I need some help guys and girls!?

Question

Just need some opinions plz:

I am crazy about my bf however i hardly ever get the chance to see him. We work together and so thats the only time i see him, coming and going. And now this new girl has started.. unfortunately for me she's really pretty and knows how to manipulate guys in her favor. And I find she's Hitting everytime on MY boyfriend.

I already am very insecure and scared of losing him but now this is an ongoing battle that i feel i am destined to lose :(
Esp. since we haven't been seeing that much of one another Anyway.

Also i want to go ahead and get more intimate with him (by going all the way). What are some things i should know for my 1st time, other than the basic "go slow" advice.. and how can i handle my situation at work!?

ps-she's much prettier than me i am afraid

Thanks!!

Answer 1

just relax, communicate and let nature take its course

Answer 2

You sound so sweet and I'm sorry you are so insecure. Try to remember that you may be very pretty but there will always be someone prettier than you out there in life and you need to accept that and be ok with it. If you bf is a good bf he will not flirt with this new girl and make you feel bad about the situation. Do NOT have sex with him as a way to hold onto him...trust me...NOT WORTH IT...give it some time to see if he is even worth you going to the next level with before you take that step...you don't want to regret having sex with someone...wait and see how things play out first and make sure he is worthy of the next level!! GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 3

Make him fall in love with U without going all the way. So what happens if you lose your virginity to him & then he dumps U? That's just setting yourself up for failure. U need to set yourself up for success. Treat your bf well, show him how much U care for him in other ways, follow his interests, support him, be there for him. I take it you're in your teens, as is your bf & this other girl. Now is not the time to find your life partner, now is the time to discover who you are & what kind of a life partner you may want. Tell your bf that U want to see other people, because we are too young to be exclusive. U think he won't jump at the chance to go get the pretty girl? Maybe, but reverse psychology often works too. The pretty girl wants him because he is a challenge, once the challenge is gone so will your bf, back in your life (if it is meant to be). This is a test of your moral courage, not your hormones.

Answer 4

You just gotta keep in your head that..."everything happens for a reason" If he's a big enough idiot..and actually starts liking her...and their relationship turns into more...then that's all on him. He just wasn't worth your time in the first place. And you can do better. BUT hopefully nothing will happen. You jsut gotta be CONFIDENT in yourself!!! Don't let her get the better. ya know??? and if you want to see mroe of your boyfriend...you should set up a date...or just be like "you know?? we should hangout this weekend"...or something like that...after all...he is YOUR boyfriend.

Don't let him or the "new girl" see that you're being self-concious.

AND do not just want to "go all the way" with him...to try to make him stay interested in you. and not be interested in her. Cause anyone can give him "all the way stuff" don't do something stupid, and then regret it in the future...

i hope you understand what i mean. and good luck,

hopefully you're just over thinking it too much.lol

Answer 5

I agree relax it is normal to be nervous when you see him talking to her. But don't treat him bad or start any fights about her that will just drive him away. I am sure your bf can tell what kind of girl she is and hopefully will see she is trashy. Don't go all the way with him just because of this girl if you were feeling ready before she came along then go with it, just be careful and use protection. Remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder you sound like a cool girl

Answer 6

At this point in your life, it's all about looks. I'm afraid there is not much you can do. You should continue to be yourself and one thing that turns young guys off is a clingy girl. Don't call him 50 times a day; that will just give him a reason to go out with this girl. Be yourself and if he doesn't like you, it's his loss. As you get older and step into the real world, you'll realize that life is not about looks but all about attitude. As far as going all the way goes, take it one step at a time and don't feel the pressure to do anything just to please a guy....good luck!

Answer 7

Pretty is as pretty does.....if she knows this is your boyfriend, then she is a bit ugly in my book.

Being insecure and scared of losing him indicates to me that there is communication problems, combined with your not seeing one another as often anymore, it seems to me that the issue is more complicated:

1. another girl is hitting on your "boyfriend"
2. she manipulates
3.Question...are you considered by him to be his "girlfriend?"
4. you say you only see one another coming and going to work.

My advice.....love and work seldom mix, before you "go all the way" with anyone, what "purpose does it serve" you? Is it to "keep" someone interested because you fear loss?...if so, you have lost already.

You sound very young, and I hope this will help you, it is not what you look like, it is not what you "do", but who you are that will attract others, and what I mean by that, is this, if you have to "do" to be accepted, than you will aways be "doing...and not just "being". You will fear rejection, fear loss because reality shows us that there are always people who are better at "doing than we are", better looking" etc, but this is the truth.....we all are created uniquely, with different strengths and weaknesses, attributes that are also unique, if you do not examine and see yourself as "special", you will live in this state of self absorption and fear forever.


First you need to see what you are about, and get away from the "pity-party", no one likes to attend them, a good cry is different, they are needed sometimes. Fear is a thief, it steals from you, so ship that far away from you, and dear, please find beauty in yourself, I know it is there.

I hope this helps, in the future do not mix work and guys, not a good idea ever....

Answer 8

Do not go all the way with him because you are afraid that she is prettier than you. Guys can pick up on things like that. Guys are not stupid. If you and him have a descent relationship tell him how you feel. Why dont you and him see each other outside of work? Relationships require work. Do not think sleeping with him will keep him around because it wont. I am sorry to have to tell you that.

Answer 9

Hmmm girl, first off....IF you are scared of losing him #1 there trust, you obvioulsy can't trust the man enough for him to stay with you, you say she is more prettier then you are? what exactly do you mean? If this dude is with you i'm sure he won't just break up with you and date this new girl, if he is a good man then he would stay with you and be loyal to you right?

Second- IF you're still a virgin why do you want to loose it to a man you can't trust anyways? you're just asking for trouble, do NOT be like I was, I lost mine at the age of 18 to a man who I thought I cared for and he turned out to be a physco he actually stabbed me he threw a steak knife at me and I was bleeding on my arm.

Third- It shouldn't matter if you only see eachother on an occasion my ex of 4yrs (recent one) him and I never worked together and we saw eachother every weekend for 2 whole days and we managed to stay with one another. But if this man only cares for looks then you know what your answer is, drop the SOB my advice to you my dear

And by the way how old are you that you say you're still a virgin?
i'm 22yrs old 23 in March baby!!
:)

Answer 10

Wait. Don't go all the way yet. Definitely make sure he's all yours. Imagine the worst case senerio: You do it, get pregnant (everything but abstinance has a nice sized rate of failure), you get an STD he didn't know he even had, and this chick flirts with him til he eventually gives in. You're screwed, he's getting laid and everythings messed up -- and not to mention you feel like a totally moron.

Wait.

Answer 11

Do not have sex when you are in a relationship you are insecure about. Sex will not bring sexurity, prove your love for him, or his love for you. putting out will not prevent him from leaving you for her. If he's going to do that he'll do it and you should move on because that would make him scum. If he is a good man and loves you he wont leave you for someone else. Be patient and wait to see how things work out with him. Wait until you are in a secure relationship (ie marriage) before having sex, it will be better for your relationship and emotional well being