Would you offer the signs, through your own experience's details, how, in a love situation, you have SENSED the discovery that your feeling were being used.
And what was your reaction.
And how long did it take you to realize, that, whether your heart was engaged, no matter how long, your choice from reason was to cut off from the involvement : COLD TURKEY?
I would truly appreciate answers from those who have experienced this kind of quite common betrayal.
Thank you! Grecia.
2007-10-24 06:45:41 · 9 answers · asked by skydancerwi 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hello, this is Onist. I went through this about 3yrs ago. The sign are somewhat complicated. We're all different but signs are more felt than seen.
The communication breaks down, you'll see certain expression on their face that appears to be disgust for a topic that you see as just normal communication.
Ever thought they like something, you were certain of it, but when you presented it to them they were disinterested.
Many sign are hard to explain because they're perceptions, but the reason and further explanations for your questions can be found at http://www.onistsense.com.
There you will find what you're looking for. GOOD LUCK
2007-10-24 07:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by onist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was very stupid as a young person and was always having my heart broken because I was too good hearted and that was taken for weakness.
I finally realized as I grew older that you have to teach people how to treat you. The women who had the most success with men were, what I would call, true bitches. It seems men like the challenge. What you have to realize is that you might as well learn to quit cold turkey because you don't have the person's affection in the first place.
If you are comfortable with what's going on, continue the relationship for your own reasons. When it starts to hurt or is no longer comfortable, drop it. He who breaks up first wins.
Never, never bring children into the world in an attempt to hold a man or even for your own selfish reasons. Little children deserve a loving 2 parent home. Not to be subject to the results of some little game his or her parents were playing with each other.
2007-10-24 07:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by darkdiva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is only mental attachment or from heart for both the partners. Sometimes it is very difficult to accept the truth when heart finds out the betrayal as it can communicate with the other's heart and says not to proceed further, but your mind / emotion over rules the heart and lands up in the problem. I understand it is a very hard decision to say " NO " unless its too late.
2007-10-24 06:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by TARBA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I can speak on behalf of every human being, that we've ALL had heartaches, the knowing of being used when we kids in our first real relationship, first love etc...is devastating, we feel an emptiness that just can not be replaced, we deny the fact that these people whom we love and they claim to love us back can hurt us by lying, cheating and taking advantage of our generosity, the love we give to the other, we make excuses. Then we grow older and learn that love grows as we do, we learn to pick up on these things, the feeling of being used, we each deal with it differently. I personally give warnings to shape up or ship out. I still once in awhile give chances to those who deserve a second chance. Why stay with someone who uses someone as a doormatt?
2007-10-24 07:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by sunfire1165 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was a girl who I actually told that I have been betrayed so many times and it would take a while for me to warm up. Well she stuck around and talked with me until I finally opened up to her. We were totally into each other, planning on marriage and kids. After a while I started to see signs of her cheating on me. and she kept asking for money and then falling off the Earth for a week. I broke it off so suddenly that she had all of her friends call me to find out in different ways what tipped me off. I didnt say a word to them. Now just lately (2 years since) I've seen her driving laps around my block.
2007-10-24 06:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by oneredeemer2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you know that your feelings were being used, you realise that you have loved a picture on the wall, not a person that exists. you realise that you have not loved a person (because that person doesnt exist, just someone that physically looks like the one you "loved"), you just needed love so much that you wanted to be the end of your need to give and receive love. you realise that you dont love that person, you have never did. you feel free and blessed to know that you can still love, regardless the nature of life - to kill our ability to love deeply and profoundly. Real person, not a picture on the wall. Open to love, it will come some day.
2007-10-24 06:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by radharani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut it off..COLD TURKEY. I have some experience here and it's a if not now then when..sort of issue. Trust me..better fish in the sea!
2007-10-24 06:50:56 · answer #7 · answered by jeneK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cold turkey, immediately.
2007-10-24 06:49:37 · answer #8 · answered by Christian Heavy Metal Bassist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you and your feelings are being used, don't wait to drop him. It can only get worse.
Sensing you are being used is not always easy. If you feel you are, then you probably are being used.
Reaction of course is hurt and sad.
2007-10-24 07:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by Alright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋