17 year old VERY IMMATURE SON.....?

Question

What do I do to get him to grow up?? His 13 year old brother is more mature than he is. HELP!!!!

Answer 1

Getting a job would help because then he would learn some responsibility. Also, perhaps the high school guidance counselor can help give you ideas.

Answer 2

I would say give him an ultimatum. When he turns 18, let him know that he should be working and/or going to school and contributing to the house expenses. If he cannot do that, he should be kicked out.

17 is a little old to be immature. Obviously, he knows that you are allowing him to get away with it and will continue to not take you seriously. Lay out some immature rules for him and make him feel the way he's acting. If you 13 year old is being more mature, give the 13 year old more rewards!

Good luck!

Answer 3

I am going through the same thing, it's very difficult to deal with, being a single mom. Everyone tells me it's because of the age so I'm hoping that's true. I would hate to think of my son being an immature adult, let alone the immature teen he is right now. Sometimes as parents we don't have any control in who our kids become. What I mean is, for the most part, yes, we teach them how to act and not act, how to be responsible and kind. But ultimately they will be their own person.

Answer 4

I am sorry but it is a little late in the game to try to get him to mature up now. When did he turn 17? How does he behave? Has he ever had a job? What have you done differently with the 13 yo? Get tough now. If he is unruly, call your county prosecutor's office and see if they have any programs that can be a helpful eye opener. If he still plays with GI Joes, call a counselor and take away the toys.

Answer 5

Key words here are son and 17, my brother is 20 and still acts like a 15yr old. Make him get a job or something that gives him responsibility.

Answer 6

Giving him more responsibility at home/school is a good start... Making him clean up after himself and learn how to wash his own clothing/bedding... Doing chores/yardwork and getting a part-time job would probably help him grow-up a bit.. Although, it's a little late to be doing anything at this point. He may be living under your roof for a very, very long time... Good luck

Answer 7

There really isn't much you can do to get him to "grow up". I believe that every male matures at a different age.

when I really think about it, I know some guys in their 20s that really haven't matured yet.

Answer 8

have a decision (to show him there is a mature way, not just yelling) about he should grow up because we he is 18 he might go on his own. if he says he will grow up give him a test, maybe say that you and your children (husband???) are going on vacation and see if he can handle it on his own (check on him every now n then, but don't let him see u!) and if he can pass that test, see if he can handle taking care of himself and your other children, IT SHOULD SHOW HIM HOW TO BE RESPONSIBLE AND MATURE!

Answer 9

He didn't suddenly get this way, so it is not going to change overnight. What is he doing?

Give him responsibilities and reward/punish based on his performance. Remind him when he is acting immature, but remember to let him still be a kid.

Answer 10

have him work with a psychologist to improve social skills and also ask about social groups for teenagers like him, because then hes in a group setting with kids that are definitely more non-judgemental. also, in college there are plenty of college programs that will have kids with learning disabilities so he wont be alone, and kids just become more open-minded at that age so he wont have such a hard time adjusting.