What are the positives that outweight all suffering of a human being?

Question

u are born - u suffer, u loose parents - u suffer, u loose other relatives - u suffer, u get illnesses - u suffer, u must go thru absurdal things like formal education and career bullshit - u suffer, u pay your mortgage for decades - u suffer ... etc

u get most of these great gifts from just being born to this world
its given! no need to do anything to get this misery!

now u need to do really ALOT to get some positives to outweight those negatives. is this fair? dont keep saying this is life, blabla, look at this honestly and say why would u bring anyone to this world... just to give yourself a chance to outweight negatives to make your life less negative ... but transfer this problem to your child?

Answer 1

Well I'm sure you can also name some fun you've had in your life as well. You have birthdays, you have family, you have friends, you have the yahoo board to help you. There is good food in the world, there are some very kind people. I am sure if you really really think about it you can name some good stuff in the world and in your life also. Nothing in life is all black and nothing is all good. Life is grey and it's a mix. It's also what you tend to focus on. Is that glass really half empty or is it half full?

Answer 2

U r born - you have worlds of opportunity laid at your feet. U loose parents - but - hopefully you've gained infinitely more from them and have the ability to try to teach your children. U get illnesses - U can also overcome more than you ever thought you could - The 'absurdal' education either public, private, formal or informal, is better than no education at all or even the opportunity for education - cherish what you learn as it's one of the only things you will ever truly own. U pay your mortgage - IF you are fortunate enough to first have a mortgage and second afford one - you are doing infinitely better than a large percentage of your peers. The gift of life is unique to the 'beholder' It means different things to different people - bottom line is perspective, friend. Take life for what it offers and don't focus on the minutiae - the small things are just that - look to the big picture and see where you fit - that's where you belong. My children came in to this world for many reasons - I hope they explore every pleasure and learn from every pain - because if they feel it - they're alive.

Answer 3

You need to get out into the country, sit by the water, watch the things your missing sit back and people watch I preffer animals but people will do.
Your going too hard too fast for far too long. And you've forgot what you wanted in the first place. Go to the Zoo I mean it! Go to the Zoo twice this month and and go to the park three times this month ok within 4 weeks.

What I'm saying it take the time, it's yours and every minute you live only comes once. After that you missed it. PS go watch some old movies musicals and cartoons are best. Then you can go back to that rush hour that lasts a lifetime.

I reread some things and thought I should add, that you lose your parents but gain your children and grandchildren. If not you borrow your sisters or brothers or umm well you get it right?

Answer 4

If you're lucky, you get a formal education then a successful career, you find true love, you purchase or build a nice home, you have children, then grandchildren, you retire to spend your remaining days with your loved ones, then you move on to your great reward, if that is your belief... It pretty well equals out... You must suffer for the rewards that life offers...

Some of us must suffer more than others which doesn't seem fair, but that's life...

Consider the men and women in our armed forces that are dyeing every day so that all of us over here in the states have the opportunity to do all this. Think of their suffering, and the suffering that their families must endure for the rest of their lives... You don't got it so bad, do ya?

Answer 5

then we can start asking- why am I here? I bet that thought has crossed the mind of someone who asked that.
I constantly feel exactly the same and know where you are coming from. Life is full of nothing but bad luck, its a one sided battle, and no matter what I do - i cant seem to get that little gold dust called good luck. Hell, i will admit it, it upsets me insanely sometimes.
Back to the point- if this person who asks such a question as to why bring others into the world and has such a large scale bad luck, then i can imagine they may also be at risk of sucidial tendencies.

The only thing we humans can do in this world called life that we are given is to do what the hell we can with it and just thank god that we are here. Sure we have the crap piled onto us, some of us get moer than our fair share.(hint hint). Just go through with it and do teh best to muster up yoru feelings. Even try talking to someone close, take it day by day do little things to make your life better.
Instead of taking bitter revenge back out on the life that was given you, try giving it back in the way of treating yourself- if youre going to have a crap day, instead of downing the alchohol (although i dont say no to that ;) - you are going to FORCE a good life. Go out for a meal in a nice outift, thats one good day in your life that you are doing YOURSELF.

I know my words might not be clear, but in a situation of someone who has bad luck piled on them constantly like a bad snow shower 24/7, such another person might understand.

Answer 6

Yes it is fair. The whole point of life is to learn. If everything is perfect and happy all the time you wouldn't learn anything. I still would never bring a child into this world, though.

Answer 7

well u need to stop looking at the world in that way-your born you get to live-you get a girlfriend boy friend you get a first kiss- you get married and have children you start a family! there are lots of positive things on earth just think POSITIVE and not so negitive

Answer 8

You have to apreciate all of the small things in between the crap, you can see and walk and smell and hear, start looking for positives, why concentrate on negatives?

Everything is right in front of you it's your choice. You are alive!!! make the best of it now b4 too late.

Answer 9

The love of freinds and family. A babies first word. Birth itself. There are too many to name. Ypur looking at the thorn not the rose.

Answer 10

Well I don't think you're wrong but I am guilty of having had children. I didn't think that way when I was young. They in turn have had children. All we can do is take pleasure in them and love them and hope they don't have too bad a time. They make my life worth living and I hope that their children will make theirs worth living too.