I love my maid of honor (and best friend) like she was one of my sisters, and I would never do anything to hurt her feelings. She's always had trouble with doing her hair and makeup (she's 29). This sounds horrible of me, but she has 80's hair. And I don't mean the now-it-looks-good-again hair, but literally, she styled her hair in 1988 and left it that way. And her makeup is always the wrong shade for her face, not just a little off, but very off with that obvious makeup line on her jaw. For our wedding, I'd like to pay for a day of pampering for her and I, as a special treat for her being such a great M of H. I'd also like to schedule an appointment for her at the salon I'm going to for her hair and makeup. When I've mentioned this idea to my friend, she just tells me it's a waste of money on her, and she can just do her own. I was hoping to help her look as stunning outside as she is inside for the sake of our wedding pictures. How can I pull this off and spare her feelings? Help!
2007-10-24 07:51:26 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My M-O-H has her own unique style as well! I did the whole thing you are mentioning about giving her a gift to get hair and makeup done also. The way you approach it is to say that you know that you will have pre-wedding jitters that morning of and you would rather not be alone that morning and want her to go there with you and get her hair done along side of you. Let her know it's for support and it's going to be way fun! Also, tell her the money is not even an issue because she has helped you out so much for the wedding that it's the least you could do. As a MOH I think that she will understand and go along with you on YOUR BIG DAY!
Best of luck and CONGRATS!!!!
2007-10-24 07:57:56 · answer #1 · answered by JamKal 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it is not a waste of money, besides you are going and you don't want to go alone. Give it to her as a gift for being a wonderful and supportive friend. She may be turning it down because she is reluctant to change or afraid to. She may also have some low self esteem and feel that she isn't worth the expense or the effort. If it is a gift she can't refuse you without being rude. You can also have someone from a makeup company do a demonstration and come to the house for you. My friend had a Mary Kay lady come because her new sister in laws never wear makeup (they are 25 &30) and they wanted to for the wedding but didn't know where to start.
2007-10-24 19:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by JM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the bride. Period. You chose the theme. You chose the bridesmaid dresses. You chose her maid of honor dress. Hair and makeup is just part of the whole package so she should almost expect a request for a certain style. Next time you're together, show her photos from magazines that reflect how you are going to wear your hair and veil, then let the conversation go to the dresses for the girls and the flowers. then in a nice way tell her that you hate to sound like a Bridezilla but you'd REALLY and TRULY like to plan the hair and makeup for everyone as well. Show her some possible styles you are thinking about for her and then say that you insist on having her makeup done that day. Ask her to humor you! You can also add that professional makeup people know how to apply makeup so that it stays fresh all day.
2007-10-24 08:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
oh my! sounds alot like my bf from high school that got married 4 years ago. she had NOT changed her hairstyle since we were in the 8th grade. I fixed that!! I talked her into updating her style, and putting some highlights in her hair. I waxed that unibrow! She was a complete goddess on her special day. Her husbands jaw hit the floor.
What we did was cut off about 18 inches of hair (donated it to locks of love), put some layers through out her naturally wavy hair. Soft caramel, honey blond high lights in the front and through the crown. She wanted to go as natural as possible. So my co-worker created a natural earthy look that made her GLOW! The manicurist fixed her nails and gave her a very needed pedicure. My other co-worker gave her a facial and full boby massage. It was a great time for her. I was NOT in her bridal party, but I was at the church and reception. This was my gift for Madeline. I couldn't really think of anything else.
Today Madeline is a self-employed woman who works out of her home.She still keeps up with all of the "girly" things now. She has two very beautiful twins (boy/girl). Her daughter who is all most 2 loves to go to the salon and get her little nails polished. She tells me from time to time that she's thankful that I dragged into the salon I worked in and made her get a makeover.
I hope this helps.
2007-10-24 08:20:31 · answer #4 · answered by dietitian4u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You 2 should go to a make up counter. You can make an appointment for the both of you & spend the day together. They can take all her make up off & teach her some new techniques. Maybe she will like the final result & make some changes on her own. BUT for your wedding day, just arrange to have her hair and make up done (with you) by the professionals. Let her know it is a gift and she can not refuse. Good Luck!
I wish I had the excuse of an upcoming wedding to talk some of my ladies into new looks ;)
2007-10-24 07:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by MELISSA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't give her the choice..just make an appointment for a pampering day. When she has her new look, make a huge fuss over her and ask her as your best friend to do her hair and make up like that for your wedding! After the wedding is over, let her do it the way she wants! Good Luck!!
2007-10-24 07:56:18 · answer #6 · answered by lee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was in a wedding the bride set up appointments for all the girls in the weddings, so then they got their hair done by professionals, and they usually keep it up to date, and they look good, while your at the salon, just have someone mention, they would help her with her makeup and she'll probably say yeah! It won't hurt her feelings, if all the girls are doing it.
2007-10-24 07:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by Tommy's_Sweet_Girl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just sort of insist on it being your gift to her. I would probably also buy the make-up that they use on your friend as her Maid of Honor gift. Say that you'd rather have a similar color scheme with the make-up and have it look good together so you compliment one another.
I really enjoyed getting my make-up done for my sister's wedding because it gave me a chance to ask questions about the way that I already do my make-up...maybe that would give her a chance to learn some new stuff.
2007-10-24 12:43:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just insist and tell her that it's a gift you choose to give her, remind her in a joking way that it isn't nice to turn down a gift and then just tell her how much you love her and how it means so much to you to have that pampering experience with her on the day you get married.
I'm in the exact same situation with my sister, except I'm able to tell her flat out that her hair and make-up are outdated and not flattering. She's in complete denial even though I told her straight out. I just told her that she HAS to because it is my wedding, so she agreed.
Secretly I pray that my sister and your best friend will LOVE their make-over results and copy them after the wedding. I plan on asking the people doing her over LOTS of questions so she can learn how to repeat what they do.
Good Luck!
2007-10-24 07:58:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to her that there is a certain look you are going for for you, her and all the other bridesmaids. the hairdresser you have hired knows exactly what you want so It would be better to just let her do. You may come off as a bit of A bridezilla but at least her feelings wont be hurt. On another note. if she is your best friend then you prob need to tell her how out of date her hair is. I would want my BF to tell me if my makeup looked like I was wearing a mask. Just a thought
2007-10-24 07:59:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋