I am not sure what that means? I have been told I am being too picky, but I have 3 kids and need to look after them and not just me... I have gone to bars but I don't want to meet a bar girl because , I am more of a family guy... I do like adventure and I am always on the go, I work alot and I don't want to settle, I want my soulmate this time, Is that wrong?
2007-10-24 07:19:36 · 6 answers · asked by JEFFREY L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nothing wrong with that, you are picky because of your children as you should be. You say you don't want to settle but that you want your soulmate. Are you searching for that one person who takes your breath away? Has you smiling inside all day? or is it more of the responsible mother type? or HECK~~ BOTH!~~ You need to live again, granted you have little ones, but if your not happy, they aren't happy. Kids feel that energy in you, that hurt, and void, or that look , that only someone deep in love has. "You look so good in love" by George Strait, have you heard it? "Just to see you smile" Tim McGraw, I don't know your circumstances with the ex but by the little you wrote, she must have been an incredible woman in your life at one time and stolen your heart in so many ways or you wouldn't be missing that feeling! The three kids you have are the ones that take your breath away. But they would love to see what kind of person makes your heart pound faster, that makes you melt with a simple kiss. Do be picky but don't write off the possibility that you could find that person that "WOWs" you, the one that makes you wish you were home~~ way more often.
Time, is precious. I asked my youngest son what he wanted for Christmas, you know what he asked for???????? ~~ TIME! ~~ he was 8 yrs old, and that day~ I realized, life wasn't all about the fancy things you can't bring with you, but the difference you make in others, they will hold memories and pass them on forever, a toy will NOT be their memory, it will be TIME! A MOMENT! something that made them laugh like they NEVER have, you know what makes kids listen? ? STORIES, ..... not made up ones.... but ,YOUR PAST! Your childhood, it fastinates them. They tell them over and over to everyone they meet. As you can tell, I tend to ramble, I wish you the best with everything! I doubt this had anything to do with your question, but you do have little ones and they mean the world to you, it only makes sense that you would want the person you mee to be the kind who will gain their trust, and respect and respects them as well. Sure hope you find her.
2007-10-24 08:31:42 · answer #1 · answered by darlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not wrong. You sound level headed and like you are doing the best thing for yourself and your kids. Why rush into finding a girl just because people think you need to find someone. It sounds like you would date a girl if she seemed like the kind of girl you wanted, and perhaps marry her if she turned out to be the right one. That doesn't sound like you are acting like you are married. Sure, you might not be going on dates, which might make your friends view you that way. But you know why you are not acting like your married? Becuase you are looking for a mate. When you are married you don't even look for one (or you shouldn't anyway). Take your time. There is NO REASON why you should have to sette on going with a girl that isn't right for you just so you appear to be "moving on" to your friends. You know that you are willing to move on if the right girl is there, and that is all that matters. Stay true to your standards and yourself. I'm sure being married then getting a divorce makes one want to be more choosey the second time around, AND to try to take time to be adventureous and develope yourself (the kind of thing relationships often inhibit one from doing). It makes perfect sense. You need to do what makes YOU happy. Doing what your friends THINK will make you happy isn't what will. Remember that.
2007-10-24 07:31:49 · answer #2 · answered by Green Tea Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Applause!!! Thank you for thinking of the kids. If you want to meet someone, it will happen, but probably when you least expect it. Going to bars, is not a cool place to meet anything other than a one night stand, and if you have any class, that will not interest you. Enjoy your kids, go on those trips, life will throw someone in your path along the way.
2007-10-24 07:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is nothing wrong with wanting your best. Society standards provoke men to play the field, date as much as you can, swim the waters. But you are mature, you are above that mumbo jumbo. It is not wrong to want more and desire more for yourself. You have kids that is important to to you...I think that you should have fun, but do not jump into a relationship that you know you are not cut out for. You know your heart better than anyone else. A divorce is horrible thing to go through, be liberated now, but keep your heart guarded at all times.
2007-10-24 07:27:47 · answer #4 · answered by MadameJazzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all like you said you have 3 kids so she would not be just dateing you she needs to be kid freindly take your time you know what you want and what is right for you so be patent and don't rush in to anything
2007-10-24 07:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't wrong to want your soul mate............I think you deserve the right and the time to find her in your own way. People should mind their own business.
2007-10-24 07:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by Primrose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋