I have a co-worker who will not stop talking...i can't even concentrate on working because of her..she is very nosey and she talks about everybody..The site of her drives me crazy..How can i get this lady to just leave me the f**k alone!! I don't want to be mean, but i honestly don't know what else to do...She talks so badly about ppl..and when she sees that im on the cell phone she comes over just to see what i am talking about...it's not just me..she drives evryone in the office crazy..If you can give me some suggestions that would be great!!
2007-10-24 07:40:53 · 11 answers · asked by . 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would just get to the point. I know this sort of co-worker - and have dealt with her this way :
I interrupted her gossipping one day and said calmly but firmly, " I'm sorry, but I'd rather not hear the gossip, and I'm awfully busy. Please give me my space."
I know I sounded a little harsh, but it was necessary. Now, she only talks to me when I start the conversations... which is rare.
2007-10-24 07:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by Kyahoo13 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her a straightforward answer-"I can't speak now because I am trying to concentrate" leave it at that. If you don't reply to her questions (ignore ignore ignore) she will eventuallyleave you alone. Also, if she is creating this much disturbance in the work place, you might want to speak to a supervisor about her. She obviously can't get work done if she is constantly bugging other people. As for the cell phone thing, say excuse me I am on the phone & turn your back. But if its that private of a conversation you shouldn't be having it at work.
2007-10-24 07:51:27 · answer #2 · answered by Sugar Magnolia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it looks like this kind of people aren't very receptive to kindness and subtletly..... so I guess you will HAVE to be mean, or at least very firm. If she comes and tries to hear what you're talking on your cell phone, turn to her and ask "what can I do for you?? Can we talk later?? I'm BUSY"..... or just stand up and go speak somewhere else (in the bathroom or whatever). If she tries to come and speak bad about someone with you, tell her you're extremely busy and cannot talk to her at the moment being, maybe later. Of course don't go to have lunch or spend breaks with her or stuff like that, keep your distance and be cold towards her so she gets the hint........ if nothing works, I'd escalate it..... your supervisor might be able to talk to hers (if it isn't the same person) about her behavior, if it's so annoying for EVERYONE and not only you.....
2007-10-24 07:49:56 · answer #3 · answered by Lprod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have an annoying and sometimes obnoxious coworker. This person laughs so loud, I swear I can hear them when I come in the back door of our building. They are very nice, however they think they know everything and feel they have to do everything for everyone even if it's not their job. I just try to ignore it...luckily I don't have to work w/the person real often.
2016-05-25 13:03:04 · answer #4 · answered by chery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just be as polite as possible and tell you that you don't want to know "office gossip" or that you are busy and trying to get your work done. Or if you can't do that rush around and "act" really busy eventually she'll get the hint that you don't want to be involved in her conversations about other people at work.. As far as using your cell phone at work maybe try a more secluded place so as not to attract attention that you are on the phone. Good luck
2007-10-24 07:47:25 · answer #5 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
1. Cell phone issue: just look right at her at politely say "Do you mind? I'd like some privacy please." This comment does work.
2. Disruptive talking: Just "uh uh" every now and then. She'll understand that you're just not listening not to mention she will not get from you the response she needs and will stop talking.
3. Gossip: the toughest one. I've said "Look, right now I have too much personal and private stuff going on in my life. I'm just not interested in hearing about anybody else"
Good luck. We have somebody at work like that too. And the above comments have helped. Although I've had to repeat them more than once, they worked.
2007-10-24 08:09:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get together with your other co workers and confront her. Maybe if she sees that everyone has a problem with it, she may rethink her issues.
2007-10-24 07:50:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jodi B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there anyway you can tell her how you feel? I think this is the only way that it's going to be solved. Good luck.
2007-10-24 07:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by Kelly H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to address the problem, but don't want to stir up problems, try using this site first
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http://www.annoyingcoworker.com
2007-10-24 08:09:57 · answer #9 · answered by lm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you have work to do and cannot be bothered. Report her obnoxious behavior to your/her supervisor and how uncomfortable and distracting it is.
2007-10-24 08:04:08 · answer #10 · answered by DB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋