Abstinence?

Question

Do you believe that people should stay abstinent until marriage.

Answer 1

Think about it this way: What's the best gift you could give your husband? All of you! If you give yourself away again and again before marriage, pretty soon there will be nothing left when he comes into your life... you will be used merchandise, and he will find someone else more pure and whole. I've had sex, and I wish I had stayed abstinent until marriage. It's a priceless possession - keep it while you have it. In five minutes you can be like the rest of the world- but they can never be like you.

Answer 2

I think it depends on the person. I can't imagine having waited. I would have built up all this drama about NOT having sex, rather than just realizing that it is ONE part of a relationship. For some reason, us Puritans have built up sex as being this BAD thing, and it's not! It's natural, it's healthy, it's something you need to try with different people. You don't feel love just for the one you marry, so why just try sex with one person? IObviously you need to be careful about getting pregnant and STDs, but there will be a few right people in my opinion, and you need to see what you are getting into.

That being said, I think waiting until you are 18 and out of high school just so you are emotionally ready.

Great Question!

Answer 3

NO! It has been shown in a number of studies from the federal government down that abstinence does not work. Primarily those signing pledges but others as well. The pregnancy rate among unmarried is higher as is the rate of STD's. Because they still have sex even with a pledge.

Those waiting also do not have enough experience to know what to do when married and the divorce rate is thus higher.

Those of you whom think you can show me where God says to wait, I don't think you can show me...it IS NOT there! God gave us sex to be enjoyed in and out of marriage...except by the old Hebrew laws where a married woman having sex with another than her husband was considered adultery...unless the husband gave permission or told his wife to. If you care to dispute me my address is available through YA but be forewarned you will loose! so don't just give me a thumbs down unless you REALLY know what you are talking about.

Answer 4

I think you should wait until marriage.
Do you want to be a sex buddy to someone, because you can do it well?
Or would you rather have that person love you for you?

Because, chances are that person might get bored or tired of you, and you might break up. The connection will probably get stronger once you sleep with them, so if something does cause the relationship to end, do you want to just get over it quickly? Or spend the longest time being upset that you gave yourself to someone who wouldn't want you?

Abstinence is what I'm doing.

That's just the way I see it.

Answer 5

I do agree that abstinence is the best protection one has against STD and unwanted pregnancies. And yes, I do think people should stay abstinent till they marry.

Answer 6

I think it is a personal choice. Some people want to wait just to say that they have only been with the person they are married to. Others would rather have the experience in they life and know what they are getting themselves into. Marriage isn't always for life, as we have seen with the high divorce rates these days.

Answer 7

Whether stated in religious practice or by convention the choices are your own. "Go forth and be fruitful" has a meaning of procreation that supposedly said by a higher source. It does not say abstain from sex until (possibly) you find the right one. Modern performances teach us that even the right one does not necessary last. You then waste the time learning to love physically all the time away.
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Answer 8

Not necessarily. If you are ready to have sex before marriage then you should. If you want to wait until marriage that is ok too. There is really no right or wrong answer. It is up to the individual person to make that decision.

Answer 9

I think it would save a lot of heart ache. Lots of people view sex as a part of "love" while LOADS of people do not.
Sex seems to pull you closer to your partner if you view it in a loving way, yet this can lead to heart ache if the other person does not.
I think it depends on the individual, I mean just look at "swingers", they seperate sex from love all together.

Answer 10

I honestly don't care whether people abstain or not. But if you are going to be sexually active and your aren't monogamous and ready to have a child, use protection.