We have been together for 4 yrs. Im 27 shes 24. At first she wanted space, I kept insisting every few days, even wrote a letter. She broke up with me over the phone after the letter, I told her to meet a few days later, and she did. I told her it was screwed up doing that over the phone. I thought it was over, and she said she never implied that. I told her how I felt when I saw her, she didnt say much, just thought - she said she felt like something was missing. She was still wearing my promise ring, thought that was odd. I told her we can work things out and I will change some of my ways to get the sparks we had before. She said she just needs time to think, and is not sure. She left, its been 4 days no contact. I dont know what to do. I think she loves me still, but I am not sure. She still lives at home, her whole family loves me and I have always done everything with them, they even tried talking with her. I dont think she has told any other family. What to do?
2007-10-24
07:19:15
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Been there. She has met someone else. It may hurt , but it is time to move on.
2007-10-24 07:24:29
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answered by sloop_sailor 5
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I was just in a situation similar to yours. Let me explain something to you. Women are generally heartless when it comes to breaking off a relationship. I know. My girlfriend just dumped me because of the distance between us, about 750 miles. In my eyes she left me for a lame reason. Your girl is leaving you for a lame reason. Think about it. Oh and another big no-no, never tell a girl that you will change any of your ways unless you are physically abusive which I do not condone. The best thing that you can do is show her that she is not the only girl out there. Date other girls and make sure that they are HOT!!!!! When she sees that you are with girls that are even hotter than she is, then she will realize the mistake she made. Once she realizes, she may come to you and want to reconcile. NOW THE BALL IS IN YOUR COURT. See how that works?
2007-10-24 07:34:22
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answered by Anonymous
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You need to give her space, keep yourself busy and try not to think about her as hard as that might be. 4 years is a long time, maybe she just isn't the one, but maybe she is and just needs time to gather her thoughts, I wouldn't focus so much on getting her back, focus on bettering yourself. You may eventually realize you don't need her as much as you thought, or she may see you improvements and changes and want you back. You definitely do not want to beg her and get her family involved you'll look needy and sneaky. Good Luck and I hope everything turns out for the best!
2007-10-24 07:34:44
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answered by Anonymous
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Give her some time to think. She wants space, let her have some.. don't push he to a conclusion. Sometimes we don't appreciate what we have until we almost lose them, maybe she's realizing that. It's normal to keep situations like this to yourself, so i'm not suprised if no one else knows. You say she wore your promise ring, that's a sign she cares. I don't think she's going to let you go. I hope all goes well, good luck.
2007-10-24 07:26:23
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answered by S H e L xo. 2
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she's trying to figure out where she stands with you. in my opinion, if you are constantly wanting space it is not a good things. and you should never set up a schedule for a relationship... every few days your on and the next your off, not a good idea. you should go with the flow, ask her if she wants to hang out, if she says no don't freak... she'll come around eventually, but right now give her time.
2007-10-24 07:26:04
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answered by ♥Infatuation 3
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We all go through times where we just aren't sure and sometimes it's caused by stress or depression. I would give her what she asks for but tell her that you wont be sitting around waiting for her. This will let her know that she can't take advantage of you............and will need to decide what she is doing. If she decideds to not work it out than she doesn't deserve you.
2007-10-24 07:38:55
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answered by Primrose 5
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The only way you get some one back is if they want to be back with you. Your best move would be to fine some one new, and move on. Crying over spilled milk sucks, and feeling sorry for your self ain't any better. So get out there and live!
2007-10-24 07:28:36
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answered by zipper 7
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Giver her space, be a gentleman and respect the distance. If it was meant to be, she'll be back. DO NOT RESORT TO BEGGING.
2007-10-24 07:25:46
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answered by checkedout2 3
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2007-10-31 11:17:14
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answered by Anonymous
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