I'm 24, finished my degree, got a good one and even did a post graduate qualification. I got into a lot of debt with my studies, and now I can't seem to find a job. I am living with my parents but they have given me three weeks to move out. I can't get a house because I still owe rent from my last one, and have no one to guarantee me. I have no idea what to do, and the thought of ending my life as the easiest option just keeps popping into my head. I don't want to be a burden to anyone, but I don't want to hurt anyone by killing myself either. But I don't want to live on the streets, I wouldn't have a clue how to survive like that. Eliminating myself seems like the best thing to do...I can't rely on friends to stay with as it doesn't seem fair. I can't cope with being an adult. How do I cope, what do I do?
2007-10-24 04:22:00 · 18 answers · asked by Katrina W 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Come on! Being adult is not easy, you will be alright! When I arrived to UK, I had nothing except my M.A.degree nobody seemed to appreciate here! I just took the first job I could even though I hated it so much! And found a roomshare for the beginning. I was 29. It was terrible, I had to fight through the life a lot but now I am alright and happiiii!!!!
Soon you will find something!
I am sure your parents dont REALLY mean it! They just want you to start fighting for yourself, because life is just NOT easy. You will be alright, there are much worse things around! Be happy that you are healthy, that you are great because you achieved your post gradate qualification = hey, thats very good! And you are 24 = your OWN life is just beginning! Life, when nobody is gonna tell you what to do, when to be back home from parties, who to go out with. You are the one to decide! Freedooooom! Hooray! Celebrate! Get the cute man down the pub to buy u a drink and then, go look for a job! Show those bastards at job agencies that you are brilliant, make them angry and jealous! OK? You can do it! It works! Life will make you survive!
2007-10-24 06:10:41 · answer #1 · answered by Chickoon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey don't worry, you have to relax and think that everything happens for a reason. You should never considered that, it shouldn't even be an option. Life always has it's ups and downs and sometime more downs than ups. Life is great if you make it that way, and life can be a living hell if you want it to be that way too. You are only 24 and you should be full of life, just make some time to think things through but don't over do it because thinking to much or over thinking will only make it worst. Just arrange your self and take things slow, drepression only make things worst. Always keep your head up high and pick up your face from the groud, your face doen't belong there, always look at the possitive thing life has to offer. You alive is a gift and you should charish it and take care of it. I have gone through some serious cases too, but honestly feeling bad, depress, and alone got me no where, you just have to get in your head that you are worth more than what you think, if you didn't matter to anyone, strangers woudln't be writting to you to help you out. Just remember that there is a supperior being who loves you and that not everything is color pink it come in all colors and shapes, also remember that the after the storm the sun will shine to it fullest in other words you have to walk though the storm to find the clear most shiniest path you have ever been on. Don't worry, everything will be o.k everything will fall into place like a big puzzle. YOu are young and with lots of wonderfull years in front of you. I know i can't do much but i'll pray for you. Don't worry everything will be o.k just keep your head up hight.
2007-10-24 12:28:00 · answer #2 · answered by Candyapple 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Understand that life is full of ups and downs. Right now, you are in a down phase and hence depressed. As someone said, think about the millions of people who are in a worser condition than you are and be thankful of what you have. You have parents that love you and a post graduate education that will help you sooner or later. There are lots of people without either. Most people just out of college have debt, some more than others. Your parents likely want you to move out just so you get your act together and step into reality. You can always find a friend or relative to move in with for a short while. Your difficulty with finding your first job is not atypical. Keep applying for jobs. Network with your friends, relatives, professors, placement department in college. You never know when/how you'll breakthrough. Meanwhile, take any job -- no job is too small. Talk to some counselors, friends, relatives about your depression. Spend time volunteering and helping others who have it worse than you do. I'd also recommend spending some time with babies and toddlers -- this can be very nurturing and uplifting for your spirit. It will also help you see the big picture. Good luck.
2007-10-24 11:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by Vic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax. Look for a job that you have wanted to do when you were growing up or just think about something that you enjoy doing. You have a degree, so it would be easier to get a good Job. Buy an apartment, a house, a car, anything to make a start with your life. You have years ahead of you, you're only 24. Maybe you want kids, grandchildren, get married, or be single forever. You have to see it as a opportunity to start again and not be independent for once. Do what you want to do. You said you didn't want to hurt the people you care about. And don't feel like a burden, because you're not. You can do something for the world and you can do something for yourself.
Good luck.
2007-10-24 11:38:17 · answer #4 · answered by Izzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got a good degree and now you want to kill yourself? What a waste of a good brain. Calm down and use that grey matter between your ears. You've obviously outstayed your welcome with your parents. You must be a really horrible lodger if they want to chuck you out. I wonder if it's it because they've been subsidising you all through college and helping out with your debts and have finally come to the end of their tether because you don't do anything to help yourself? If this is the case, can you really blame them? I suggest you contact the YMCA. They'll help you sort yourself out or at least tell you how to. They have a counselling service and can probably help you with some short-term accommodation - but it won't be free. they won't let you leech off them. Instead of whinging about your circumstances, go out and get yourself one of the plenty of menial jobs that are out there. You could do one for the time being to pay your way at the YMCA. Women with kids do it all the time. They are far more practical than men and although these jobs don't pay much they'll give you a bit of self esteem which you appear to be lacking at the moment. It'll do you good to learn how the other half live for a little while so you can really appreciate it when you get the wonderful job you are so obviously looking for and which you are capable of doing. I knew someone like you once. He was made redundant from a senior managerial position and felt that anything else was beneath him. He wouldn't look at anything offered at the job centre because the jobs were 'below' him. He lived off his wife until she got sick of him being a sponge and he lost respect from most people around him. Don't be like that.
2007-10-24 11:40:14 · answer #5 · answered by chris n 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Katrina, your life is a very special thing. Its easy to become depressed in those situations, but suicide is NEVER the solution. You were smart enough to get through school. I bet theres someone out there who is willing to give you a helping hand. Consider your options, and call a hotline if you ever feel that down again. Theres always someone on the other end of the line who will listen and give free advice.
You have a great future ahead of you...you just have to get through this rough period to get there. Keep your chin up and think positive. Your somebody. The world needs you.
2007-10-24 11:32:15 · answer #6 · answered by HarleyD 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Frankly your parents sound selfish. Your main problem is debt, why cant you take any job for now just to pay off some debt and no parents can be so cruel to see their child on the streets, is there a friends house you can doss at until you sort yourself out? Or go to the council, see if you can get temporary housing.
2007-10-24 11:28:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
honey dont do that to ur family. money isnt everything and things will work out. bill collectors cant get money u dont have so just relax. U will find a job and get on ur feet. u wont only be killing urself u'll be killing ur mom and dad. i would die if i lost my son!! i get down over bills too i'm a single parent with a dead beat dad who dont pay. life is tuff but that only makes us stonger. have u thought about takin depressants? honey these will help and take that weight off ur back. REMEMBER GOD NEVER GIVES US MORE THEN WE CAN HANDLE!! i'm here for u if u need to talk
2007-10-24 11:38:10 · answer #8 · answered by sherryberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no reason why you can't get a job, especially if your smart enough to get a degree, so maybe you should concentrate on getting ANY job for the moment even if its not what you want to do, just to get some money together.
Do your parents know your situation?
Maybe you should go to advice bureau or something see if your entitled to housing benifits??
Don't end your life, that is soooo selfish!
2007-10-24 11:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by Kate O 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey, everything is going to work out, trust me, becoming an adult intimidates everyone, but you'll overcome the hardest part, but one thing to remember, dont cow to life, make it cow to you, you make your life do what u want, you will find a job, killing yourself wont solve anything, dont do it, think about how beautiful the world is, and how many wonderful ppl are in your life,
dont you know about jesus? who died to save you? he loves you more than anyone, and he does not want you to kill yourself, never give up never ever ever give up. Look harder for a job, be a waitress for goodness sakes, it'll make some money, and you;ll stay off the street . Read your bible, and trust god with your life.
Life is what you make it, remember that.
-a person rooting for you
2007-10-24 11:28:58 · answer #10 · answered by Let_it_go 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋