I mean this is my first wedding to be in and I am already freaking out! Is this normal for the maid of honor to feel? Don't get me wrong I am honored to have this postion. Please anybody help!!
2007-10-24 07:37:03 · 13 answers · asked by Melba E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
What you need to do is get VERY detailed lists from the bride and everyone else (her family, his family) involved, lists of what they expect the MOH to do, to buy. Ask them to please be inclusive and detailed (not 'dress', but 'dress $300'; not 'help with decor', but '4-5 hours to assemble centerpieces and favors') because you will be basing your decision on whether you can meet their expectations.
This may sound too businesslike and cold, but Y!A regulars know that all too often "Wedding Drama Question" means that the bride is upset that her MOH hadn't planned on hosting a shower and the MOH is upset that she is expected to do so. The DEVIL is in the details, so get the devil BEHIND you right now. Then, once you know what is expected, you'll be feeling confident and helpful instead of mystified and fearful.
2007-10-24 09:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be responsible for a bachelorette party and or a wedding shower. You will also be the one that the bride will call and whine about stuff. If you live in the same town as your bride you will need to ask what you can do to be helpful. If your bride is making the wedding party pay for their own dresses you will have to pay for that plus shoes. Don't forget the hairdresser, and tailor. You may even be asked to go with the bride to find some good dresses for the party. Basically you will be at the brides beck and call for what she needs done for this wedding.
Congratulations on being chosen as the maid of honor! Have no idea what to do now? I will try to answer your questions based on the traditional duties of this honored part of a wedding.
Besides running around like a chicken with it's head cut off, being a shoulder to cry on, and the strength to help the bride get through the wedding alive, I'm gonna give you a few hints on what may or may not be expected of you.
You get to partake of two people joining in holly matrimony by signing the marriage license as a witness to the wedding. Assisting in the wedding planning is always fun. Planning the Bridal shower and Bachelorette party with the other bridesmaids. You get to help the bride dress and generally get ready for the wedding. When standing with the party at the altar, you get to hold the groom's ring until the ring exchange, at that point you get to hold the bride's bouquet.
Then there's the not so fun stuff like having to pay for your own dress. Helping to address envelopes. Shopping, its one of my favorite things. There's the important task of recording the wedding gifts.
All in all, you play a very important part of this wedding. Good luck!
2007-10-24 14:50:52 · answer #2 · answered by Christa K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and get with the other bridesmaids to plan her bridal shower and/or bachelorette party. Make sure she does get at least one of these. Ask the bride if she needs any help with anything. If she says no, make sure to keep asking as her big day gets closer. Also ask when she plans to go dress shopping. If you have the extra money, pick her up a copy of Chicken Soup for the Bride's Soul. It will calm her nerves (yours too if you read it first).
2007-10-24 17:05:10 · answer #3 · answered by orangeflameninja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Maid of Honor you should be there to help the bride with her planning. Picking dresses, going with her to help her make decisions with favors, invitations...whatever she needs your advise on. Also, it's up to you to plan the shower. All bridesmaids should be splitting the cost but you delegate who does what. You will also need to include the mothers in the shower.
2007-10-24 14:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by mrsdeli 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask the bride if there is anything that she needs help with.. most of the time the maid of honor along with family helps her with planning the wedding and dresses that sort of thing b/c she willbe freaking out too
2007-10-24 14:46:59 · answer #5 · answered by ♥MyLife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously ask the bride what she expects out of you. Some brides want their maid of honor to go on every single appointment/dress fitting/etc., some just want them to throw them a bridal shower/bachelorette party and be done with it.
Generally bridesmaids/maid of honor are responsible for paying for their own clothing/shoes/accessories for the wedding, their own travel expenses, throwing a bridal shower, helping the bride with small tasks, etc. You can go to theknot.com and there's all sorts of articles for bridesmaids, what their duties are, etc. Here's a link
http://theknot.com/ch_article.html?Object=AI980914210920&keywordID=176&keywordType=2&parentID=209
2007-10-24 14:46:15 · answer #6 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it totally depends on the type of wedding. if it is traditional, check out weddingchannel.com or weddings.com. they have helpful wedding hints and stuff like that. if it is a more contemporary wedding, your role will depend on what the bride wants. so, i'd pretty much just ask the bride what she wants you to do and together y'all figure out what you can do and what you should get the bridesmaids to help you with or take care of for you. have fun. :)
2007-10-24 14:47:27 · answer #7 · answered by missbeeatch2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the bride and groom. Different brides have different responsibilities for their MOH.
My MOH's responsibilities are to stand up in my wedding and make sure we drink water and eat before we walk down the aisle!
2007-10-24 17:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your job is to support the bride in planning, go dress shopping with her and help in choosing the bridesmaids dresses. try looking on theknot.com.
2007-10-24 14:46:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you help plan the bridal shower, help her pick out her dress, help her plan the wedding.....
basically you are like 'super best friend' till and the day of the wedding....you are there for support and to help her with anything she needs...(within reason)
2007-10-24 14:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by SaMi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋