I am 18 and almost 7 months , should i move in with my boyfriend and his parents or stay home.. His mom has 5 kids of her own that live there and i dont think the baby needs to be around all of that as soon as she's born.. What should i do.,My parents want me to stay with them but i am so confused.
2007-10-24 06:58:42 · 24 answers · asked by teenage mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ideally you and your new baby need a home of your own, but if you can't for what ever reason, then please stay put. I know how hard it is to live with someone else, especially in-laws. The house is already crowded and your little one and you don't need all the stress. You are still so young, your own mother will be a big help to you, and you trust your own mum more than anyone else. If your boyfriend is trying to talk you into moving and you really don't want to, stand your ground. Just because you aren't living with him, doesn't mean you will never see him again. Suggest he get a job or a higher paying one and get the three of you a little love nest of your own. Congrats on the baby, I wan a young mother too and now I have six children, two in college, three in High School, and the baby is in third grade. Family life can be stressful, but so much worth the effort!
2007-10-24 07:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by checkthisout! 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, I would stay with your parents. They will be able to help and guide you so much more than your boyfriend will. He'll still be around, it's not like he'll never be there. But it's always nice to have the support of your mother, especially in those first few weeks. No doubt some nights you'll be frustrated and not sure how to handle a crying baby, and if your mom has had so many babies before, she'll be able to help you so much. Another thing is that you're gifted that your parents do want you to stay with them. A lot of parents would have told their daughter that if she's old enough to have a baby, she's old enough to get out on her own... But your parents *want* you there with them. Take advantage of their support, at least for the first few months until you get the hang of things.
2007-10-24 07:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by prestigieuxlavie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely stay with your parents. If you bring a newborn into a home with 5 other kids, you have to make sure they all wash their hands before they touch the baby and what not because the newborn does not need to get sick. Also, I'm sure that house gets noisy with so many people living there.
You know you would be much more comfortable at your parents house so stay there for now and your boyfriend can always come see you and stay with you sometimes (depending on your parent's feelings on that).
Also, I'm sure your mom will be very willing to help you with the baby anytime you need and since she has had children she will be able to teach you anything you need to know.
Good luck and congratulations!
2007-10-24 07:04:39 · answer #3 · answered by Madison 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your parents have your best interest at heart. I personally would not want to live with 5 other kids in the house. Ho
Just remember when you are under her roof. You have to follow her rules. Can you live with her making the rules. You already know what your parents expect of you.
And it doesn't sound like your boyfriend is in any position to help you. If there is a disagreement, will he take your side or mom's. And since she is paying the bills and he is needing somewhere to stay, doesn't sound like he can take any body's side but hers.
These are just a few things to think about. I would stay where I am and thank mom and dad for all of their support.
2007-10-24 07:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to move in with your boyfriend..You are 20 and have a baby you should be able to make you own decisions now. I would say your boyfriend is holding off on marrying you because he wants to see if your always going to go with your moms opinion or not! He doesn't want to marry your mom he wants to marry you!! Your exactly right, your baby does need his daddy, his dad is a very important person/role model, in his life. I wonder if your mom would still want you there with her when the baby is about 2 or 3 ..i think it would a compleatly different story. I'd say your mom just loves having that little baby around..when i'm sure his daddy hates the fact that he's gone..This is just my opinion and i wish you the best of luck with everything dear :) You need to do the best for you because in the long run that is whats best for your baby!
2016-05-25 12:41:45 · answer #5 · answered by janene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right. I would stay with my parents and have them help. You will need all the help and support you can get. I'm sure your boyfriends mom is great but sounds like she has her hands full. The baby will need an environment that is safe and germ free.Stay with your parents for a little bit and see how it goes.. You can always stay over your boyfriends place now and then just to see how things would be.
2007-10-24 07:30:55 · answer #6 · answered by Shy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would probably be better to stay with your parents for awhile. The first few months after having a baby are incredibly exhausting, and you'll be glad of all the help you can get.
Once you're able to manage, you should both move out of your parent's homes into your own home.
2007-10-24 07:17:44 · answer #7 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents want you to stay with them, I say that is more suitable for you and your baby when she arrives. If you were to live with your boyfriend and his parents, and the other kids that environment might be a bit too loud, to crowded for you and your baby. When your newborn arrives, you will need some assistance, and living with your parents getting their help is more appropriate. Are your parents comfortable with your boyfriend moving in? That would be a better option.
2007-10-24 07:07:14 · answer #8 · answered by Flower 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stay with your parents. I had my daughter when I was 18 and I stayed with my parents. I got a job, continued my education and it worked out well for all of us. His mother has her hands full with her kids, staying with your parents will give you and your baby more opportunities to improve your life and situation.
2007-10-24 07:40:57 · answer #9 · answered by ophirhodji 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with you parents. You are going to need the help of a mother. I stayed with my mother until the day I got married. She help me so much with the baby. She help me learn how to be a good mother and also gave me time to date so I could make sure I wanted to marry the father. Sometimes we try to live life to fast. I'm sure your going to do what is best for the baby and you. Remember your parents love you and want the best for you and the baby.
2007-10-24 07:10:30 · answer #10 · answered by LDJ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋