How am I supposed to get help if my parents don't even support me ???

Question

I am asking this because lately I have been so feeling so overwhelmed with depression and my lack of motivation for anything, that I don't even bother going to school anymore, even though I am supposed to graduate this year.
(and from college too)

and my parents keep screaming at me for being a failure and messing up my life and they insist that I get a job at least if I am not going to go to school anymore.
This just adds to my stress.

I know that I want to end this pain and do something with my life but how can I if I can't even get out of my bed in the morning and I don't have any emotional support from anybody..??
I don't have any friends either.


I want to get help but how can I if nobody understands ??

GITWITITT - you have been blocked for being a super jerk who doesn't care about anybody's feelings

anthony9223 - when you hit rock bottom I am going to LAUGH in your face..

The rest of you - you have no idea how much your answers mean to me..
thank you so much

Answer 1

If you are in college, there is probably some form of health care center on campus that you could go to. They are usually free of charge but every college is different. Either way, it is definitely something worth looking into. They may have someone on campus who can help you or they can refer you to someone close by. Many times, just having someone to talk to on a regular basis about anything you choose without interruptions is a big help. If your depression is severe, they may recommend a prescription. Prescriptions can be very helpful in these situations. Sometimes depression can be caused by hormonal imbalances also. That doesn't mean there's any problem with you or your life. It means that one or more of your hormones are being overstimulated and others are being understimulated. Your doctor could probably explain this a lot better. I'm just a massage therapist. Which brings me to my next point. Massage is a great way to boost your energy, improve your attitude and brain function, and support overall health and well being. Basically it gets the blood flowing, which brings oxygen and nutrients to tissue more often than if you were just lazing about, and helps your entire body to function better and more efficiently.

Those are just a few ideas. I hope at least one of them helps you out. Also, about not having any friends. I don't know if that is a slight exaggeration or not on your part, but I would be willing to bet that you have a lot more people that care about you than you think. I've been in situations where I felt like I had no friends and noone to talk to. It's a really tough situation to deal with, especially since life doesn't stop for a time out. If there's someone you haven't talked to for a long time or even someone you think you're very close with, call them. Ask them for help. You'll be surprised how many people care about you and want to help you.

As for your parents, I'm sure you realize that they care for you and love you. As a parent myself, I can say, there a lot of times where parents may overreact (and sometimes underreact). In my opinion, the main reason for this is lack of communication - that's theirs AND yours. If this the problem, then you need to make the extra effort to communicate exacly how you are feeling lately and how they are affecting those feelings. For example, "I've been feeling really depressed lately and that's why I haven't been going to my classes. It hurts to get out of bed sometimes and I could really use someone to talk to. I would like to be able to talk to you about this, but it's hard for me to talk to you when you are accusing me of being such a failure. I just want you to listen to me. I want to get better, but I need some support from you also."

And one last thing. Get this taken care of as soon as possible. There's still time for you to get things together at school and you can still graduate on time if you work at it. but remember also, there's always next year to finish the courses if you need to. Don't worry about being a failure. When I was in 4th grade and my science project didn't work the way it was supposed to and I had nothing left to show for it, I was so upset that I failed. My science teacher told me something that I will never forget til the day I die: "You can only fail if you give up."

Good Luck with everything. And if you do need someone to talk to anytime, I'm here. [e-mail]

Answer 2

I know exactly how you feel although I'm in high school. A couple years ago I was so depressed I didn't want to go to school, so I stopped going.( I had a lot going on in my home life) Since my parents were too busy fighting with eachother (now divorced) I realized I only had myself to rely on. So now YOU have to do what's right for YOU. This is YOUR life, nobody elses, and you only get one so make it good. Get up every morning and force yourself to go to school because in the end you're going to regret it if you don't. Why not finish your last year? Talk to your professors about what's going on and I'm sure you'll get their support. Just remember, you have to do this for you and no one else. Good luck and follow your heart no matter what. There are more people out there that understand you more than you think.

Answer 3

I feel your pain because I was depressed at one time in my life. You may be surprised to know that even though you feel alone, you're not. When I was depressed, I felt like nobody cared, but that was the depression talking. It will put things in your head and twist what people really mean to say. First of all you need to seek out a psychologist. You may be able to find one at a reasonable cost around your school. They will listen and may be able to prescribe something to help. Second, you can do a search online in your area for support groups. Sometimes your family and/or friends are not the people to talk to. You may be better off with people who have or are having the same issues. Don't stop moving forward because you will regret it.

Answer 4

College campuses usually have a mental health center where students can go to get counseling. Are you on any meds? I would explore this option because it might be once you are on the right medication you will be able to graduate and function normally.
Speaking from experience my mom really didn't believe I needed the medication until she saw me on it for awhile and then suddenly stop taking it. She realized that it was really helping me and I needed it to be productive. Unfortunately, some people think mental illness is a weakness. Which totally isn't true. But you cannot change someone's beliefs. You need to find some support else where. That's when you go to a counselor, talk with friends, there are also depression support groups out there for help as well.
You are not alone. Many people suffer from this disease and you can get through it.

Answer 5

You are clearly suffering from depression. Please call this number. They will talk with you and give you advice as to what to do and who you can contact for help:

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Answer 6

Have you tried contacting someone in your extended family? Sometimes if your parents don't understand you could talk to an Aunt or a Grandparent. If you don't have anyone in your family I suggest that you go to a Church you feel comfortable with and talk to someone there. I'm sorry that you do not have the support system that you need but there are people out there who are willing and able to help you. Also, if you are enrolled in school there should be counselors available to you. You are not alone and this will pass and things will get better. I hope you feel better soon and get the support you need. Much luck to you.

Answer 7

God is your Father/Mother. If your earthly parents are useless in this area, they may even be part of the cause!!!

There are at least four pathways to depression, and they often act together.

Some people but not everyone have a significant biochemical component to their depression.

The first step towards regaining happiness in your life is understanding how and why you hurt.

The second step is seeing that you are not alone and that others have felt the same way.

Usually other factors are involved as well, including stress
(see link to "stress" info below, under sources).

Some people learn to be depressed. Developing a habit of negative thinking, always making things worse than they are, and you can lead yourself to depression.

Finally, you need to learn from others how they overcame their fears, anxieties, depression and grief.

Answer 8

You have to take some action to get some help. You are depressed, depression happens to a lot of people, and many have been and will be helped. I know it seems -- to you -- as if there is no help, but there is. Talk to a minister, or your college may have a counselor who can refer you to someone good. There are many good folks out there who can meet with you and perhaps let you see that this depression can be overcome. Don't count on anyone else helping you get help, though. Get it yourself. Take some action; pick up the phone and call someone.

Somebody understands, just trust me in this. I'm sorry you're in pain and feel as if you are all alone, but you are not alone. Someone can help, you just need to make one step, a baby step, to get that help.

Answer 9

You'll have to take responsibility for your own life. It will be hard but worth it. No one else has to live your life so it probably doesn't matter to them if it goes down the drain. You are the one who has to live with it so it's up to you to make it better. If you are really that close to getting your degree-PUSH THROUGH! I cannot emphasize this enough. When I was young I dropped out of college (more than once) and now I'm in my 30s and my life sucks. I am having to make up for that. I am in my last semester of a stupid little two-year degree and feeling depressed/not motivated/unable to get things done. But I refuse to allow myself to ruin my life again. If I would have stuck with it when I was young I would be where I want to be already and not have to be super poor with a crappy job and needing financial assistance from my parents all the time. GET IT DONE! You can lay in bed after you have a degree.

Answer 10

well if ur overwhelmed now multiply that by 100 if you dont finish school and get a decent job
the stress will tear u apart
i think they mean well but not to good at expressing it
i noticed that with alot of parents they try to motivate their children by telling them what theyll become if they dont do this or that
well whatever i support you finish school and get outta bed enjoy the day
go out and meet ppl mingle get to know classmates find ppl that look like they have the same interest
hope im not confusing u to lazy to write commas and period lol
im no parent and im not too old im 23 so im sure were around the same age just thought id mention that