Nicole, I'm sure that no one "guy" will be able to answer for "guys" since we are individuals, just as women are.
I am able to talk about my feelings, express my love, caring, some small abstract bit of my sexuality, but that's not to say that it will be perceptible to all women all the time.
Men are generally less articulate than women, but there's more to it than that. First, men in our culture are, by an large in thrall to the warrior archetype. That is to say that we, for the lack of time and patience to write an essay, are macho. In the world of the warrior archetype one does not advertise his vulnerability, nor give in to sentimental feelings lest they override the necessary reason and will to win.
Second, women, being articulate, less physically strong and aggressive (generally) are often in thrall to the archetype of the seducer/sorceress/witch or wise woman. Their main mode is guile, gentle persuasion, manipulation, etc. Men are sometimes reluctant to express "feelings" lest they be used to manipulate them.
The man who hasn't been there, done that, won the T-shirt, is truely a virgin.
Now that I've honestly expressed my feelings (and thoughts), how do you like it? If its as is so often the case, then that's another reason men don't express them.
2007-10-24 07:56:33
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answered by wordweevil 4
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Not all men are that way. All people are different. If he has difficulty putting his feelings into words, just watch his actions. Do his actions should show love even if his mouth can't say it? I know how you feel though. My first husband was very demonstrative with his feelings and always telling me he loved me, etc. but, that marriage ended because it was just words. The actions weren't there to back up those words. The man I'm married to now doesn't say it very much....very rarely actually. However, he shows me how much he loves me everyday in the way he treats me.
2007-10-24 14:45:48
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answered by BecauseISaidSo 2
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People do not talk about their feelings because, a) they are afraid of not expressing exactly what you want to hear b) they don't have the practice saying it. c) they have some resentment at being forced to say someone else's words, d) they don't really feel as intensely as you-- what they actually want to say is, hey take it easy I just want to get to know you e) they'd like some emotional privacy while they sort things out. It is unkind and unpleasant to have someone demanding access to one's inner thoughts upon command.
2007-10-24 14:46:16
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answered by mfradin1 1
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It is not that we have trouble talking about them as much as we don't have any. We don't have to. You gals have enough for you, us AND a third gender to be existent at a future date.
That new third gender will be called Tri-Male and will have the physical characteristics of the other two genders plus the unique ability to be able to totally block out the sound of a female talking about feelings during a football game.
When that gender arises I will have surgery to be one. In the meantime, I will do my best to block out any talk about feleings. Yech!
2007-10-24 14:45:36
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answered by Anonymous
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They're taught from childhood that emotions are for little girls and boys should be tough. "Be a man", "big boys don't cry", "don't be such a baby", "don't be such a girl" are phrases that programme them to hide their feelings. On the other hand, they aren't as good at knowing how *we* feel as they want us to be for them. Women have to learn to hear what isn't said, and not to expect them to read our minds. If you like something, say so. If you don't, say so--or he won't get it. Most men are no good at hints.
2007-10-24 14:44:17
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answered by anna 7
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Go to the library and check out the CD of Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus. It will give you great insight on how men think. It will surprise you and teach you what you need to know. I wish I had listened to it when I was younger!
2007-10-24 14:41:41
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answered by bevrossg 6
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Fear of being ridiculed.
Irrational it may be but most boys under 25 are immature and afraid that whatever thy say may, in the ears of the recipient, be laughable.
I'm 64 but I still vividly remember my early girlfriends!
If you love him, help him. If not, move on with damage limitation!
2007-10-24 14:45:04
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answered by Anonymous
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one of my male friends told me that they feel stupid when they talk about feeling and they feel ashamed...i believe in that.my bf also doesnt like to speak about his feelings and he told me once that that is the way they do...and i also had to pull that from his mouth ....but he said me lot lot of times that he loves me,and when he gets excited when we are together or when we are alone he expresses his feeling on different ways by telling me that he loves me.sometimes i stay stoned by his flushes of love,but i dont show him that because i dont want him to stop...its so romantic...i wish all guys would be like that..... B)
2007-10-24 14:59:16
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answered by Bella 4
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Why do you have to know. Why women always wanna know somthing. If he says he loves you then he does. Why do you need a specific list of why. Maybe he cant put it into words or maybe just maybe he doesnt really like you at all and doesnt know how to tell you that either. Leave the poor guy alone, If hes treating you well take it for what it is. pick your battles wisely
2007-10-24 14:44:08
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answered by tha king 1
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He needs to communicate with you. Communication is key to a great relationship. Maybe he feels that his feelings are expressed without being said, for example, flowers, dinner, back rub, etc.
If he can't tell you, I would question the validity of his feelings.
Hope that it all works out for you.
2007-10-24 14:42:51
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answered by meandthekids 3
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