We were once together and i got pregnant, but i broke up with him. He wants me to get back with him for the baby and be a family, but i KNOW it won't work. And i don't want to let my baby get hurt.
2007-10-24 05:26:26 · 6 answers · asked by ambrekat 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Nah.
Why change tradition? Why demand tradition to cater to you, instead of you to it?
(IMO)
2007-10-24 05:30:01 · answer #1 · answered by perfectlybaked 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, there are all kinds of families out there. My daughter's dad freaked out when I was 3 months pregnant, we hadn't dated too long before I got pregnant. He stopped calling me and pretty much dissappeared. When he finally called again and apologozed, I told him that we had to figure out how we were gonna manage this -- obviously we weren't gonna be a couple. He agreed. Since then we have learned to be friends, not tight like best friends or anything, but always careful to treat each other kindly and most importantly, help each other out in raising our daughter. She lives with me and sees him once or twice a month. She sees his parents more often, and that's just the way things are. He pays child support and although he doesn't have a lot of time for her, he tries. He's a third-shift workaholic, so it's hard sometimes. But I absolutely knew that it wouldn't work out for us to be a couple and I went with my instinct. He's a decent guy, I supposse if I had pushed for it he would have married me and we'd both be miserable right now, with the wrong person. Our daughter is three now. She hasn't been hurt by not being in a house with both parents. She is very happy and doing fine. Remember, it is hard for kids to be in a house with two parents who really shouldn't be together and maybe fight about things a lot. Now I have found the right man for me, and both of my children have a father figure who is great for them, and my daughter also has a very good relationship with her daddy. If you know in your heart that it would not work, then you have to follow your gut instinct. A single mother can be enough family to her child if she stays strong and asks for help from friends and family. If the father cares, like it sounds, well then he will be around to be in your baby's life and that is wonderful too. Good luck.
2007-10-24 05:47:34 · answer #2 · answered by dandelionluvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are certain it won't work out then don't get back together. You will never be 100% commited to the relationship and you will all get hurt in the future. My advice is to stay good friends, work together in raising your child and be a happy, healthy family that is together, but not together. Good friends are always healther for a child than a couple that lives together but argues all the time. Explain your situation to your ex in a nice way and keep him involved in the pregnancy so that he sees that he is not going to be left out. He is probably worried that he is going to be sidelined from his baby's life. Good luck with your pregnancy and all the best for your future.
2007-10-24 05:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by TimTam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you can agree on major parenting issues and don't put your child in the middle of any nastiness between you it can work out fine. I have seen divorced couples that are better friends than spouses and their kids benefited from it.
2007-10-24 05:32:33 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you can both do that without one person getting hurt, or being jealousy, DO IT! I think its a great idea. I think its great you are willing to try and have a friendship rather that give up all together.
2007-10-24 05:31:11 · answer #5 · answered by LoLo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup
2007-10-28 05:02:39 · answer #6 · answered by chicatita5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋