do some serious, and permanent damage to her body. Tell her you are worried about her. Tell her that she really is not fat at all, and that you think she should talk to someone. Ask her who she could truly open up to. If she is scared, ask her to write down her feelings. Tell her you are right with her through all of this, and that you will go with her to talk to someone. She could talk to anyone to start with, such as a parent, friend, relative, doctor or teacher, but you really both need to pass this on to someone else now. It's not fair for you to have all this worry on your shoulders. Please tell her that you are so worried and that you cant handle this alone, but you will help her find someone who will help and support her in getting better.
2007-10-24 09:30:34 · answer #3 · answered by pinkygazoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sometimes being a good friend means telling those who can help but you may want to try to figure out what trigered this for her and try to boost her self cofidence tell hoe pretty she is remind her of fun memories and just figure out what happened if it doesnt work go to her parents before its too late and she hurts herself really bad and then you will have guilt and feel like y ou werent such a great friend
2007-10-24 09:11:00 · answer #4 · answered by usmhotchic123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ridiculous to be obsess over weight. As long as she exercise intensely 5days week and eat healthy she will naturally be slim and will never have to worry. It's a lifestyle choice and being obsess over weight doesn't do any good.
2007-10-24 10:17:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a true friend who is capable of acting in the best interest of another person...talk to your friend first, telling her she does need help for this, emphasizing that as her friend you will not keep this dangerous secret any longer...help her choose who to talk to...school counselor, her doctor, her parents, a teacher, your parents...but you will get her some adult help by telling someone...if she ditches you as a friend you will know that you did the best you could for her...that is what real friends do...
2007-10-24 09:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by mago 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry I can't help but I have the same problem as your friend I force myself to eat and then i throw it up.
2007-10-24 09:02:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋