Has Romance Really Died?

Question

Ok, i'm old and i'ts been bugging me that times our changing so fast. You hardly see couples holding hands in public or even hugging eachother anymore. Now we have people getting online asking for advice from people they don't know rather then asking their mate. Is this what the future holds for us? Am I the only one feels this way?

Answer 1

Romance is not dead. I think we have just not taken the time to be romantic. People just need to choose to be romantic. I also don't think it has to do with age as much as people mimic what they see first hand. In todays world, many children are born into one parent homes, are raised by family members, and have no one to look up to as a roll model. (That is a whole other issue.) But I think those things do play a part in it.
I do see your point on people asking questions on the web. Sometimes I think when things are not going smooth in your life, you want to turn to an outside source that can give you a blunt answer and also it gives that person a chance to vent. The reply may not be the answer they want to hear, or even what they expected. They can choose to use the advice, or toss it in the wind. I think the down side of this is that "we", the people who answer the questions, don't know the whole story. There may be things that the person is leaving out which might play a huge role into how people answer the question.
Another part of the problem is that people are more willing to just jump into bed and then move on to the next sailor. If people would go back to there values and morals, then I think today's generation (teens to 20 something) need to slow down and think before jumping into bed. Romance is to be shared by two people who know each other so well, they can predict what the other will say. I will be happy to elaborate more on this subject and how I view it, but it is just my personal opinion.

Answer 2

People aren't taught how to be romantic! I think it is still out there, I am 25, been married for 3 years next week. We have been together for 6 years now and have a very romantic marriage. The only thing with us, we don't show affection in public. We hold hands very seldomly in public and never kiss around other people.

It is very obvious that we are affectionate though, we laugh and play around a lot (especially in the grocery store for some reason).

People are still romantic, just in different way. We text message each other quite a bit. Silly things about how much we love each other. Or leave notes on the fridge (like the song, "You are my sunshine"). There is just a time and a place for things like that, and in public isn't the place. There are so many people out there that want to be loved and don't have anyone to share things with, why do I want to rub in their faces how happy I am.

I am secure enough in my relationship to not have to go over the top. We love each other, and don't need to prove that to anyone other than each other!

Answer 3

No, your not. The young have misguided ideas on how to have a good relationship. To many kids are moving in with each other and not making a commitment to each other. To many have the idea that if this doesn't work out, then I'll get a divorce and get another, in the mean time inocent kids are brought into this world and a vicious cycle starts all over again. The idea of dating is to get to know the person, and learn to accept the little things that rub you the wrong way, because you love that person and want to be there with them for ever and ever. well so much for that, I'm going to get a soda.

Answer 4

You have a very good point. It really makes you question yourself. I would love to be able to hold hands in public and hug one another at anytime. I think everyone makes life so complicated that it makes everything stressful which in turn effects your relationship with another person. But now that you point it out I hope to be a more loving person in my relationship and hope to pass the word on to my bf.. I do however think that as far as asking complete strangers questions you Willl get more of a feel for what people in general wil think of you situation. It seems to be easier coming from a stranger than the one you love. And gives you a heads up to how they might respond.. Thank you for asking this question.

Answer 5

Romance is Alive an Well!!
If Romance Had Died,The Industry of the Media,Entertainment
birth of babies,flower industry,an many more such entities
would not Continue to flourish. Romance is an Awakening of
the sense of two,PPL. To flourish,enjoyment of each other
without feeling guilty of Ones action,Emotional growth,Child-
Like Behavior,Exploring,Discovering,Being One with Nature,
Hope,Love,Sometimes Lust,Understanding,Trust,Honesty,
Passion,Self-Worth,Doing things Together,an Many more
Exciting things Come from Romance!!
Well the part of not asking your mate ,is at times 'Trust',
thinking that once mate might laugh at you(not You) Bcause
of their lack of understanding each other,Not being Straight
with ones Mate. At Times Our Mates Don't Have All the
"Answers to Our Trouble Questions We might have",
Plus it's Human nature to seek out the information that One
is Searching for.
The other Part I See Many Couples being Couples,holding
hands,hugging in Public,laughing,enjoying each others
Company,,Look Around You'll Find them,,,And "YES', there
are places You won't find them,,,Or they as a Couple Don't
Hug,Kiss or Hold hands in Public,,,Either cause they
might have a 'Religious or Traditional Factor ' in Their
Bringing Up with in their families. Or Simply They Them-
selves are afraid or Fear of what People would say To
Them. Some are Personal an Physcological Factors as well!

Answer 6

I don't know about anyone else, but my boyfriend and I still hold hands, hug and sometimes steal little kisses in public. I am an old fashion kind of gal and I really like that kind of stuff...I will make it a point to always have that in our relationship...no matter is we are 40 or 80!

Answer 7

no you are not the only one who feels that way i just turned 21 yesterday and i am still trying to get over a 3 year relationship it is just that some people worry about what some people will say if they are seen around town hugging or holding hands my opinion if you love someone you shouldn't care what other people think cause it turns out that they are probably just jealous

Answer 8

i have to admit that I hold onto my honey every chance I get. He calls me his "vine"...lol! I think the problem with couples now is they don't communicate or they have forgotten how to communicate. I think communication is key for any type of relationship. People are looking for a "quick fix" to problems and not facing the facts that what they need to do to fix the problems is communicate with each other and not their friends, family or co-workers...but with their mate instead. I have seen some couples holding hands and kissing in public...me, I think it helps the other person know that they are loved and wanted.

Answer 9

I blame the advent of the remote. That made us lazy. Then came cable. That made us realize that being ourselves isn't as glamorous or interesting as we'd hoped, and no one would care about the real "us". Then came the internet. That made us less interested in person-to-person contact. Then came the cell phone. That made us restrict communication to sound-bites.

Romance doesn't flourish in a society interested in movie-trailer'ing every relationship it engages in. It's unfortunate, but I am ever hopeful that people like you and me continue to fight against the languishing "body politic" and the pervasive social ennui that's taking over our more basic human interactions.

Answer 10

I'm afraid romance has died. I am 26 and its depressing me too. I met someone who was wonderful and romantic, told me how beautiful I was all the time, kissed the back of my neck while I was cooking, rubbed my legs, rubbed my feet, complimented me continuously and treated me like gold. I tried to treat him just the same but then he left me. So I don't know what to tell you. I have never met anyone like him before and I will probably never meet anyone like him again. But romance is under rated.