2007-10-24 07:19:54 · 25 answers · asked by Raenell S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I marry prostitute and to go back to Kazakhstan.
2007-10-24 07:22:49 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Different people use different methods, but if you can look at why the relationship didin't work, and find some gratitude that you didn't end up wasting anymore time on a worthless relationship it really helps. Also having some supportive freinds to spend time with helps. Journaling. I definatley advise against using drugs, alcohol, shopping or another relationship in an effort to get over someone. In the end all of these things cause more harm than the initial break up
2007-10-24 14:24:50 · answer #2 · answered by ?? yaddajean ?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all broken hearted wounds. Until the healing process is complete, you could find a new hobby to keep your mind off your Ex and your pain. If your budget allows go to the Mall and treat yourself to a nice new wardrobe, and a Chocolate Shake. I say Chocolate because that is a "cure all" for me :). Rent movies to keep your mind occupied in the evenings when the pain and lonliness always seems to be the worse. Don't rent any love stories. Instead, rent good comedies to make you laugh. Start a once a week "out with the girls night" with your best friend(s). You could take in a movie, hang out a the Mall, or just out to lunch or dinner even. Once you start socializing again, you will catch some ones eye, then you can move on and make a new an happy life for yourself. Good luck.
2007-10-24 14:30:28 · answer #3 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get rid of all things that remind you of that person. Change up your normal routine that you did when you were with the person. Find a new hobby, activity, or something that intrests you that can take up some time. Dont think or ponder about old times that you had. Never call or communicate in with the person. I dont recommend to go with the next person you see because your on rebound but start looking for other potential partners. Its very hard and I've been there so best of luck to you.
2007-10-24 14:24:54 · answer #4 · answered by Stetson R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 4 years my boyfriend decided that he wasn't in love with me anymore. It ripped my heart out. I moved, went on a one year drinking binge. You know the story. After 2 years I decided to date again. I have been together with this guy for almost 2 and a half years now and I still don't think I have forgotten the last one. I am not in love with him anymore but I still think about him. What you have to learn I think, is that everyone is different when it comes to getting over someone else. I saw the ex a few months ago and seeing him actually helped me. I saw that he was happy with his life and he wasn't what I wanted anymore. You have to realize that unfortunately all of the exes will have a place somewhere in your heart, you just remember that they weren't the one for you. Everything happens for a reason.
2007-10-24 14:27:55 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fall back in love with yourself. Find some new hobbies or get reacquianted with old friends. Do stuff that you really enjoy to keep your mind off of things. Try not to talk about the ex and make an effort when you are talking to other people to not bring that person up. Before you know it, you've moved on and you are happier than you thought you could be!
2007-10-24 14:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by katysru19 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Raise your hand and repeat after me...
-I, (Raenell), do, hereby, solemnly swear that I will not behave in the manner of a crazy ex-girlfriend. I will not participate in foolish or destructive behavior. I promise to act in a dignified fashion and that means I will not do stupid things, no matter how I might rationalize them. Therefore, I vow the following:
-I will not call him. No matter what good or bad news I think he should hear only from me, I will not call him. Even if I am convinced it will make me feel better, I will not call him. I will not call him even to get my stuff. I'll have a friend do that, preferably via email.
-I will not email him. Not even an innocent and rather funny group email forward. I will not email him simply to give him back his stuff. I will not contact him at all.
-I will not frequent the places I know he goes to, even if I went there first and like it better. I acknowledge that this is not a pissing contest about territory. I know going to such places will hurt more than it will help. Until there has been some space and time between us, going to those places is asinine, can be viewed as stalker-ish and will be painful only to me.
-I will not encourage or allow friends to do anything foolhardy, even with my best interest at heart. That includes talking to him when they see him in public to let him know he is a jerk and he'll never do better than me, or to share that I am looking fabulous, got a promotion, bought a new house, etc.
-I will screen all of my calls. I will get caller ID, if necessary, and put "private call block" on my phone. I will not answer the phone unless I know who it is and am sure it's not him. All other calls will go to voicemail.
-I will not take his phone calls. I repeat, I will not take his calls.
-I will not return his phone calls or emails. If he is "just checking" to see how I am, I know he is really just checking to see if I think he's a jackass. He is looking for an ego stroke, not to get back together, and I know this because he did not start out the communication with, "I am sorry. I made a mistake. I want us to get back together."
-I will not look for signs that we will get back together. This includes asking the Magic-8 Ball or tarot card readers and the like. The only professional guidance I will seek will be that of a licensed therapist or member of the clergy.
-I will not believe this is temporary. I will see this as permanent until proven otherwise by concrete actions, immense apologies and couple's therapy.
-I will not hide under a rock, be humiliated or ashamed that this relationship ended. For all I know, this could be the best thing that ever happened to me. And I believe the wonderful stuff I deserve is on its way.
-I promise to abide by these vows for at least thirty (30) days, or until I have gotten over him, whichever is longer. This is about me feeling better and that has nothing to do with him.
This I do affirm. So help me.
Signed:
Raenell
I will also add this very important message about the benefits of no contact with your ex after a breakup:
No contact is like putting a cast on your broken leg (read: broken heart, broken relationship). The cast is awkward and uncomfortable, and at times you want to rip the damn thing off, but ultimately it's the best, safest, and most stablizing way to let yourself heal. The cast (no contact) stays on until you are healed and truly ready to move on to something new.
Otherwise, continuing contact is like walking around on that broken leg. It hurts like hell, and it'll never heal properly.
2007-10-24 15:03:13 · answer #7 · answered by firefaerie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lambo is funny! Find someone new is probably the correct answer, the particular position U find yourself in is better left as a personal matter.
Take up old interests, or discover new interests, or hobbies & activities then find someone new that shares those same interests. I could also add by saying devote yourself to bettering yourself, working out, reading, devotional studies, but U do that already right?
2007-10-24 14:26:10 · answer #8 · answered by Andy K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get over someone is to make sure that you don't have any contact with them anymore. No phone calls, no emails, no text messages, nothing. If you keep any kind of contact with your ex then it will be impossible to keep them out of your mind and prevent you from moving on.
2007-10-24 14:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep busy and change your focus and do whatever it takes to keep them out of your mind... If you listen to your song and eat at your favorite restaurants that you shared together, then it makes things harder... Get out and when someone shows interest in you and you both flirt, you realize their are too many in the sea... I had to quit a job once to get away from that person... Good luck and keep your head up!
2007-10-24 14:27:07 · answer #10 · answered by JEFFREY L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
takes alot of time. Don't listen to other people that say, hey just **** someone else. The honorable thing, would be to communicate your feelings to a good friend. But be mindful of the space that you must give to heal. I'm going through that myself, and it tears me up inside. And its been amost 2 months.
Love them for the person they are, but take care of yourself, if you don't, you'll end up a lost person.
2007-10-24 14:27:27 · answer #11 · answered by adam n 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋