I am almost 17, she is almost 18. Well we met at church. In February when we were just friends we kissed out of nowhere. then we started a relationship that lasted about a month and she cheated on me with a 22 year old. She then went out with this guy for two months and said she still loved me and that she didn't know how she felt about me. Into July she kept me waiting for her and then she chose the older guy over me. Well in late September she told me she was sorry for everything she did to me and she never wants to hurt me again, she broke up with the guy she cheated on me with, and says she still loves me. Now we are just friends and she won't go back out with me because she wants to get closer to God, which I would be fine with if it were true because God has called me to the ministry, Im in love with God and live for him.... but I think she is lying and likes this 26 year old guy in church now.
2007-10-24 07:17:19 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I should probably point out that every time she said she still had feelings for me it was while I was with somebody else, and I have broken a few hearts because of her.
2007-10-24 07:18:01 · update #1
wow ! don't think being the minster with the wife who can't keep her pants on will help u ...suggest u look up addictive love..sounds like u have a bad case of it..she has got u as good old standby till something else rolls in..so let me ask u this ..if u were a minister n some1 asked u this what advice would u give them..perhaps learning from ur own mistakes will help u with ur vocation..or maybe u better have a talk with the good Lord..
2007-10-24 07:26:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, don't let this girl get in the way of your love life. If you still like her, I know it is hard to do but just end things with her. Just keep being friends. She has broken your heart a few times. What if she just does it again? Think of what can happen. It isn't worth the pain if she is just going to do the same thing! Not to be mean but she is a very mean person. If she really did love you, she wouldn't take the chance of losing you for another guy. So keep your head up and move on. I wish you the best of luck!
2007-10-24 07:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by Erica L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've been a good backup plan for this young lady! She sounds confused and likes older men. At 17 you don't have a lot to offer her in a monetary way, and probably aren't considering getting married any time soon. Older guys usually are in the middle of establishing their careers or finishing college. Either way, you're wasting your time and a lot of tears and heart ache on this girl! Find yourself a young lady that really loves you just for who you are. Don't let this other girl get in the way of you finding true love and happiness, or you'll regret it later. Tell her that you are finished with her "games", that its nice that she loves you, but you are wanting a relationship that will last more than half a minute, then bid her goodbye and goodluck!
2007-10-24 07:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by JennyP 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but you need to stay away from this girl for your own mental health. She obviously does not really want to be with you yet when she sees you with another girl, then she tells you she still loves you. I think she really really needs to get closer to god because she is not being a nice person. please take my advice, I hate admitting this but I have done this to several guys (when I was younger) and she is only doing this just in case the guy she really likes breaks up with her then she has you waiting as her last resort. You sound like a great guy, dont be that person waiting anymore. Find someone else who really loves you and isn't just using you. I dont think she knows what love is. And don't go breaking up relationships that you may have with a ncie girl over her. Its not worth it. I hope you take my advice and you meet someone wonderful-just dont let her suck you back in to being her "waiting" man.
Take Care and Good Luck!
2007-10-24 07:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww, wow...I feel for you! I'm 17 as well. But hey...my friend, you should stick with your true love, and that's God. She's hurt you so many times before and that's awful. You know that God will never hurt you. You two should remain friends so that you don't get hurt by her again. You've been through a lot, and maybe soon, God will send you a true angel who can help you feel true love. But like I said...for now, live for God, love God and you shall be rewarded greatly!
:)
2007-10-24 07:23:27 · answer #5 · answered by M.D.W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just made a fool out of you?!Why did you let this happen-she was cheating on you with older guys,I think she still thinks of you as a child or something...that`s the reason she was with older guys,and the God thing-yeah,DEFINITELY lying!!!Please don`t buy it again.Just let her go!Forget about her and find a girl that you can trust and that respects you enough not to cheat on you...the fact that she seeks you only when you`re with someone else shows that you are only fun to her and a proof that she can control you!!!She just thinks of you as a puppet!
2007-10-24 07:27:07 · answer #6 · answered by Tijana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my honest opinion, you need to forget about this girl. From what you say, I believe she is using you, and just likes the attention she gets.
She likes you as a friend, and gets jealous when your attention goes to someone else. If she truly loved you, she would either only stick with you, or she would let you go completely so that you can have your own life.
You sound like a very caring person, and I hope that you continue your devotion to God, and find someone that cares about you just as much as you will for them.
2007-10-24 07:23:45 · answer #7 · answered by cozyheartdaycare 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have to say, that if you've broken other girls' hearts because of her, you're not much better. you need to re-evaluate your situation.
dont worry about how she feels about you. she may love you but be embarrassed of you because you're younger, or just not know what love truly is.
worry about how YOU feel about HER. can you continue to take her lies and cheating? can you love her as a person but not have to be with her?
if you decide that you cannot take her ways any longer, stay away from her emotionally. give her some time to grow (and yourself, too). if after a while you both decide that you want to be together, make a pact that you will love and honor each other.
2007-10-24 07:24:23 · answer #8 · answered by vivranthang909 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on buddy. Even if she promised anything and everything to you, this is NOT the kind of person a good God fearing man should put up with. There are soooooo many good girls out there and you need to concentrate on them rather than this mixed up mess of a girl. Maybe she will mature after about 10 years but I wouldn't count on it. Take it from me, I used to BE her......
2007-10-24 07:23:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she may be in love with the idea of you. Sorry.
You should probably focus on your relationship with God and learning his word right now and don't date anyone seriously, go out with lots of people, but let them know up front that you are seeing other people.
2007-10-24 07:24:18 · answer #10 · answered by Barn Babe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋