Family Services came to my home yesterday, asking about my Kids being home schooled. I've been home schooling ever since I had a few bad experiences with the school system where I live, and the mistreatment of my kids when they were in first and second grade also I have a terminally ILL child who has Ducheene's muscular Dystrophy and is a quadriplegic now, I don’t take drugs, I don’t drink, I’ve devoted my life to my kids, my husband and I do our up most best for our kids and, the only thing I can think of that’s not too good for the kids right now is they need to get into some classes like Piano lesson or karate to meet other kids, in week we will be moving to our new home and I will find classes for them In that area. The social workers were calling me by a name, only my in-laws call me, they wanted me to convert from catholic religion to LDS, Am I wrong in assuming they called Family services? What do I do?
2007-10-24 05:29:04 · 19 answers · asked by Rachel G 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
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2007-10-24 06:44:15 · update #1
First, stop worrying! It sounds like you have your children's best interest at heart. Social Services are required to investigate any complaint they receive--it doesn't mean there is any merit to the complaint. In all probablility, you will be cleared and declared a "fit home" and left alone. If it were me, I'd laughingly call my in-laws and tell them about the Social Service visit and how they said what a fine parent I am.
2007-10-24 05:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by sursumcorda 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's possible your in-laws did this but it doesn't really matter. The important part is making sure you are legally protected in case you get a jerk in Family Services who doesn't like homeschooling or something like that. Talk to a lawyer. And if they show up at your door again, don't let them in without a lawyer present. Probably most of the social workers in FS are great people but it's better not to take chances, social workers are human too, and they can have their own agendas. If it is your in-laws trying to cause trouble, Family Services will begin to ignore them after a few unsustantiated complaints.
2007-10-24 05:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by Rebeckah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no if only the in-laws call u by that thats just a dead give away! They have not right to do that. u seem to want to have the best for ur children...most parents could careless what happens at school atleast u understand there were problems at school and choose that homeschool was the best for them. and as far as religion goes God love u know matter what u are....and only u can choose what religion u want to be dont let them pressure u into something. so please tell me the move will mean ur moving far away from the trouble making in-laws!! Good luck in all u do for ur children i give u a rose for wanting the best for u children. and i give a big FU to the Family services and in-laws
2007-10-24 05:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by sherryberry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you live in Utah? i do, and have faced a lot of discrimination based on religion. More so than a lot of other places. Whenever dealing with Family Services, you should always get a lawyer. Although it does look bad, I have seen way to many overzealous case workers who try like crazy to take your kids in the false belief that everyone on earth is a bad parent. I think they get jaded by all the horrible things they have to deal with and start to see things that aren't there. You should always have legal help in dealing with anyone who has the authority to take your kids for any reason.
2007-10-24 05:42:20 · answer #4 · answered by Tresa R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am actually in a similar situation. I am a teenage mom and i was living with my mom and then i told her i was going to go stay at my dads house with my son in vegas and she freaked out. so i wake up to CPS at my door saying there are accusations from my mom that i am a drug addict and that i dont work and neglect my son. none of which was true. In fact i have 2 jobs. and even showing them all of this they treat me like a fugitive or something. and yet some people who really do those things get away without any questions asked. I am just doing everything cps asks and fully cooperating and showing them that none of that is true. so I would suggest you do the same and just ignore that it was even your family who called. That way when CPS is satisfied and out of your life you can show them physical evidence that even the state thinks you are a suitable parent and then they can never say anything about it again because you are the one who can say you have record that you are a good parent.
2007-10-24 10:34:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your husband fully support home-schooling the kids? Does he support your right to choose your own religion?
If so, it sounds like the big problem is getting your in-laws to mind their own business.
You have your kids' best interests at heart. While home-schooling might leave them lacking in some ways, it will enrich them in others. I think adding outside social, music, etc. classes will make a big difference.
As parents, you have the right to choose whether traditional school or homeschool is best for your kids. Your in-laws need to step off and it needs to be your husband to tell them first.
2007-10-24 05:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by ktkansas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Is what they called you your legal name? If so it would be in any of your records. Unless a report is file maliciously they cannot reveal who made the call. Someone called CPS on my husband when he and his first wife were married and since the claim was unfounded he was able to get the name of the person who called. It happened to be a neighbor that had been talking to him in the community laundry in their apartment building.
I am sorry to hear about your child's illness. Your family has enough going on without this added to it. There is nothing wrong with people homeschooling their children. 2 of my nieces are home schooled and they read several grade levels above their age. I would just bring up in general conversation to your in-laws that CPS was called on you and then mention what I posted above about malicious claims. That should get them to back off. They might try to get CPS to back off since it may jeopardize their relationship with their grandchildren.
2007-10-24 05:41:26 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point there isn't anything you can do. If all they were questioning you about was the home schooling, then I wouldn't stress. And so what AT THIS POINT that it was the in laws. IF(when) you see family services more often, then I would worry. And IF this were to go to court, whoever called family services would have to be there to testify. So then you would know who called Family Services on you
2007-10-24 05:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, do you live in Utah, and yes I think its very possible. My father in law is always trying to "save" my husband and I and our children. He even called my parents to let the know what a terrible mother I am. Nice huh. He just doesn't agree with our little family not going to church (LDS) and living a different lifestyle than he does. Good luck with that. Confronting them really wont do any good. Just continue to live your life and don't worry about DCFS, even when there is severe child abuse, they don't do anything. My husbands ex has abused their children more than once and DCFS had never once helped my husband and I protect those children.
2007-10-24 05:40:59 · answer #9 · answered by jenluvslife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
based off of what you have siad i think there is always the possibility that the in-laws called them, but don't blow the situation outta proportion since i could be wrong. for now jus leave it with how things are right now until they actually do something to try an take the kids from you...oh an i know this seems wierd for me to be giving advice since i'm not even legal yet but like they say looks can be desieving...so i'm not as stupid as my age says
2007-10-24 05:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by miclo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋