I met this guy a month ago.
He was a gentleman and I ended up sleeping with him that first night.He then told me he wasnt over his ex and stopped kissing me and was awkward.A week later he says he has to end this.Hes getting attached and falling for me.(and got angry when I said we were just sex anyway)
We talk about it and we decided were gonna be ok and he tells me hes getting over his ex.This last time it was a complete change.He wanted to just cuddle (actually said it was ok if we didnt have sex)
and he kept kissing me and played around and we just lied in bed all day snuggling and watching movies and when we did have sex he was romantic about it,not like before.We havent talked about it and its only been 3 weeks since the first time.
But hes acting like he has fallen for me.
Im falling for him too but Im happy with the way things are right now.Hes been getting jealous of my friends though and wants me to move closer to him. We both voiced our fears of getting hurt.Is it just sex?
2007-10-24 07:34:57 · 25 answers · asked by punkie2005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like it started with just sex, but now it's more than that. I question the concept that relationships can be only about sex. I do not think we can be involved in a just-sex-only relationship, w/o developing feelings for the other person. On paper this may sound good, but in reality it's more complicated.
I think you should define exactly what you both want from a relationship with each other. It does sound like there could be some hurt feelings, even in defining your relationship. I do not think he can part with you right now; even though, it seems that you could part with him.
Best wishes.
2007-10-24 07:42:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't of slept with him on the first night. You have to show guys you have respect for yourself so that they may respect you. But anyways from what you describe it doesn't seem like he just want you for sex. I would be a little careful around him though because he is already getting jealous over your friend its only been a month sounds like he would be the type to become controlling and he wants you to move closer to him is to soon for him to have fallen so quick i wouldn't trust him completely. Everyone fears about getting hurt in a relationship but guess what it always happen. Good luck
2007-10-24 07:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by Deana 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's using you. You say he was a gentleman on the first night, but you slept with him. I'd say he's not much of a gentleman. Nor are you much of a lady. Sleeping with someone right away is not a very good way to start off a relationship. You don't even know him yet. Even now. Geez, slow down next time. Get to know the next guy. Because this one surely won't last.
2007-10-24 08:01:15 · answer #3 · answered by Teresa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably just sex right now, if you 2 want a relationship, you may have to stop having sex and get to know each other. If you are happy with what going on now, maybe you should continue it, just don't forget your a woman and you have emotions. Also you should respect yourself, meaning, you should have sex with a man that loved, and respected you. Ultimately, if or when you 2 decide to get serious be sure to communicate your exact feelings, wants, and needs from him. Honestly, by the way your relationship started, you may not last that long.
Good Luck
2007-10-24 07:45:03 · answer #4 · answered by TSL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not lower yourself and have some dignity at least .By having sex on 1st night with unknown person- you may land up in trouble. How long do you think he will fall for you- and the time you be his next another ex. Do you think he will believe and trust you ,which is the basis of love (if you want). Be careful .
2007-10-24 08:03:08 · answer #5 · answered by TARBA 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're both afraid of getting hurt then it's likely not just sex. You already stated a time when it wasn't just sex. I think you guys are moving fast and falling for each other even faster, which is not a bad thing. Enjoy the ride of a whirlwind romance.
2007-10-24 07:39:24 · answer #6 · answered by callmegoddess618 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is using your relationship to get over his ex, since you said he was very attached to her and than got hurt. If he is talking of moving and he's getting jealous of your friends than he is more invested than just sex. If you're not ready for any type of commitment be careful.
2007-10-24 07:40:23 · answer #7 · answered by ZingZing 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is expressing his feelings to you both verbal and physical. Its beyond just sex, he is involved, you are on the brink, but he does sound a bit needy this early on in a relationship. Best of luck.
2007-10-24 08:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by milly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you were both using each other, do you all ways go to bed on your first date if so you shouldn't be taken advantage of, but the one to take advantage of the guy.
2007-10-24 11:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You slept with him the first night? Seriously have some more respect for yourself. you are giving yourself to sommeone you don't know very well at all. It sounds to me like you are the one who just wants sex, and that he might actually want a relationship. Whatever you do, don't ho yourself out like that, its shameful.
2007-10-24 07:40:14 · answer #10 · answered by bakerchris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋